Do something engaging that you know it will take time to finish. I started reading Ready player one last week and so far I read around 300 pages. I also started doing "one SciFi movie per day" kinda thing, and so far I watched: blade runner, RoboCop, cube, soylent green, wargames and edge of tomorrow. I'm watching demolition man today. Been feeling a bit down because I moved to a common house (in another province) and I have nothing in common with my roommates, so we don't really get along (though we all respect each other and all that), and the introductory course of the university is boring as hell, so movies and books are a great way to pass the time (besides videogames, obviously).
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Since I've been unemployed for over a year and without internet access for over 5 months now, trust me, I've read everything I had and watched all the movies and series I downloaded prior to my web-backout several times over. xD
I'm so sorry to hear about your situation, it must be hard having to spend that much time with peopple you can't truly relax around.
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There are so many obscure movies and books that I find it hard to believe that you watched everything! Did you watch the book I mentioned? Or the movies?
The good thing is that I rented a two persons room and so far my roommate hasn't showed up, so I lock myself in there.
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I downloaded prior to my web-backout
I can't download anything and haven't been able to for the past 5 months so I'm stuck with just what I already have
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I misread, sorry >.< Books are really light, are you sure you can't download one or two?
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Can't risk using up all of my mom's bandwidth so I'm keeping everything to a minimum. I know she wouldn't really mind but I'd just feel horrible.
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Maybe go to a cafe and buy the cheapest thing just to use the internet?
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Oh I'm not that low on cash to have to buy the cheapest thing or anything like that. I mean, I'm not flushed but it's just that I'm supposed to move (and have been supposed to have already moved for the past 5 months) and I don't want to pay extra to have my connection connected again since, when I was first supposed to move, I cancelled everyting (including my phone line) and it'd be a waste of money to have it all connected again just because little miss Luxy wants to have her web back. I'm spoiled, but not that spoiled :)
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Well, the action itself would make you spend sometime, and you could invite your mum or something along those lines.
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Listen to music
find a lazy cook or chef to wake them up
play games to vex some anger
read a book
go for swim
cook something
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there ARE studies that says that buying stuffs makes people happy, so i don't see why not.
when im down i play a bunch of different games then cry till i fall asleep :p
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dc01V_mygzg
But seriously, I just go to sleep. Usually I wake up feeling much better.
I hear singing helps too.
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Sadly, singing isn't an option because I have paper-thin walls. Sleeping it is then :D
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Doing some sort of physical activity actually help the mood, also watching movies or something can't hurt :)
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Sorry to hear about your employment situation, it sounds really tough. But if you can stick it out for one year, will your future be a lot better?
Considering how important education is in the world, it really sucks that teachers are often underpaid and overworked.
Cuddling with my kitty or walking my dog cheer me up when I'm down. Or giving things away on steamgifts :P
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Not really since my chances of getting a job in my field increase by, so only in relation to current situatiion, not in general, 10%. And considering that I don't have any connection they'll be, in general at about 2% xD
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When I'm feeling down (pretty much constantly lately, again...), I watch anime, try to play games, or try to sleep... I say try because with games I often have a hard time even getting enough motivation to play. And with sleep, well, it usually takes me forever to fall asleep, so I often just end up lying around for hours on end (sometimes go back to watching anime), but when I can fall asleep, I can usually stay asleep for a while...
Umm... I think I had something else I was going to say, but I forgot...
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It's often very hard for me to get the motivation to turn a game on. When I'm down everything annoys me and I'd be happiest if I could just tune the world out. But then I get bored and even more grumpy... xD
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I distract my self by doing other things until I can't take it and break down and cry or I fall asleep. It's kinda helpful when I need to get something cleaned up.
Also you aren't on my whitelist anymore. I thought I did a good job of reading people after I purged it. I guess I can fix that now.
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I'm sorry if I disappointed you in some way to get removed from your whitelist, but I understand if my complaining made you think of me as spoiled or something like that. I often think the same thing of myself when I get in this mood but I just can't help it sometimes. I know this is not, by far, the worst thing that can happen to a person and that I do have it pretty good by even being able to get any job, it's just that I'm surrounded by people who are connected and don't have issues finding a job so I get jealous and sad.
It's insulting and not nice to anyone who's reading this and has it worse than I do, I know. I guess I was a bit too self-involved when I created this topic, I just wanted to get it all out.
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What I meant by that is that you were not on my whitelist because I forgot to re-add you after I wiped my whitelist even though you should be there, but I fixed that by adding you now. And don't feel like your problems aren't worth mentioning. I complain about far less things and way more often here on sg so I understand that posting about it here can help. It feels good to let it out.
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Oh, I'm happy that I just misunderstood you. I was afraid I hurt your feelings by complaining about this. And after thinking about it, I can understand if someone resents me for talking about it. But, it's always our problems that hurt us the most and that appear to be the biggest. It's sometimes hard to rise above that.
This forum is basically a "safe place" for me to vent because you never know when someone can hear you if you talk about it in RL and what problems it could cause. Paranoid much? Maybe xD
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I usually listen to my playlist till i fall asleep
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i have a question. i know that you get paid very well when you are an (assistant) accountant. so you mean you work as an assistant accountant this means working in the finance with numbers.. nothing to do with your English degree.. am i right?
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Yup, I'll be spending most of my time in the school's accounting office instead with an English teacher (my mentor).
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hm so the ''assistant accountant'' get paid very low in your country.. thats a bummer. because when i look on google for assistant accountant, i find everywhere the avarage salary which is not bad at all. how come it is so paid less in your country?
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No, you misunderstood something. I'm getting an internship for an English teacher's position. I'll get paid for doing that. Besides doing that I'll also be working in the school's accounting office (and no one can know about that because I'm actually supposed to be working ONLY as an English language intern) and not getting paid for that.
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oh damn i understand it now! it was a bit strange because i read accountant earns pretty good. so thats why i was lik huh.. but thats pretty weird that you do an internship for English teacher while you also do the other work.. they just want some assistant aka slavery like you said.. BUT hope you can manage to do what you want at the end!
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It's actually almost normal for this to happen to people who get accepted as inters. They. very often, end up doing every odd job the employer needs to be taken care of... Anyone else from Crotia would probably look at me weird for even talking about this like it's not an everyday occurrence, but I just can't stand this crap...
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Hey it will be fine! just a bit of that shit and after a while you will be teaching english!
and for us internship is also doing every other job but in the same sector, like internship finance stay with finance people. they wont go to commercial or something like that. when im done with my study i will be old :/ and need to do internship as well
just stay positive! put a smile on your face and keep having fun :)
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It's supposed to be the same for us, it's just that there's a chance for them to use me in the accounting office so they'll do it.
Hey, I'm a couple of months away from being 30, don't you call me old! xD
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The situation in our country is pretty terrible, been like this for years. There's a huge amount of unemployed people with people losing jobs every day. So now the employers take advantage of that, because there's a huge amount of people desperate for a job and not a lot of jobs available they make people do more than just what they're hired for and they pay them minimum wage.
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I said "our country" in my comment because I am from the same country as you.
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Hahahah, sorry, I didn't really get that. Well, thank you for showing understanding to me, especially since you're in the same situation and could have easily said I'm making a big deal out of something everyone here has to deal with.
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People should complain about this kind of things. The situation in our country is pathetic and part of the reason why this happened is due to "that's just the way things are so we better suck it up and endure until things get better" attitude of our people.
We need changes, serious changes. However our people are dumb and passive and our politicians are childish, irresponsible idiots who spend most of their time arguing each other instead of doing something productive.
I love how our people constantly blame politicians for the situation in our country, not realizing that the equal amount of blame goes to them for picking those politicians in the first place and for allowing the said politicians to constantly make bad decisions.
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So telll me, what do you do when you're feeling down?
First of all
*tell
Sorry I had to xD
Hmm for me
- Watch something funny, like comedy
- Play your favorite game or fun multiplayer game with friends
- Tease your friends to fullfill your dream xD
Well, 300€ is pretty valuable in my country
But assuming you everything cost more in your country so yeah
Maybe, just maybe these smiles can brightened your day
Because smiles are contagious and good for your mental health xD
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If you want, we can talk on steam. But knows that I generally speak a lot lol.
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I'm too sleepy to be able to hold a normal conversation, all these suggestions about going to sleep must have worked really well on me but thank you so much for offering <3
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I always stay animated when I listen house/dance music.
If you like this type of music, can be awesome to your humor.
Give a try:
Alors on danse - Stromae
Papaoutai - Stromae
Loca People - Sak Noel
Be Free - Radio Killer
If you like, I can share my playlist!
Hope you feel better!
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Ok, just so you know, I'm very biased against house/dance and I had to tell myself "Luxy, it'd be so impolite not to give it a try after LoveSick went through the effort of linking it for you". So I gave it a go...
I freaking can't believe this! This is GOOD! I expected it to be some sort of nonsensical rythm, bass bagning at my skull and stuff like that but this is actually MUSIC!
The first two I enjoyed, the third one I cnnot open because it's blocked for my country and the fourth one isn't my style, but from now on I promise not to roll my eyes when someone says house or dance :D
Thank you!
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Not very helpful, but I stay in isolation for a couple of days, and that works for me.
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I do the same thing. It takes time for me to gather the courage and deal with the problem xD
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I think that doing positive things-- whether for yourself or for others-- helps one's mood. Whether it's learning something new, trying something you've always wanted to try, or helping other people (volunteering, etc.)...And you never know what you might stumble upon as far as a new opportunity, a new friend, or a new professional contact. Help people with their English...teach somebody to knit...volunteer in your community...join a choir! =)
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I give English lessons for free to kids who want to learn all the time. I love it, but people get suspicious when you offer it for free. I even charged 25kn/hr (like 3€, the normal rate is 6€) and I had people calling to see what's the catch or what am I up to for doing it for so cheap... -.-'
If you don't charge people they just think you're no good 99% of the time.
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Oh I know but it's the one thing that I know I have to get out of bed for and, since advertising if you down't own a company here is illegal, it's the only thing I can do.
Yup, I live in a big city.
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I'm currently helping a friend of a friend prepare fot an IELTS exam. Sadly, she can't afford to pay me and I don't have the heart to tell her I won't help her. I usually LOVE teaching anyone but this girl... She's one of those people who is always late and then won't leave!
We had a session set from 2 till 4pm. She came at 2.20, ate a doughnut for 20min (meaning she couldn't do any work), smoked a cigarette and talked for another 10 (because she needed to get in the groove for learning) and then was ready to begin. We finished at 5pm, and she kept on staying saying "I'll just smoke his one last cigar and leave" till 6.45pm.
Screw me even though I told her I was hungry, tired and had to take my dog (who came begging every 2 mins since 5pm) for a walk, right?
Ehhh... Some people...
I know you mean well, and that's great advice but the thing is there's no way for me to find those people or for them to find me since I can't advertise.
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I'm sure you're right and I'll try to do it. I called a friend of ours who's much closer to her and to whose house she went after our lesson and she told her that she's so thrilled by me and she loved to spend her time with me very much. Now I almost feel bad about bitching about her... xD
The thing is, the girl clearly needs outside affirmation which I can't give her since the things she says are just... Below any level of normal womenly behaviour.
She talked about a guy who she used to date, how he mistreated her and how she broke it off. Then, she continued to talk about how she kept on sleeping with him because... I don't know. And I'm supposed to say that that's mature behaviour and that it shows she's clearly learned not to be anyone's doormat? I just can't. Seeing women act like that and then ask for my approval drains all the energy I have.
I could advertise if I registered but the thing is, you pay the base taxes no matter the profit you make and I cannot be sure I'd be able to make enough to pay those.
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Sadly, she can't afford to pay me and I don't have the heart to tell her I won't help her.
If she can't pay you with cash, there's always other things that can be done to repay the favour. When i was a full time student, I helped two friends (on different occasions) to pass their math courses that they needed in order to get accepted at their universities, and instead of asking for money, I got food and a few other things I needed (I did not have to teach for food, but every € saved helps when you're a fully time student who can't ask your parents for money). Sure, compared to what I could have got if I did it "officially" it was nothing, but they were friends so I could not ask for too much, and they were not exactly rich at those points in time either (I think the going rate for a home teacher like this is about 20-25€/hour over here)
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Ok, I NEED to move to your country... The rates are 6€ per hour here... xD
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Salaries are quite high here, but so is the cost of living :( (Still, I guess private teachers have it a bit better off here, all things considered). I don't know for how long home teaching will be popular though. It got really popular a few years ago among more well to do families, but prices were kept down due to a loophole in the tax system. I would be surprised if it stays like that.
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Well the cost of living is high here while the salaries are low xD
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The cost of living in Zagreb is roughly 50% of the cost of living in Stockholm, though the average salary is roughly 72% lower. Source.
The comparison don't look at luxury goods though, which usually favour high salary countries, as we tend to pay roughly the same amount for it.
(Picked Zagreb for the comparison as it was the closest city in terms of size & population density in Croatia that I know of)
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It says I'd need 38000kr to maintain the same standard of life as you would in Zagreb with 31251.59kn.
31251.59kn is about 12.5 times more than I will make hahahhahahahahahah!
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38 000 SEK is a really good salary over here (I don't make nearly that amount of money). Most people will make something in the realm of 20 000-25 000 sek/month,
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I know only one person who makes 15 000kn (an officer on a foreign ship) and I'm pretty sure only the people in the government and very high-up company directors make 30 000kn or more (and ship captains, but that's a different thing) xD
As for people who I know/heard of that work in Croatia, I've only heard of one person (a friend of a friend) that makes 15 000kn.
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If we take cost of living into account (things being half the price of what they are in Stockholm), then 15 000 kn in Zagreb would be equivalent to roughly 30 000 kn in Stockholm. I do by the way not know anyone who make more than 30 000 SEK (though I know people who make close to 30 000 SEK). If I were to stop working for the government and go into the private sector, then I would probably be able to make that much money after ~2-3 years with my education, but that's with an engineering degree
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Ouch, that sucks. ): Hope things aren't as bad as you thought when you finally start.
When I'm feeling down, I hug my cat and pester her until she gets annoyed at me. Sometimes I think she hates me. :P
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Yeah, I hope I'm overreacting too. But, whatever the case, it'll do me good to get out of the house a bit. Or so I keep telling myself xD
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I found this song a few hours ago, might help you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OPf0YbXqDm0.
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There's a saying in Croatia that translates to something like: clutter-free house, clutter free mind
You're doing it right! :D
I's just so haaaarrd to do it when you're feeling "meh".
I admire your strenght of will
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Ehh I know but today is the first official day of me feeling like this so I just hide from the problem. I'll certainly try to do it tomorrow :D
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I am feeling down all the time so I can't really say much =x
My (work?) life isn't any good either...
I guess I shouldn't be posting if I don't really have a proper.. uh.. answer.
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Shaing seems to help, at least a bit. Don't you think so?
It's not about giving a "proper" answer, it's about showing you care. At least that's how it's always for me in any non-business related conversation.
Thank you for caring enough to answer :)
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Sleeeeep.
And playing SP games.
Because i am depressed for over last 7 years and this two things is the best, i do in my life.
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Yeah, my main problem is that I don't have any responsibilities so I have as much time as I want to spend on focusing on my own needs and desires. Not the best situation ever and often leads to extreme lazyness. Like right now- I'm starving but I'm too lazy to get up and make something to eat. I got up to feed my dog and do other stuff that needed to be done for others, but getting up to do things for myself is just too much work xD
Your advice is awesome since I get overly self-involved and feel down when I'm alone in my flat too much, but that only leads to a stronger desire to stay like that. A vicious circle that can only be broken by taking your advice- getting my ass out of the flat :)
As for your very kind words on my right to feel whatever I feel, I know you're right but it's hard to allow yourself to feel certain things when you know others have it much worse. And I'm not talking about children starving on another continent, I'm talking about people who are right now digging in garbage cans in front of my building.
To be honest, my life is pretty amazing. I have awesome friends, an amazing mother, an uncle one could only wish for and a dog I love with all my heart. I also have a free roof over my head (my grandma lets me live in her 120m square apartment in the center of town that she could otherwise rent out and get a nice amount for, while she lives in a small village in a rundown house and refuses any financial help that I offer her because "You need it more, sweetheart" no matter who actually needs it more), food to eat and the knowledge that I just need to say a word to have any of the people I mentioned before to sacrifice their comfort for my benefit.
I always try to keep that in mind when I'm feeling down and whatever the problem is it immediately seems less important.
The thing is, I'm afraid to go out among people and be forced to interact with them daily. My work probably won't be so bad and I'm most likely just making up excuses for myself not to do it. I really, really like people and want to help whoever I can and that's what gets me screwed over each and every time. I tend to put my trust in everyone because I see no reason why anyone would screw me over and I end up finding myself up a shit-creek without a paddle because of it very often. That's what's gotten me to be afraid of even talking to anyone I don't know.
You'd never guess it if you saw me, but it's true. People usually say that I seem very scary to them when they first meet me, when actually I'm dreading what they'll do to me (eventually) if I talk to them. I just have no social filter. I'm basically all honesty all the time and that added to my paranoia of people screwing me over because of it makes me wanna just stay inside.
Can you believe that I was one of the 5 most popular people (we were all best friends) in my highschool? xD
Why don't I change, you wonder? It's because of what and who I am that I have these amazing people around me and I'd rather be locked up than risk losing them by changing.
And that's why I love this place. I can be myself and not worry about people being mean or trying to f*ck me over. Not a single person in this thread said one mean word to me, and they don't even know me! In this forum assholes are the exception to the rule, while in RL the assholes are the rule.
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You're 100% right and I know it. It's because I know it that I try and get out of it before it gets even worse. Sadly, knowing it doesn't make it any more easy to break free of it.
Oh no, I use that thought just to remind myself how very lucky I am. I know a lot of people have it better, too but that's the part that gets me down so I try to ignore it.
I'd pay A LOT of money to be able to learn how to do what you did- finding the boundaries and sticking to them.
My best effort on that matter was when I cut out all the people that weren't bringing joy to my life and limited spending my free time only with those who are worth it. It changed my world for the better and I haven't regretted it once!
I just have no idea how to find the right boundaries and not seem uninterested or stuck up or something along those lines. I always seem to go into the extremes- I either not interact at all or give myself wholly. Though, I guess appearing stuck up or something like that would be better for me than this, it's just whenever I try to act more distanced I'm basically fighting myself and often give in.
I'd be fine with the way things are if I was 15, but I'm almost 30 and I'm convinced I was more socially adjusted in my teens than I am now.
People as kind and awesome like you starting to be less active certainly won't help this place. It's you, and others like you, who've set the example of how people should treat eachother here. No way would this place be so awesome if you guys didn't set the tone and the spirit of this forum.
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when i feel down i go for a run, i always feel better when i stop running.
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I used to do that too and it helped a lot. Sadly, because of my health issues, I can't do it any more and I miss it.
Also, I think I've gotten too lazy to do it even if I could.
Congratulations on being able to force yourself to do it when it's way easier to just lay down and feel sorry for yourself <3
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So, I'm currently feeling a bit down.
After a year of being unemployed (graduated from university with degrees in English lang. and lit. and pedagogy) I'm about to start a new "job" that'll be very badly paid. It's not really a job. In Croatia we call it "professional training without employment". In theory it's great- you get to go to a school and watch your mentor do his classes for 30 hours and then do 10 hours of your own. And I'm talking 30+10 for the ENTIRE year. Basically, you get paid for 12 months no matter how much you're actually there, as long you make the 30+10 yearly minimum.
Now the problem is... That's only in theory, in practice no one gives a F*** about those 30+10 hours. You get to go there every day, all day and still get paid the miserly 300€.
I know, people are unemployed and would give anything to work for even that much, but wihtout even having finished highschool I used to get 700€+ comission on anything sold. And that was my summer job...
Pease, please don't think of me as being stuck up or that I believe the world or anyone in it owes me anything. I promise I don't. It's just that the 5 years I spent studying to get this seem like a waste. Waitressing pays more. I know because I got more while waitressing (no education needed). Teachers are underappreciated and under-paid. That's life. I didn't go into teaching to get rich, but teachers get cca 600€ for 20hrs a week here, and here I will be slaving as an assistent accountant (they said that to me outright) most of the time and trying to get my 30+10 hours of watching/teaching IF I manage to get permission to leave my accountant spot. My working hours will be from 8-2 and 2-8, as the school works in two shifts.
And I spent a year trying to even get this! What are my chances of ever getting a real teaching job without any connections? Basically 2%, if I'm being optimistic...
I'm seriously considering just saying "f*ck it all" and going into the private sector, where I'll have no job security but at least get to work hours I say I wanna work and actually getting paid for it.
But, no more of me complaining.
When I get like this I usually head to eBay to buy some stuff. It has to be pretty, fuzzy or shiny and serve no real function.
So, when I went there today I found this listing. Isn't it just amazing how it and the Skyrim logo are similar? xD
So telll me, what do you do when you're feeling down?
EDIT: I'm about to go to bed and I just need to say this:
Thank you so much, everyone, for your amazingly kind and supportive words. Even if my problems were much greater than this (taking into account the greater picture) silly thing actually is, seeing that amazing people like you exist out there would have made it all better.
All of you are the reason why I love this community so much.
Thank you, all <3
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