Because in about 15 hours I am leaving my parents home for the first time. I am leaving for different city for work, I am leaving permanently.
What do I do? What do I do?? What do I dooooooooooooooooooo? I am veery nervous :/.

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First of all congratulations on your new life.

Secondly, good on you for having what appears to be a very healthy and happy relationship with your parents. Doesn't always go down that way.

And lastly, if I were you, because of #2, I would strongly consider sitting down with each of your parents SEPARATELY and asking them in earnest if they have any advice for you, and whether, if they had it to do all over again, they would do anything differently or by using a different approach.

You are the youngest, and they too are bound to be nervous about their life without children for the first time in many years. I'm sure they are excited and a little fearful, too. But above all, I think you stand a good chance of getting good, honest advice from what sound like a good set of parents. Whatever they tell you, remember it! Write it down. You may not agree with all of it, but you will be able to use it. It's something I wished I'd done when I left the house. But I was much younger than you, and probably a lot less appreciative. I was stupid, and ignorant. A decade later, I did ask. And I don't always use their advice, but sometimes I am amazed what I hear and was never told before.

I think it's imperative that you speak with them each in private, though. Sometimes honest advice to a child may be hard for a spouse to hear, no matter how much they are loved. Sometimes there are regrets that need to be expressed without fear.

Anyway, that's my long and honest take on it.

Good luck! Congratulations! And you seem like a kind, smart kid. I hope you find your path, keep a wide peripheral vision and deal with others with honesty, kindness, and a firm belief in doing what is right, even if it is hard to do. You will live better and happier for it.

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Also, don't be sad! This is a wonderful moment in life! I don't regret much in my life, but if I was given the opportunity to go back to your age and situation, you'd be pretty damn sure that I'd take it.

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dont be afraid of your future or you will achieve nothing

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  • Step 1. stock up on ramen..
  • Step 2. find the nearest laundromat..
  • Step 3. order your internet, sometimes takes the ISP a while to set it up.
  • Step 4. Don't Panic
  • Step 5. always carry a towel
  • Step 6. get friendly with your local shop, never know if they end up liking you and might slip you discounts
  • Step 7. face that you are on the verge of adulthood, and it is all be okay
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  • Step 8. Find a local asian/ethnic shop, they often have everyday items at a lower price, especially vegetables from my experience
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Internet is not that essential LMAO

You can get your net in a few weeks when you settle

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no, but its nice to have - when i moved i ordered it a month ahead of time, told them when i was moving in and the day i got there it was ready to go

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I'd actually recommend him to find a china town nearby and buy his food there for the whole day. Just microwave the food for lunch/dinner and his fine. Same price or a bit higher but has more content and you'll feel more filled.

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Indeed i need to add that, find a good chinese/asian/ethnic store, they often have items you use in everyday food for low prices, i find that especially vegetables and fruit tend to be cheaper

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I'd rather live near a farm for saving money, but then, you'd have to like walking or drive.

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always carry a towel, Don't panic :')

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:D

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Towel + Don't Panic. +10 Internet to you, sir.

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:O i only needed 10 more to win.. I WIN @ INTERWEBZ

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if its so scary just retreat to their basement with your computer and try again in a few years, maybe a decade or so

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if you can pay your rent or your car go for the car, you can live in a car but can't drive a home to work. in fact just skip the apartment all together and get a panel van and maybe a few backup batteries. drive around looking for somewhere to park for the night and an unsecured wifi connection. steal power from the neighbors. buy bulk foods cheap and maybe do odd jobs as a drifter and supplement that with hat/card/gold farming. also get a microwave, and if you've got extra $ some sort of freezer or a used minifridge. overload the shit out of that cigarette lighter

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you can repeat the cycle of "thought about leaving...didn't" either until 45 or your parents kick it at which point you should commit some relatively minor crime and get jailed as long as you can. min security with lesser offenders, free cable, 3 square, roof over your head and heat/air conditioning.

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Actually i remember reading a thread on /b/ about the guy who did just that. After "moving out" he came back later at night to their basement and he's been living there for 6-7 months now, leeching of wi-fi internet and making some food dosh by posing as 18 yrs old girl in naughty chatrooms, horny old dudes occasionally send him (her) Amazon gift cards and wishlist items which he later resells on E-Bay. Ah yes, living the life

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You do this you will definitely be gathering experience for retirement... Life skills! Hah! :D

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Too bad my mom feels so insecure about me leaving she already made plans of which room she's going to stay in when I get married and move into a different house(these things are happening millions of years later)

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My mom has plans of what she's gonna do with the room I sleep in when I leave home... since I was 15. |:
Guess that probably means something, just not sure what.

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Watch the good part, you will do cool things now, you will take your own decisions, thats cool! :D

When you go to the new place... go to a bar, a good one i mean or to the movies, do some friends, go to the store and try to do friends, friends will help you mate, you need more friends in your actual place, when you got some start to go out with them, go to movies, go to a bar, do some fun stuff mate dont feel alone, right now put some music and relax :D

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Clone Yourself!

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grow up? lolloollolo

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good luck, it is not easy, but this will learn you a lot of things :)

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All i gotta say is Good Luck With Life I Promise you are gonna have lots of fun!

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It's a little difficult at first, but I promise you'll love it eventually. The independence of living away from home is so fun!

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Good luck finding new friends.

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In about same situation, tomorrow I'm moving out to study in another part of the country, and will be staying with some foreign strangers I found on the internet. I'm a bit worried that I might have to study up my fourth language to be able to communicate. Also, a bit worried about making time to cook food, and getting up in the mornings without my mom to help. But I think keeping up a good mood and hoping for the second-best is good advice.

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keep calm, and go to your work mate u will be fine !

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