So what is your opinion? Is she a lesbian (100%) or is she bi-sexual (she likes men and women)?
Drunken experimentation doesnt determine/change your sexuality.
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Same reckoning still applies. Trying something doesnt make you something. I just had a veggie burger doesnt make me a vegetarian. My colleague just went to a mosque, doesnt make him a Muslim. Therefore, trying a dick doesnt make you bi.
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She wanted more (after the party, the next days etc).
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Your metaphors are horrible. If you called yourself a pure carnivore, but ate veggies, you're not a carnivore, same with les/bi. She isn't proving she is something by doing something else, she's proving she is proving she isn't lesbian by doing something else, which in this case makes her bi.
Probably won't make sense to you, but that's how it is.
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I never said anything about being a carnivore, just that eating vegetarian foods doesn't make me vegetarian.
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but eating meat does make you a not-vegetarian. In any case that doesnt mean she is bi and not lesbian, just proves the metaphor is just very bad. Vegetarian means a diet restriction. So you could argue this could make her a not-lesbian. The problem is simply that sexuality should be a grey area with natural flow, not some labels we are trying to fit on it.
She might not be lesbian as she does like this guy, she might still not be bi, as she might not like any other male on earth and just this one. She just is, who cares, let her be. Final point is, your original connundrum is just pointless.
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I'm sorry, but if I'm at a party, and go down on a dude, I am not straight...Especially if I do it while sober....If my best friend asks if I will take him from behind, He ain't straight just cause musics going and people are laughing. No, if she's doing both sexes, she is bisexual. Comparing sexuality with eating habits and religions is stupid....Both of those change, and sexual preference does not...in fact, the comparison is insulting actually.
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People are complicated creatures. You cant determine if they are this or that so easily. Yes, she may have hooked up with another girl, but it could have been more for companionship and less about physical attraction. The inverse could also follow for your guy friend, or she could just like the physical aspect of being with a male or female or the emotional aspect.
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Your friend had "Sexy time", End of discussion. :P
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Pretty much this, don't know why OP is making such big deal about this...
- He got laid, ezpz...
- No commitments, as she's already engaged with someone else and won't bother him later for relationship bullshit...
- ???
- Chances for a menáge?! Profit?
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She can be whatever she wants(even a unicorn, tumblr generation, dont ask), even if she acted bi-sexual (this one time)
... Why is the difference relevant?! (or worth a thread on STEAMgifts)
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Because here i can have a lot of feedback, and it's in the "offtopic" category.
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I think, now your friend (male) can be a lesbian...
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I guess that his friend is now bragging about it and he's mad.
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Having sex with a lesbian > having sex with a bi? I'm missing something here...
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I imagine him saying that he turned a lesbian straight etc?
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It's a common male fantasy to have sex with a lesbian woman. There's some feeling of empowerment in the fact that you "managed to get her to switch side".
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I'd say it's more a feeling (or hope? lel) that she invites her gf to join the 'party' than something else...
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Well... that too. But the "I'm so irresistible that I convinced a lesbian to have my manhood" is a pretty strong achievement in itself.
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well, i thought the male fantasy was to have sex with two lesbian women...
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Well, it's quite obvious that she wasn't a lesbian, your friend probably knows it too, he will still brag about it though and keep reminding other people that, but let's be honest here, wouldn't you?
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well, i am not in his position, and with this debate i already chose my side. So if it happens to me, i cannot switch to the other side :D
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Well, the more you debate this with him, the more satisfaction you will give him as he probably loves seeing you mad.
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Many people say that sexuality is not fixed and it is a spectrum. Supposedly, it can actually change somewhat with time. Very few people are actually 100% hetero or homo and their attitude toward some sexual practices may change.
If you look around people they label themselves many different things, bisexual, pansexual, polysexual etc. - many different things that I probably can't explain well. Some say certain genders attract them, some say it is a personality thing, some are asexual but want emotional attachment, some want only sex.
So, what do we make of all this? I'd say that finding who you are is a continuous and ongoing process. So the way I see it, the rule of thumb should be: do what comes natural to you at the time, and allow others to do that as well. Labels don't matter. If your friend and the girl want to pursue this - they should. If not - don't.
You do what both of you think is right. Isn't this what relationships are about, really?
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Most people are uncomfortable with the uncertainty. Without a label to place on someone, they don't know whether to approve or not. It's so much easier to judge someone based on a preconceived notion of a label, rather than just accepting that person for who, not what they are.
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Yeah, sad but true. Still, we can always hope people will become more open minded in the future.
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She is a woman, she made a choice. All the rest doesn't matter.
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The fuck. She can be whatever the fuck she wants. If I was female I'd probably be a lesbian too :3
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+1 No doubt about it, women are more interesting personality wise and often take better care of themselves (gross generalizations). No probably about it for me!
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Everyone loves boobs. Even if they have their own.
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Forget labels, guys t_T Why is there that necessity for putting names to everything?
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This topic reminded me of something. Of all the girls I've been with, two of them told me later (like couple of years later) that they are now lesbians. And they never met and knew each other.
I was thinking this could be my supervillain origin story: The Lesbianator!
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xD Great supervillain name! I would definately watch the movie :D
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what the f- is wrong with you? what do you do to those poor girls?
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So you got both of them to switch to the other side? That's the opposite of what most guys want....times 2! XD
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You're still lucky...
My ex is really fucked up and I'm scared it's my fault...
She seemed quite normal, but turned out to be a complete /b/-tard...
After we broke up, she dated one of my best friends for a while(until he realized she was mentally unstable), aaaaaand after that she started harassing both genders, kissed a girl out of the blue, she goes to concerts to get groped and sleeps on the streets for no reason (though she apparently did that before I even met her)
So yeah...I'd say you're a pretty lucky guy
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A dream of every single man in the world.
A bisexual girlfriend.
Threesome!!!!
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Bisexual with female preference?
Plus why should we care about her sexuality? :D
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She is bisexual i guess , no problemo, the only trouble is the fact that she has a girlfriend and your friend should talk about it with that girl, getting your hands dirty with a person that is on a relationship is not good, except she is about to finish up the relationship.
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Friendship with benefits.
Lucky son of a sexy time.
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Ok, so i have some discussion going on with a friend of mine. He is a male 19 year old guy and he had a "sexy time" with a girl. The problem(^^) is:
We found later out, that she is (/was) a lesbian, and she had a girlfriend for about 2 years. On a party, she then had sex with my friend (male). He didn't put pressure on her, it nearly was all from herself (all of a sudden she dragged him into a room and....)
Now he says, that he had sex with a lesbian. I say, that she is not a "100%-lesbian". In my opinion she is bi-sexual and nothing more. So, what do you guys think about this?
EDIT: I have to say: After the party, she wrote him regarding that she "wants more"...
EDIT2: She was not drunk.
(sorry for bad english) ;)
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