🚨🚨 Street Harassment Awareness Thread 🚨🚨

Some things are greatly misunderstood:

• Male apes are not men. Civilized men don't harass people, let alone women. So NO it's NOT man's natural behavior to whistle, shout, drip saliva, even say "have a nice day" to girls you don't know. Most importantly if they have the urge to use Fred Flintstone's pick up lines to mate, they don't brag about doing it!

• In that 10hour video of the girl in NYC, nobody -and i mean nobody!- did compliment the girl. Don't try to decorate it like it happened spontaneously. In the first scene they were four men sitting (on chairs!) in the middle of the street, having created their creepy show for passing-by girls. I'm sure they were performing their "compliment show" for the whole day. Later, others were following her for minutes (wtf?) or started a conversation by themselves. Who -in a good state of mind- stands by in the middle of the street waiting for people to pass by?

• The way you dress or walk or look does not greatly affect the amount of catcalls you'll "collect". So again, no, slutty-dressed girls are not being catcalled more than others, although stupid apes are massively gather around girls who happen to wear shorter skirts or have bigger boobs than others. So what, should they leave the boobs at home or wear a tent or something? Isn't it easier to just behave yourselves for a minute and then crawl back to your mamma's basement? Yes it is.

• My wife gets catcalled while going to the local mini market wearing track pants. It's a 5 min walk, it doesn't even need 10h in the middle of NYC to see the problem.

• It happens to men too, men-to-men catcalling might be more oppresive and rude. I had to enable Street Fighter mode once..

Catcallers, just get a life. 😠

I appreciate this thread. There have been many times when I've been walking (with my fiance mind you) and people have said rude things to me, regardless of what I'm wearing. People need to chill.

Awareness bump!

I've never seen this in the countries I've lived in and thank goodness my friends have the good sense not to do it.

You'd have thought Darwinism would have wiped out those hammer-to-the-face loving men years ago. Nature is incredible. Where are these men and what's their life expectancy? And who pays their medical bills?

Haven't ever been a catcaller (really never saw the point), but I've occasionally been compelled (without actually doing it) to compliment a girl on her outfit. Depending on how that was done, can this be okay? Or would you (personally) still consider it inappropriate and/or too weird for a stranger to do this?

I have witnessed the more horrible version of catcalling where the guy then insults the girl after she doesn't pay him any heed -- it was awful to hear and see, and had clearly shaken the girl up. She talked to my girlfriend and me and thankfully I think we were able to get her trust in humanity a bit back together, but she had been going through personal things already and absolutely did not need that guy's bullshit added in on top of it. There are so many other things you can say to any random person that will get a genuine smile, it bothers me that the catcallers can't seem to comprehend their own idiocy.

Also, it's often hard to tell whether you're being sarcastic or not, so thank you for not using anything overly sarcastic in this post (on opening it, I was fairly certain it was going to be a parody of some forum drama I'd missed :D).

Bump the awareness.. Especially for my country

I'm just curious, I think I remember seeing a post a while back were you said you lived in South America, could you tell us which country in particular? Just so we can get a clearer picture of why it happens as often as you say.

Yeah, cat calling doesnt really get you anywhere, its just a pain in a butt.
I had a friend that decided to roll down my car window and cat call a random woman that was just passing by. I was so embarrass. He never stepped inside my car ever again. I don't tolerate that shit.

Great, thought-provoking thread. Thanks!

Bump!

I was even forced to cut my hair because I've been getting this kind of attention. It's always humiliation for me but I am concerned that some girls don't mind it at all. If we were learned more respect for ourselves we would stop let that happen I think...

The trouble is from a minority as allways.
The same minority that think there's no rules and do what they want for lot of things that I won't enumerate.
From 10 years I see the comportement of people change. More individuality and less respect for the other as they think other have to have respect for them. What?
So the solution is to not acceptate this comportement by the other that see that. Oh there a trouble: the troublelers can be violent if you tell them something.
So what can be done?

Another thing is from advertisement. I don't think this is a good thing that an advertisement says: " I'm not a girl, I'm a poison"per exemple.
This contribue to a bad thinking of woman being (not sure of my phrase construction).

It doesn't happen much around here as far as I can tell. Maybe a bit in clubs by idiots. I've had to help friends before because some moron wouldn't leave them alone.
But I get where you are coming from. Back in the day when I went out a lot and came back home late there were always groups of minorities hanging around the streets (trying) to start a fight with me. Literally every weekend
I don't know what some peoples problems are, but it is annoying, scary and painful.
Unfortunately there are many idiots around and there always will be.

Edit:// I am kinda surprised you don't mention online behavior. I see people trying to hit on girls online constantly.

Have my support. Can't tolerate stuff like that any longer and the weak absurd sexist excuses. Some situations get unbearable. Unfortunately, we can't count on people's common sense or empathy. Usually only those who have suffered the same can understand.

P.S.: Being followed is one of the most scary things a person can ever deal with. I don't feel comfortable, but I don't regret having my pepper spray with me everywhere.
P.S.2: Gamer communities tend to have a larger number of people with conservative/misogynistic/victim-blaming behaviour than any other communities on internet, as far as I can tell. I haven't read and probably won't have patience to read the comments posted here, but I can imagine the kinds of comments you get. Tiring stuff.

I as a man, am consciece about this, It happens reguraly, that a woman happens to ride with here bike in front of me and we are going in the same direction. So if I am still behind her after a couple of turns, I look at the next turn if it is possible to relay my route so to not make her feel like I am stalking here or something like that.

Thanks for this thread !
It's really important and (even if i clearly understand why) not a lot of people would do that.
I didn't took time to look at all the comments, but i hope broflakes won't comment ... :(

Oh, and thanks for the giveaways ! :D

Are you trying to make us feel bad for being assholes by pointing out that we're assholes? As an asshole I'm offended! Can't you just let us harass people in peace? Why are you complaining when you haven't even been murdered yet by these threatening assholes making these delightful compliments? You're too sensitive. You're trying to shame us into silence! There's just one word for that and that one word is: social justice warrior. And that's a bad word, cause it means someone that has morals. Go back to Tublr, you feminist SJW and wear different clothes; it's your fault we do this. My ancestors didn't fight to keep slaves just so I'd have to start treating people with dignity and respect now! You won't shame us for being the terrible people we are!!

Great thread. Before I started dating my boyfriend I'd get catcalled regularly (and I'm not insanely attractive). When I started dating my boyfriend it happened again and he was surprised by it. Little did he know it happened ten times less now that he was walking with me.

Another time I was walking with my gay male friend when two guys yelled out their window "GO AHEAD AND F--CK HER ALREADY." It was super awkward, especially for him, and it killed the conversation we were having.

If you don't want to get catcalled, dress appropriately! 3: It doesn't matter if it's winter and I'm wearing a jacket, or summer with shorts and a t-shirt. Some people will be idiots anyway and say things.

True statement. my inner tomboy comes out sometimes and I often wear baggy clothes instead of my nice ones. I also rarely put makeup on and I still get catcalled. Half the times people can't even see what I look like when they yell out the window. They just have to confirm I'm female.

Also of course not all guys do this. I know a million guys that are respectable and appalled by catcalling. Also of course girls also catcall (although not as common). I do't want anyone to think I'm generalizing here because my anger is always towards the individuals who did it, not the gender.

As a guy who can't leave the house, I don't know if my opinion has much value but I'm sorry to hear the negative experiences you are having.

Good luck, tis all I can say really.

Have a bump of support for your consciousness-raising work on SG!

Definitely a worthy bump.

that's a nice thread you got there ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

but seriously though, jerks are everywhere and it got this bad because (as usual) "no one" cares to change things