Hey there everyone, I have come across a very beautiful, nice and super sweet cashier at a Frys food store that i think is extremely cute that just started working there. I got to talking to her cause she carded me for an alcohol purchase i made, well she had noticed that i am already 21 and that she is going to be 21 this Sunday. On top of that she had said she just moved here from Montana and doesn't know anyone other than her family. Id really like to take the steps necessary to show her im interested in getting to know her without sounding like a creep or a stalker lol.

Does anyone have any ideas on how i should go about potentially asking her out or even a way that i should ask if shed like to do something special for her 21? I have never been in this position before and im really wanting to make an attempt at a friendship or even a relationship. im not used to the whole dating thing and how it goes lol. I would loved to have given her my number but at the time i had no clue if that was the right step lol.

Any help would be much appreciated :D

Update on how things went:

Well just an update as to what has happened recently. The cashier did turn me down. But im honestly very glad it happened cause i was introduced to a girl by a friend and we hit it off very well. since this post ive gone on 2 dates with an amazing girl with a great heart and she is just as into me as i am with her, Today i was invited by her family to be apart of a family only bbq so i feel very special. Even though things didnt work out with the girl i had originally posted about things happened in an even better way. It just goes to show that everything happens for a reason even if you expect it or not. in my case it was something that happened when i least expected it and couldnt be happier

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I do not have any advice, but I believe in you!

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burn the cap you are wearing backwards and never wear it again
instead buy a fedora and ask her out "m'lady, it seems that it's your glorious birthday and I am obligated to offer you a good time" and tip the fedora
chicks dig that shit

no seriously, get her something very small, something cute and inexpensive for her birthday. Then offer to go and show some cool places you go to

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Two words or wait maybe three

"CASUAL" HOUSE PARTY

  1. All your friends get to have fun and hang out
  2. All your friends get to have fun and hang out
  3. Your new friend gets to have fun and hang out and also make potentially new friends
  4. Your new friend gets to have fun and hang out and also make potentially new friends
  5. ???
  6. Win Win insert casual "oh it's your birthday? happy birthday!"

Trust me, it works everytime. For more tips and/or a source please refer to How I Met Your Mother Season 1, Episode 2 - Purple Giraffe (8 May 2006)

If you don't know what a "casual" house party entails it's just you and your closest mates and then maybe some playing games drinking beer or alcohol of choice while snacking on some bbq or pizza's...if you have a pool your casual house party becomes a casual pool party.. which is even better. If you are rich or baller status and have a hot tub or a jacuzzi.. then why are you asking these questions yo you got all dat you need! now get some son!!!!! and report back to us the masses on your endeavours. Godspeed.

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Ask a friend to go and harass her, then walk up to them and punch said friend in the face. That should do it.

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Well all I can said is be yourself and just go and chat her up, get to know her and let her get to know you. Offering to show her around town is a good idea (like many before me already said) or even asking her if she'd like to grab a coffee after work, if she's new in town she'd problably would be happy for your friendship at the very least. And one last advice, we girls like guys who really listen to us, at least I know I do. If I talk to my boyfriend about something I like or dislike, I expect him to remember...

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just dont be too pushy and ask her out. She knows already if she finds you cute enough.. the rest will come knowing each other

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we are not really equipped with wisdom or experience to talk about it.
shyly shuffles away

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just approaching her and if its close enough then press X

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The best bit of advice I can give you is, just go for it. Be yourself, don't overthink, remaind confident and ask her if you can buy her a drink on her birthday. To me, it seems like she has already opened the door for you - mentioning she just moved her, is turning 21 and has nobody but her family. Just remember - the worst that can happen is she says no and life goes on.

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Works every time.

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Go through the checkout with a small bouquet or a single flower. When you're done checking out, just hand them right back to her, say something smooth, and give her a piece of paper with your phone number. Tell her to call if she's interested, then leave.

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That's a great advice, but aren't the flowers a bit too early in his case ?

edit : whatever, I'd go with your advice instead of mine, actually.

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I've honestly never asked a girl out before, but I met one that I'm highly considering doing so. So, maybe this thread will help both of us out.

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I almost at some similar situation, I work in a pharmacy and there is a girl who come once a week or so, thing is, I like her, at least she is really cute, she is frindly, laugh of my jokes and that kind of things really lovable in a girl.

I don't have a clue how to ask her to, not a date, but, I dont know, go out to take a Coffe (or to drink mates, an infusion here in argentina), or even a beer; I have like an scenic panic (is that the english word?), my coworkers (all women from 37 to 50) keep telling that I should ask her out, but I think that would be awkward.

It's not like im quasimodo but dont have self confidence :/

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comedy club, festival, outdoor concert, aquarium, zip lining... anything but a movie!

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Just be casual for now. Planning something too "special" this early on might seem a bit too creepy, in my opinion. D:
I can be wrong though. I'm weird and socially awkward myself. @~@

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I can't believe you just said that.
That sounds so odd coming from you.

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Ehehe... Herroooo, pip~

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What a stalker.

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Show her the town then take her out to lunch

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Yo, you should never ask someone out if they are at work. Either invite them out platonically first to get to know them or wait until they have the opportunity to say no in a casual, non-work setting. I'd also keep in mind that I doubt most people moving somewhere new immediately want a romantic partner before they get settled, so take it slow, let them build their own social circle a bit, and see if you get closer from there.

Also if she's turning 21 she might have her own plans for her bday, if I were you I'd invite her to have a drink sometime after she turns 21, at like a good bar you like or ideally a party or maybe concert, something very social and friendly, just hanging out kinda thing. That way you leave it open for her to invite you to her bday if she wants, or gives her the opportunity to say she doesnt have plans in which case you could offer to take her out to celebrate.

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Well just an update as to what has happened recently. The cashier did turn me down. But im honestly very glad it happened cause i was introduced to a girl by a friend and we hit it off very well. since this post ive gone on 2 dates with an amazing girl with a great heart and she is just as into me as i am with her, Today i was invited by her family to be apart of a family only bbq so i feel very special. Even though things didnt work out with the girl i had originally posted about things happened in an even better way. It just goes to show that everything happens for a reason even if you expect it or not. in my case it was something that happened when i least expected it and couldnt be happier

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