I think it's worth a shot. Change can definitely be hard, but sometimes it's necessary.
If your long term goal is to have a family, I think it's worth asking yourself: how likely is that goal based on your current situation? It sounds like the answer is "not very likely."
A new job that you might really enjoy, a new area where you might meet some new people (especially female people)... :D
I think the rewards outweigh the risks.
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Well as long i have some income i am not completely dependant on a woman, but could find someone who has her own place already, and i just pitch in, and with my age chances are i would meet someone who already has a kid.
But if i want to be completely independant then yeah i need to do more.
I usually tend to have jobs where it's just alot of guys. :p
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45-60 minutes travelling is bad? I travel 2 hours to go to university everyday.
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I value happiness above money, and time above money. However, while money doesn't bring happiness, not having enough money to be comfortable brings unhappiness, and having more free time brings me happiness. With that in mind, I would ponder the situation and decide what is better for me. Also moving closer to the new job and avoid long transportation is always a possibility after some time if it goes well with the new job.
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There is always pressure to have a better job if you want to support your family. However if you're by yourself then you usually go for the safer option. I would go for a job that is safer even if there is pressure from the family because with a safer option I'm more happy and don't stress myself and most importantly live a balanced life where I can give time to family as well as to job equally.
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Personally, I always go for the "safe" option. Maybe I'm missing things, maybe I don't appreciate enough what I already have.
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you need to choice by yourself, we don't know you, we don't know your situation, we don't know what you want in the future, we don't know your age, we don't know your love situation, and a big big big big etc...... without info the only you are going to get are answers of people thinks whitout considering absolutely nothing more than his toughs.
we can't choice for you and we don't know what you think or how you are (as a person etc....) it's imposible to help someone without any info.
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Of course we know all we need - 37yo single living with his parents with job so awful he can't live on his own, but in the same time complaining about The Netherlands' transportation system (e.g. dirty trains? where?! expensive? srsly...), salary (10€/h? Is it even possible for a Dutch guy? Starting today I would get more!) and who knows what more... But he wants wife and kids.
For me this guy is beyond repair. Or he is probably just trolling us all :D
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We aren't all lucky in life, and you don't know me, do you?
This has been my path, i made mistakes (we all do), alot of bad luck, i been down, but you would not hear me complain about it, and still standing, and i still believe in good to come.
-If you compare it to some countries 10 euro for a 2 hour trip together, is alot, in some countries you can travel a whole day for it.
-People leaving dirty diapers f.e not in a bin, trains being overpacked, obviously you never ever been in a dutch train.
-Yeah sure, that's why so many Polish people come work here, don't make it sound demeaning or anything it's "only" 10, besides i didn't mention taxes, that i'd made 10, etc etc.
And excuse me also for not wanting to mooch of some woman, like many guys would do or even live with their parents forever, that's why i never persued a relation for the time being, seriously you are the one broken, if you can judge someone like this.
Let's talk again in 10 years, and see where we are both at then okay? I bet i am going to be far more ahead then you will be.
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Did you just put me on your blacklist?🤔 If you didn't, forget it, but if you did... srsly? ;D
Well, of course there is no way that we know each other. What I wrote was simply your words put together in one place. And my comments were based on my experience, I spent a few good years in your country (I liked trains very much - mostly for fun tho, company car ftw!).
With all that being said, it's not a big feat to live in NL and be ahead of anyone living in less well-developed country. See you in 10 years! :>
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You weren't just joking, nor just summarizing me, you added your own little snide remark/insult to it, if someone is rude like that, yeah i will blacklist, many people will blacklist for alot less.
Good for you, and i am glad you got a normal life, but look up Mysophobia, a form in school ruined my life when i was 15 which i still see the results from and while i don't really have such fears anymore now, but with certain places like our trains, yeah i am just not too eager.
Last year we had a record of over 500.000 people being unemployed, alot of people now have flex contracts (so they can easily be fired again), elderly people that can barely take 1 shower a week because "there isn't any money" (there is but it goes to the wrong places), a goverment that spend millions to poor countries and refugees, and there is just a whole list of other stuff here that goes wrong.
Not saying your country or mine is worse off, but just because we are "rich" (we used to be maybe, a long time ago) doesn't mean we got it so much better off, with a low income it's very hard to buy a house, even with 2 low incomes these days for example.
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How much do you think you'd gain from it?
Do you hate your current job? Would you love your new job?
Is the pay better or worse? Can you in the latter case take the pay cut? Is the pay cut worth the job? Would the commute be fine for you or would you dislike it? What do you think of the company itself. Is it a company you'd like to work for?
Anyways, I can keep asking, but my point's this: You have to weigh the pros and cons. Everyone would do something differently and everyone's in a different position. The person telling you to stay might already live like a king and not grasp the fact that you could have it that bad while the user telling you to move might be someone who has a miserable job or just has some sort of a safety net in place.
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Maybe you got a point.
I don't hate my job, i just hate the way certain organizational things have been handled, and how it keeps being in limbo (if they didnt almost fire some of us after 1 month or they placed me else where immediately so i had more of a chance to proof myself, things would be different then i wouldn't look so much elsewhere).
My certificates are in computers, my hobby is computers, the new job would be computers, i don't know anything about salary there, maybe i could just try an interview, maybe they won't even hire me and i'd just overthink it for nothing.
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I'd go for an interview, keep it on the down-low with anyone associated with your job and basically literally ask them during the interview about these things. Show that you're motivated and excited for the job.
If you don't get it, then that's fine. If you do get it, then you can decide then :)
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So you got a job, it's stable as in you have one (though not really sure you can keep it) but it's in your own town, no travel cost/time. On the other hand you are looking at a job that might be more in your alley, but takes 45-60 minutes travelling, and suppose that job there doesn't go right and you could be left with nothing. Keep in mind you are in a position where jobs aren't really up for grabs much for you, what would you do?
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