So, should I pay?

Insist to pay it, do not allow her to pay. If you allow her, you emasculate yourself and will be a beta male.

Just ask for the bill, and take out your wallet and start counting. Then, she should say something.

I have always been quick at grabbing the tab and paying for it. if the person sitting with me appears to disagree, I just start a new conversation, distract her from my hand getting my wallet.

but again, I have been getting lots of bad rep for paying for everything, even at a friend's birthday (yup, somebody broke lots of glasses and I subtly paid the restaurant's owner). I think you should try to understand what kind of person she is then you will know what to do better =)

If it can help you, i usually pay (or offer to) if i had fun or if i was the one offering the date in the first place. If not i usually split. Even if i do enjoy giving, it's not necessary the healthiest way to start a relationship imo.
But you really shouldn't put too much pressure on yourself, it's no big deal. Do as you feel like. Either way, if she feels offended over a restaurant bill that's doesn't augur well for the future.
Good luck !

havent read any of the other posts but you should pay imo, having said that im old and thats what i would do, i have no clue what you younguns do nowadays.

When the bill comes, offer to pay it full and if she offers to pay as well, tell her to split the bill with you. If she really insists on paying then let her.

As a woman who makes all the money in the household, I would say to offer to pay. If she refuses, split the bill, but it's still common courtesy to at least offer if you are on a date. Especially if you were the one who asked her out.

Anyways, good luck!

I think that having to think about it means she is not your true love. If this was the girl for you I don't think this kind of thing would cross your mind, nor hers.

Offer to pay, if she says no, tell her that you'll let her pay the next dinner. It's a win-win situation, yo remain as a gentleman amd also arrange a future plan ;)
Ps: As I am on the phone, i didn't checked the thread, lots of people share my point. ;)

The one who invites, should pay. Or you can just share the bill if you don't want to feel like a cheapskate for not doing anything.

What is love?

Last time I had a date she paid for me and I felt poor :P

Ask "should we split the bill?" If she acts awkward (even though she says yes) lose her. If she seems honest with her "yes" keep her. And if she has another response, lose her too, that tends to have some other thing implied, even if it is a "no, I'll pay".

And remember, if you feel awkward now, paying for the first time, it will only get worse in the future. So better resolve quick.

I'm a girl :P and i LOVE when the guy pays ^^ not because i'm a cheap *ss lady but because it makes me feel special. It flatters me :)

What about you ask her directly? "I though about paying the dinner, but I was a bit afraid that this could offend you. What do you think?".
Personally I think everybody should just pay their own share. Makes everything easier and, if you wish to buy her a little present, you still can. :)

see how the dinner/date goes. you can either do what others suggested and ask her, or you can somewhat insist to pay in a gentle-ish/fun-filled(cant think of the right word lol) manner. there is a bunch of good advice here, got a great community heh. good luck

I'm pretty anti-feminist, and I don't believe men should be pressured in to chauvinism or feel obligated to pay for anything. I shout my partner dinner about as often as he shouts dinner for me, when we go out together I usually suggest we each pay for our ourselves, but if he insists on paying for mine I let him, and are always sure to thank him. I never expect anyone to pay for me but it does make me feel special to be treated sometimes. :)

I usually pay for the first date, then if she resists I tell her she can pay for the next meal :P

Shit like this is why I hate restrictive gender roles. I like it much better when you're able to communicate with your date to see who wants to pick up the tab and who is able to pay for the meal. It also works if the person asking the other one out pays, regardless of gender. Or just split the ticket every time.
I usually like to split the bill with whoever I'm out with, unless they happen to be a touch broke at the time. Then the one with the most money gets the bill. Unless they're having a birthday, in that case I always pay.

Of course it helps that I like a lot of my dates to consist of fast food pickup, and a meal at home with movies or a game. Or something homemade. Those are both cheap options. :) In the case of eating a home cooked meal, the person hosting usually supplies most of the ingredients, while everyone involved helps to cook 'em. Cooking a meal together is a nice way to bond with your date.

Offer to pay the bill and if she insists tell her that she will pay the next time. Boom! next date scheduled. if you find yourself to not want to go on a second date and she insists on paying just split it in half. dont let her pay for both.

Tell her you'll pay then go to the washroom and climb out the window

I would pay because I am the male, the hunter, the provider. On another note, I pay for lunch when I'm with my friends, and sometimes they "try" to pay.

:P