First-time MMOs - FFXI, FFXIV, Elder Scrolls, etc

you can get it free to play if you want, and a friend of mine has a key he wants to trade (from this year's yog something) i think i can trade it for anything i have if you liked it

I kinda meant it was enjoyable playing solo, at least for me it was. Pretty much any MMO is technically playable solo but ESO was the first one where i didn't feel like i was missing out by not having in-game friends. But what i tried to say in my horrible English is that even if you would start solo, you'd make in-game friends instantly because of the friendliness of the community. I usually grouped up with some lower lvl players and do dungeons with them, as those players are doing the dungeons their first time as well. Nonetheless i wish u luck with finding some players to join up with you. I'm sure there are some people here that are interested in grouping up.

I found it enjoyable to solo through- the organic grouping made it so I rarely was actually "solo" in any encounter. Likewise, the game has a "rush to help" mentality among its community, so it was rare that I didn't benefit from standard grouping assistance. Honestly, if the game just had better mechanics, I'd still be playing it, just for that fun grouping experience. Or, put another way, that grouping experience was the only thing that kept me playing to cap.

Of course, if you somehow managed to avoid that organic grouping, I'd imagine the game would be rather miserable indeed (given how weak the mechanics and quest appeal are).

As far as the rush-through-dungeons thing, you'll be hard-pressed to find an MMO that doesn't have that kind of dungeon experience. With experience, comes familiarity, and with familiarity, you get speed. Unless you've got a game with heavily randomized dungeons, you'll always need to take your time to learn the ropes as well as game veterans. If you want to avoid that, then just make a point of grouping up with other new players.