I'm glad you put that disclaimer about negativity! As someone who's suffered a long time, I really hate forced positivity. If you're like me, using logic to overcome negative thoughts can be a powerful tool. I'm a realist, so realistically, no matter how bad, there's always something good I can find without forcing it <3
So to those out there struggling, I say, anytime you find yourself thinking nobody would care if you disappeared, or nobody believes in you. THIS IS NOT TRUE.
Let me tell you, right now that is not true. I would care. Everytime someone loses their fight against mental illness, I am very sad, I feel the loss. I care. Every person struggling through, sees that loss and feels it as though they are losing themself.
Furthermore. I BELIEVE IN YOU.
Yes, even when you fail.
When you are ready, get back up, even if you shake and have to drag yourself and try again another day, just keep trying. I believe in you and I know you can do it.
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Thank you so much for sharing your well-expressed thoughts!
Indeed, I never see being "positive" as ignoring that bad things happen (that more often than not you can't do anything about) - It's all about staying strong during hard times and emerging victorious one day at the time. Don't pretend everything is well, instead realize that not everything is bad, and more importantly, that things will get better if you persevere.
It's okay to be weak. It's okay to fuck things up, and to fail. Pick yourself up, have a good night sleep, and try again the next day. ^^
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I totally agree! Unfortunately so much of the 'positive' stuff is that damaging, forced stuff. We need to replace it with this kind and empathetic version that allows someone to express frustration, but surrounds them with support and an ability to use the nice things around them (or to find them) to strengthen them and help them get through!
I always say:
"The only way to fail is to give up completely and permanently.' With the exception of scientific facts, of course. But generally the things standing in your way are time, money and number one, confidence and determination, all of which are fluid and have the chance to change over time.
I absolutely know the feeling of being down and hopeless and feeling like you can't go on. But somehow, we cling on and in the end, there are things worth going on for, even when it's bad a lot of the time.
Somehow things will get worse than I can imagine and it seems they get worse and worse and worse, but if I gave up, I'd have missed many things along the way that brought me great comfort and that are very dear to me.
I hope seeing this will help some people to use logic to their advantage when it comes to the fight against pain and mental illness. We all think differently and need to remember, what works for one will not work for another, so I always share my feelings in the hopes the way I do it might help somebody else!
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Very good logic indeed!
I've never been in a situation bad enough that I thought I was alone in the world or that I was going to give up on everything - I've felt like mostly everything I did was pointless but I guess I'm a fighter in a way and just can't roll over and stop struggling when things go bad. I suppose that's a good thing.
I don't know if we've interacted much in the past (I have a really bad memory), but I just want to say that you seem like such an extremely genuine and kind person. And I'm assuming you've made an impression in the past as well since when I went to whitelist you just now, you were already there. :P
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My memory is absolute garbage too (brain problems lolololol), but you're on my whitelist too! Thank you so much for the whitelist and the kind words as well. I wish more people did their best to support each other online. I understand why it doesn't work out that way in person, but on the net anonymity allows for great kindness as well as the opposite. I would never say I was a cruel person, but I definitely used to be bitter and jealous, especially when someone achieved something I wanted. When I realised it stemmed from my own sadness and frustration and that giving out something good felt better...it really changed me as a person, so it's my hope that everyone has that chance!
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Yeah, the internet sometimes bring the very best/worse in us, or even brings out an entirely other person we didn't know we had within ourselves. Personally, it's such a strange thing that I'm so active on a public forum like Steamgifts when in real life I'm a very shy, quiet kind of person until I get to know someone well enough that I feel perfectly comfortable holding a conversation. Online? I can start a discussion with pretty much anyone and it will appear to the other person as if I'm an extremely social person.
However, it also means I sometimes act in ways that are very unlike my true personality, such as lashing out or being very... "firm" during an argument at times. I suppose it's not anything strange - I'm fairly sure most people are like me. Still, I get the impression anyone meeting me in real life would say "no way in hell that's that guy on the forum". :P
I think one of the good thing about Steamgifts is that it encourages sharing and caring for complete strangers you've never met in your life. I think it attracts a certain kind of person, especially on the forum since most forum users tend to be people who dug deeper within the website rather than blindly enter giveaways from the front page. Of course that's not the case for everyone, but I believe that the majority of people in this community have good intentions, more so than any other online community not focused on a philanthropic goal.
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I totally know what you mean.
I used to be painfully shy, but in real life I am actually very talkative to an almost annoying degree (don't get me wrong, I give people gaps, but I like to let the conversation flow). However, most people I know, maybe due to the talkativeness, don't realise I am as smart as I am, or that I have lots of complex and deep feelings, mostly because they never ask me about such topics! I make a lot of jokes and am generally considered pretty witty and funny (I feel like I'm complimenting myself a lot in this reply, whoops), as a result I usually let the other person lead the conversation in topics, I can talk about pretty much anything.
However, the thing I love most is a deep and complicated conversation on both serious and silly topics. I'm a huge movie head and could analyse movies for hours, so mostly only my partner gets to see these parts of me, with strangers I keep it 'light' unless they go there.
On the internet, I feel much more free to be totally open, without worrying about annoying people or getting 'too deep' and that's really refreshing.
I love that Steamgifts is a super organised way to give away your keys, I had so many good keys I gave away before I found here (whhhhy), but it's much easier here. And I do think it's lovely that people are so generous, I mean even if it's a cheapie bundle game, many people don't follow bundles, plus who doesn't love a freebie? People here are (for the most part) lovely.
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I'm a bit similar, now that I think of it - Get me started either on video games or on future technology, and I can go on for hours - But again, that's only when I feel comfortable enough with a person, otherwise I'm more likely to avoid talking too much. I'm guessing probably my low confidence and self-esteem may be a factor in my shyness. :P
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I think that could definitely contribute for sure! I had much less confidence when I was younger and shyer. Hope you can share the gift of your personality with more people in the 'offline' world, but don't stress over it too much.
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I totally agree with that you and wonderwhatif says.
Society likes to push that being positive all the time is the way to go, and that being angry and crying is looked down upon.
It's really unrealistic and unhealthy to bottle up emotions and pretend that everything is okay when it's not.
I hope that sort of "false positivity" gets phased out in the future to a healthier form of positivity as you said. Being a stefford smiler doesn't help long term.
It's okay to cry if you need to. It's okay to show some emotions.
Fall down seven times, stand up eight. Take it easier on yourself. Go slower. And if you need help, ask around for help.
There is usually someone willing to help you.
/hugs
Ps Thanks again for the thread. It can be hard at times so the topic of positivity resonates strongly with me.
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Absolutely - I feel like society sees showing emotions as a form of weakness... but keeping everything bottled up is quite possibly the worse thing a person could do to preserve and improve one's mood.
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[Dead Space 2](https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/iaynN/) | mojak | Level 1
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That list looks awfully empty. :( Here are some more then:
[Delta Force](http://www.sgtools.info/giveaways/02074486-7de8-11e8-867f-fa163ee2f826) | talgaby | Level 0 sgtools
[Goat Simulator GOATY](http://www.sgtools.info/giveaways/5aa90d41-7de8-11e8-867f-fa163ee2f826) | talgaby | Level 0 sgtools
[Abyss: The Wraiths of Eden](http://www.sgtools.info/giveaways/57cb03ec-7de9-11e8-867f-fa163ee2f826) | talgaby | Level 0 sgtoolsComment has been collapsed.
A little reminder today from my Instagram (Sorry I'm too lazy to find and then link the original image)
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Relevant - Just had a nightmare of a shift at work yesterday. I pulled through by just doing what I can, but still almost had a nervous breakdown. I'm so so so glad I work part time because if I had to go to work today, I think I'd have quit here and there. Can't imagine how bad it would have been if I actually tried my hardest to succeed. >_>
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Doing what you can is absolutely ok some days and it's important to remember that you DID get through it. So congrats on that. I'm a super hard worker and working insanely hard at my job, demanding perfection from myself and essentially driving myself crazy, I'm convinced it was a contributing factor to the anxiety and agoraphobia that drove me from my job initially, before I got sick with non-mental things. Considering I was working in video game QA and everyone else was lazy as furk, I probably didn't need to worry so much.
In short, exactly what it says in the image! Take care of you and if you can get away with doing a crappier job when you need to, then absolutely put your health first.
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[Pigmentone](https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/wz3Gx/pigmentone) | himalaya | Level 2+
[Poker Night At The Inventory](https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/lLUbB/poker-night-at-the-inventory) | himalaya | Level 2+
[Solenars Edge Rebirth](https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/UtDz0/solenars-edge-rebirth) | himalaya | Level 2+
[!Dead Pixels Adventure!](https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/eAiFL/dead-pixels-adventure) | himalaya | Level 2+
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Just something kinda fast, so probably don't need to add it to the post?
[Zombie Desperation](https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/UunYu/zombie-desperation) | Southrobin | Level 1+
[Kill Him Online Wars](https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/0mlNS/kill-him-online-wars) | Southrobin | Level 1+
Both ends 9th July
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Thank you for your contributions! :D
Many giveaways shared here last for only a couple of days, so no worries about that. ^^
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[Pan-Pan](https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/KGdgI/pan-pan) Lv4 | Superfabs | July 16th
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Cleanup of all archived giveaways, updated stats, added SGTools stats.
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This morning i saw my ex-girlfriend with her current boyfriend on the street, we made an accidental eye contact and it was one of the most miserable moments of my life.
At first, i was the one to break up because i was not sure if i still loved her, she had begged for me to not leave her and even kept calling/texting me saying that she still loved me but i did anyway... After 3 months or so i realized that she was not just my girlfriend but also my bestfriend, my mutual supporter and most importantly my happiness... As soon as i realized my mistake i went back to her and apologized to her from the bottom of my heart, she accepted me, we were back together but there was a problem. I learned that within the time we were apart she had found another person, perhaps to fill the hole that i left within her and been together with him. I just couldn't accept it... The person i cared the most had slept with another man; i tried to surpass the thought, act like i didn't care but i just could not. So i left her again. Now it's been 1.5 years since we were last together. When our eyes connected after all this time i know she saw how sorry i was to not be able to fight with my inner thoughts, as i saw how she still wishes that it never ended like this.
TLDR: Bump. :')
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I've noticed a rising amount of negative posts and threads lately on SG. From sad and gloomy topics to rants and angry posts, it just makes me feel slightly depressed.
To counter the negativity, I created this 100% positive thread! The one rule of this thread - think and post positively!
Tell me what good thing has been happening in your life, post cheerful gifs, anything really. Let's cheer up those who feel sad, and maintain the mood of those who don't. ^^
Here's a small giveaway to celebrate positiveness: http://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/HuABS/labyrinthine-dreams [ENDED]
Please note that I did not create this thread to devalue or disapprove of anyone who's posts are negative. Everyone has their share of sadness, anger or depression in life. Matter of fact, this thread is especially created in order to cheer up anyone who may be having negative emotions. :D
If you've contributed a giveaway and it hasn't been added to the list of active giveaways within a day, let me know.
Also, removal of ended giveaways when multiple giveaways are added by the same user is done by checking the first giveaway's status only - Make a note if your giveaways aren't all ending at the same time!
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