New to Torchlight 2, how am I doing?

I prefer keeping my stat points and distributing them according to current needs (mostly to be able to equip better gear). I think you get enough skill points to max out few skills you find most usable through most of the game (you can start with passives if you're not sure what to choose - my fave skills are Sigil passives + Glaives + Shadowling Brute) plus it's good to check out different weapons at start so you could decide which you like the most and put some points in Warfare passives of chosen one.

The best thing to do is to go by what stats you need for certain weapons, equips !

Best advice is to check the Runic Games forum for advice.

And there is a "wrong" build for the Outlander, at least if you are playing on Veteran or above. Due to several design decisions, the Outlander class had one general "right" build, some "playing with a handicap" builds, and an arguably unplayable build.

Basically, the Outlander's primary stat should not be treated the way you would treat a primary stat. Runic was upset that the Vanquisher was a one-stat easy mode character, so they changed what Dexterity did in Torchlight 2. The result was effectively an overnerfing, as the Outlander is the only T2 character that becomes unplayable if you focus only on their primary. (Engineer, Berserker, and Embermage can all be played as primary-stat-only characters.)

In T2, damage is tied to either Strength or Focus. You want to pick one of those stats and make it your primary. Dexterity is for Dodge, which is a capped percentage. At least before some recent patches, forum consensus was that anything more than 109 Dex was a waste of stat points, as with 109 Dex and the right equipment you could max Dodge chance.

Other forum consensus is that the "right" build for Outlander is a Glaive build. Anything else is just making the game more difficult. You can beat the game with a non-Glaive build, even on higher difficulties, but it is noticeably harder than using a Glaive build, or using another class. (I've beaten it on Veteran with a shooty Outlander (non-Glaive build, relies on guns and a skill like Rapid Fire). It was noticeably harder than using any other class on Veteran.) People still make non-Glaive Outlanders though, because Glaive builds are seen as a bit boring, too easy, or just not the kind of character you signed up to play when you picked what was meant to be the gun and bow class.

EDIT: There are also mods to add respec potions. Torchlight 2's mod scene is still behind that of Torchlight 1, but that is because Runic keeps delaying the release of the official mod tools in order to add polish to them.

atleats you have it........