Sajnos sok szempontból ismerem a kiégés szintet, főleg amikor rengeteg időt és erőforrást ölsz dolgokba, emberekbe aztán nincs meg a jutalma és mind testileg mind lelkileg belebetegszel nem beszélve az anyagiakról. Örülök, hogy meg tudtad hozni ezt a lépést és mind egészségben mind a családod támogatásában jobb irányba tudtad fordítani az életed. Kitartást és jó egézséget a továbbiakhoz.
Életed hátralévő része még csak most kezdődik.
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I know what you mean. It's bad enough having to work night shifts but when it's in the middle of day shifts, your body can get real messed up.
I love my job but I can't see myself working that way for much longer.
I'm happy that you found something that is more suitable and I hope it helps. It's great that you're overcoming your introspective nature to make it work. Good luck with the new job.
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It is! Its not apparent right at the moment you start the job, but it gets worse so gradually, its hard to notice it in time. I hope you will soon have the chance to get a better job! By the way, what do you work?
And thank you! I am trying! This week I've started working without my mentors supervising me. Its unusual and I can always ask for help, but somehow I feel more confident by doing my work independently.
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I am a professional cook. Right now I'm working in the kitchen of a luxury hotel. Because there are 2 restaurants in the hotel the work is varied but it also means switching shifts and there's also a graveyard shift at night for room service and a breakfast shift that starts at 5am so my work hours are all over the place. Combined with insomnia that started when I was 5-6 years old, you do the maths lol
This week I've started working without my mentors supervising me. Its unusual and I can always ask for help, but somehow I feel more confident by doing my work independently.
They gave you the kids bike with the back wheels, it's ok. They just want to make sure you can manage on your own after the first push. They don't want newbies to get overwhelmed, I guess. But hey it's also good for your introversion ;)
We do have a mentoring system in the kitchen and it's really been great for people starting new. You get to learn the ropes and you get to form a relationship with people who can help you to progress further down the line.
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I read what happened to u....all of it. I hope u get things checked out by a doctor and make sure nothing else is wrong. Congrats on getting a better job and i hope things continue to go well for u!
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I will, I promise!
And also thank you, I hope You are doing well too!
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You did the right thing. Ultimately, this is better for your health and thus for your family.
When I was younger I worked in technical support for a bank and had weekly alternating shifts (normal, early or late shift), but only 8 hours plus break time. I hated it, especially as a commuter.
However after some good work and some promotion I had the chance to get rid of the early shift.
And after that I concentrated on getting a better job with just normal hours, which I thankfully now have. Right now it feels okay for me.
I think if the technical support work had been in one time frame - like 8 am to 5 pm - I could have stayed there longer. I consider alternating shifts every week unhealthy. Somewhere between monthly or quarterly change I would consider acceptable.
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Glad you think so! And also I am happy to hear you are working a better job with more bearable schedule!
Yes, commuting took around 1,5-2 hours of my day previously (in addition to the 12 hour shifts), so now, in home office, there is even more time for myself, which feels very nice.
It really is the alternating times though! Even common sense dictates that we cant expect our body to adapt to constantly changing circumstances.
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Congrats on the new job! May you provide good costumes to your customers.
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Thanks! I try! I still have to learn and adapt some more, but so far, I think I am doing pretty good.
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Congrats on the new job! Costumer Service doesn't sound bad, but probably hell for me, I'm super introverted :P
To be honest, interesting things that happened lately were not the good kind ^^" I've got offered a job though, but I still need to research about time, needed skills, those sort of stuff. Not bad
Take care! 🧡
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Thanks! And yeah, tell me about it! :D To most of my friends I am the most introverted person they know. At my first few calls it felt really weird, but now, after about 10 more, I slowly start to feel kind of confident.
I do hope the job offer you got ultimately proved to be right for you!
You too take care!
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Yeah, I thought I've learned a valuable lesson and I feel lucky to be still alive and that I am able to share it with others. It changed my perspective on life and I hope it could serve as a cautionary tale for others.
Thank you, best wishes to you too!
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Its really nice of You, thank you very much! I hope you are doing well too! :)
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I am literally in this unhealthy situation right now. Can't even quit the 12 hour a day job because no one else is hiring. Good on you for getting a better job and a healthier lifestyle.
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I do count my lucky stars to have had this opportunity right at the time I needed it the most.
I am rooting for you and hope you will have the chance to find a better, healthier job as soon as possible!
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Hi cybernet343, glad that you are feeling more optimistic and managed to get out of that treadmill more or less unharmed. :)
I have been in similar situations, although by now I hope I have learned my lessons. Still, I realised how quickly we can fall into traps we already know because they don't necessarily spring on us in a moment but sneak up on us. It is vital to keep in mind that (usually) our lives do not depend on a specific job and we need to focus on what makes life worth living. I have gladly taken pay cuts for jobs that were more fun (be it because of the job at hand, the working hours, the company spirit, the co-workers, the place where I would work and live,...) and it has paid off tremendously every time as I have ended up much happier than before (and than most of the people I went to school with or that I know in general).
Also, a side note: Make sure to take the time to get to know you and take care of yourself. For me that means not "wasting" my free time playing computer, basketball and all that but doing something for my soul and mind. I started meditating and playing guitar during the first Covid-related lockdown and I have kept that up (even though I need to push myself sometimes to just lay down and relax for half an hour - simply because I feel that I could actually do something, neglecting the fact that this is also doing something, namely something good for myself). It is so important to find the tools that work for you to relax, reflect and simply let go things you can't change.
See, that was my personal little wall of text. :D
All the best for you on your way forward, wherever it may lead you. Don't get attached to things (including a specific job) and focus on the things that make you feel wholesome.
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Thank you very much!
I am glad that you also arrived at this conclusion and can be happy with what these jobs offered! Yes, money is not everything and surely not what brings true joy (although not having enough money to even make a living can seriously hinder anyone in pursuing any goal other than surviving). While in my case it turned out for the better, I seriously would have taken a job that pays less, but only IF it were less demanding physically and time-wise.
Your other advice is also good! While gaming and basketball are not bad in and of themselves, we all should pursue activitites that give us meaning. The kind that can resonate with you. They help you get to know yourself better, let you express and fulfill yourself in new ways, give an outlet to your creativity and can also help in bettering yourself. Playing guitar and meditating sounds nice, I would love to learn the latter. I have at about a dozen such hobbies, including drawing, photography, running, growing chili peppers (and gradually other plants), filming, writing, darts, table tennis and the list goes on. To be honest, I am the other end of the spectrum. I am interested in too many things and I am constantly changing my priority. xD Well, with more freetime from now on, I will try to come up with a schedule or plan that could help in focusing my efforts.
The feeling that I should do something, even if what i need is some rest, is also familiar. I am like that too, I have to remind myself that sometimes not doing anything in particular is the right choice. We need some moments of clarity and recharge.
Thanks again for your kind words and good advices, best wishes to You too!
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Oh, I am interested in way too many things myself as well. :D
It makes it difficult sometimes to pursue one thing long enough so I can reap its merits (like learning to play the guitar), but I am getting better in compartmentalising and putting time and effort into a handful of things before moving on or deciding to stick with one of them for longer. That lack of focus, as others have described it, also applies to my professional career. My education was very diverse (for example I finished a graphics&design college as well as a mechatronics apprenticeship later in my life, amongst several other things) and so was my "career". But now I am in a position where that diversity actually is very appreciated and my original despair (why does everyone else know what they want and I don't?) turned into a fulfilling life. I had a handful of job interviews where companies literally told me they wanted to hire me but needed to think where I would fit best or whether they would have to define a new role for me. And I am with one of these companies now for about three-and-a-half years and running, with lots of interesting opportunities.
So whether it is through "proper" education or sheer interest, once you build up knowledge about the things that interest you (which also means you will learn quickly and eagerly) there are a surprising amount of companies who are very interested in hiring you for your experience and ability to think outside of the constraints of a specific specialist role and combine all that you have learned.
Also, in regards of you wanting to "learn" meditating. If you just sit/lie down and focus on your breath, that is all you need. You will get distracted, you will have a myriad of thoughts running through your head. But you are already meditating by taking time aside for yourself. And with time and practice you will learn to let those thoughts pass by like clouds without judging them or hanging on to them. Then, there are days where you simply can't and you nonetheless successfully meditate because you took the time. Just focusing on taking these deep breaths and making yourself aware that the time belongs to you. Not just when you meditate but at all times. It is your time. You decide. :)
And the most important part: Don't take anything too seriously, especially yourself. :)
Sending good thoughts your way. 💙
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I see, so we are similar in that regard. :) Nice to occasionally meet someone with such a wide scale of interest.
In my case, the diversity of my knowledge and experiences rarely come in handy and even then it was mostly outside of work. In the university I've learned Earthsciences, which in and of itself is full of interdisciplinary subjects. xD But there is a surprising advantage to this. I have learned to see the world from a wider perspective, see events as a logical result of interconnected systems. Economy, geography, ecology, history, politics, it all comes together. It helps a lot in understanding global events.
I am in a weird positin, where despite my introverted nature, I can connect with many people by finding common points of interest with them. Whatever they are interested in, chanses are I have at least some surface-level relevant knowledge and experience, which makes it easier to talk to anyone in general.
Thank you for your wise words, I will certainly try to make use of my newfound freetime and start out with meditation! In the meantime, I am thinking of making use of my passion for gaming and visual media, maybe by making a small indie game in a few years. Its one more hobby added to the heap, granted, but I feel like many of my interests converge there, so it may be useful to experiment with the possibilities.
Take care and stay healthy!
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Having an overview and being able to draw connections between different disciplines is wonderfully satisfying on any level. And it gives you a much better position to decide on your values or come to conclusions ins various situations.
If you do decide to create a game, let me know. I would love to see what comes out of your mind. :)
Take care, all the best to you!
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Pretty impressive 70 comments and good wishes, but this once again (not the first time I've seen this reaction in SG) it makes me ponder what kind of world we're living in where getting a job, even any job, not just a decent one, is a subject of so much talk and thought as so much good luck.
Because yes, we're all aware in these times getting a job is a real good reason to say "congratulations".
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I myself was surprised about the amount of reactions I got! People here are generally really nice.
I think we can always find an excuse to cherish each other's important moments and in my case, a good opportunity presented itself when I needed it the most. I truly feel blessed. But I also agree, that these days, even getting any job could feel like a blessing. Which makes me realize that, what we often take for granted should be cherished and we should be more thankful for our opportunities.
Humanity always pursued some kind of utopistic, idealized future, where each of us could live a relatively carefree, fulfilling life, but despite our advancements and achievments in many regards, whenever that utopia seems to come closer, we also take a step backwards in another regard. When we solve a problem, we seemingly create another.
While it should be noted that our modern world is (generally speaking) much better than what most of our ancestros had to deal with, and many of us should feel exceptionally thankful, it also should be remembered that there is still much to do, much to improve upon.
Oddly, while we are at it, I do wonder what would be meaningful to us if we would minimize most hardships in life. I mean, for many of us, overcoming them felt like a calling, it gave us purpose and fulfillment. To what extent should we struggle, to still keep room for improvement and keep hold of our motivation?
Whew... its been long since I've got this philosophical. xD
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Why does this advice sound so weirdly specific... :D
Thanks! I cant speak in Minato's stead but if I will ever have kids I personally promise that I wont do so! xD
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EDIT: I am taken aback by the amount of good wishes! I mean, I did expect some responses but not so many, especially in such a short time! Thank you all for your kind words, I will eventually answer each comment, just please, be patient with me!
Hello everyone! Hope your new year is going well so far!
Feel free to share if something interesting happened to you lately! In my case, it was a new job, which I'd like to tell you about.
This is certainly not an excuse to clear out my remaining bundle key list, pinkie promise!
Heck, am I bad at lying! For the gibs, kindly take this short, low value train of four carts: First cart
Well, I opened with the promise of a short story, so here comes nothing:
Previously I worked in Debrecen (second most populated city of Hungary), in a factory as a second operator on a printing press, owned by one of the largest american printing companies (I'll let you guess). I worked there for almost six years. It was not all bad, the job itself was not unbearable and the collegues were nice enough. But I had alternating day and night shifts of 12 hours. At the start, I did not really care about it. I was young and optimistic. Sure, it was not pleasant and it was really tiring, but me working in this job was vital for the wellbeing of my family. I had to do it unless I wanted to condemn my mother, my younger borther and myself to homelessness. So i was like... I can do it! I will force trough it! I thought its just a matter of time and I will get used to it.
But somehow it never really happened. My circadian rythm became messed up, I often felt weary, unmotived and sleep-deprived. But for a long time it did not result in anything serious, just general grumpyness and discomfort. So I kept pushing on.
Unexpectedly, in last december, I received a warning from my body. After a longer worksession, topped with some overwork and lack of sleep, I've gone to the cinema to watch the new Spiderman movie. I was tired on undescribeable levels, but we have purchased the tickets well in advance with my family and I did not want them to go to waste. At around the tenth minute of the movie, totally unprecedented, something happened to my heart that I have never felt before. I am not sure if it was a kind of spasm, or a momentary heart rythm disturbance. All I know is that it felt bad and very, very scary. I felt dizzy and for a second, I thought I would never leave this movie theater on my own legs...
Fortunately, it did not last long and I've got better in a matter of seconds. But this occurence really made me re-evaluate my attitude towards work. These shifts and long workhours are really unhealthy and in the long run they can lead to serious health issues. I knew it, but as it had no consequences up until that point, I did not mind it too much.
But ever since that moment, I was desperate to find another job that is less demanding physically. I hope its understandable that I did not wish to die yet in the 30th year of my life. No matter the pay.
Luckily, my sister, who lives in Budapest, recently got hired for a costumer service job. Its 8 hours of work, no night shifts, it can be done from home office and the pay is much better than at my previous workplace. She helped me to get in contact with the company and fortunatley I was also hired.
I cant tell you how relieved I got, after I've got the new job. It felt like I was saved from an untimely demise, as dramatic as it sounds. And on top of that, I can keep supporting my family and after years of struggle, things really look optimistic for the future.
Not gonna lie though, as a very introverted person, costumer service sounds kind of intimidating and bothersome. But overall, this seems far better than dying in the cinema (really puts things into perspective). And with the shorter workhours, I feel like I can focus more on my hobbies and personal interests. I look forward to this as its likely a new opportunity for a better, more fulfilling life.
I've just completed my first week of training for the new job and I wanted to share my optimistic joy with all of you!
If you have read this wall of text, thank you! Take care and please, look out for your health! I know how providing financial support for our family or even ourself can make it feel like we are trapped at one job, that we practrically depend on it, but the truth is, the trap is mostly in our heads, its not always real.
I do realise not everyone is so fortunate to live in a developed country, where they can make a living AND have the luxury to choose among a list of alternative jobs (if there are any to begin with), but if you are in a similar situation like I was and there are possible alternatives to a demanding job, please, do consider a change, before it will be too late! Do work hard if you want to build a better life, but not at the cost of your life!
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