How to get over a breakup

Assuming for the moment that you've read all the responses from other people, there's some good advice in there. (And then there's some that isn't quite so good.) I think I may be able to help clarify a few things for you, however, seeing as how I have extensive experience in being dumped. I'll spare you the details, but let's just say I'm something of an expert.

So, let's start by going over the basics.

You've been in a long-term relationship. You've gotten used to having this other person in your life, and you've gotten used to being in a relationship. You've also been dreaming about "how it will all be, someday." Losing all of that is painful. Really painful. Your emotions are in turmoil due to "the loss," and your body is trying to deal with the withdrawal symptoms you're experiencing. (Being in love is very similar to being a drug-addict.) You now have two choices: stay "stuck" in this moment of time and suffer "forever," or move on to something better. I'm going to assume that you want things to improve, so let's look at how to move on to something better.

1) It really is all in your mind. (ATTITUDE)
Yes, I know your heart hurts, but you only feel this way because of your perspective. How we choose to look at things colors how we feel about them. (e.g. "Crap! I missed my plane and now my life is ruined!" versus "Yay! I dodged that flight and now can rearrange my itinerary to suit my purposes!") You need to get from an "I've lost everything" mentality to "This is the opportunity I've desperately needed to improve my life." Years from now, you're going to look back on this moment and be thankful and pleased that it happened this way.

2) Don't stay in the "hole" of depression. (ACTION)
You can choose to avoid the pain, but that doesn't make it go away. When my third fiancee dumped me on the day of the wedding, I tried to numb the pain by eating ice-cream. The problem is that putting a band-aid on your owie doesn't fix it if you don't start the healing process, first. Instead of trying to cover the pain up or ignoring it, move away from it. Get out and spend time with happy people to improve your mood. Exercise to get some of that dopamine you're missing. Touch the lives of other people in a positive way to remind yourself that your existence is important to others. Emotions may inspire actions, but actions also affect emotions. Force yourself to behave like the person you want to be and the rest of you will follow.

3) Life is pursuit, so pursue it.(MOVEMENT)
Some people think about "ending it all," but that's a cop-out. If you want to avoid pain, you have to move past it. (See #2.) The fact that you can feel pain is a reminder that you're alive and can therefore feel other things as well. Pain is always temporary, so you want to hurry up and get to those "other things." Getting on with your life not only makes you feel better, it produces a stronger, purposeful, more confident you, and that is attractive to other people.

4) Look forward, not back. (DIRECTION)
You may or may not forget about the past, but you certainly can't live in it. Part of the pain of breaking up is the loss of "what might have been." Understand that what you had in your mind was just a dream, not reality. Reality is in the present, not the past, not the future. Learn from the past, make a new dream for the future, and live in the present. Your "ex" may see you going on with your life and decide it was a mistake to let you go, but even if that happens, you will be in a much better position to consider the offer once you have your head on straight. (That, and you may have two, three, or even more people vying for your affection.) TIP: Healthy women are attracted to men who have healthy, full lives, not men who are needy and desperate to "fill a void."

5) Don't try to "force" life, just embrace reality. (ACCEPTANCE)
Whenever one door closes, another one opens. When you have a good attitude, are actively participating in your life (instead of reacting to it), and are moving in the direction you've chosen in life, you are ready and able to respond to the opportunities it will bring your way. Not only will there be "other chances," there will be better chances. Shape your life so that when a better opportunity does come around, you are ready to seize it with both hands. When it arrives, you'll be ready, and in the meantime, your life will have meaning and value.

I hope that I have written something useful to you. If you want someone to talk to about it, you can try reaching me on Steam (accountname Khalaq).

"get over it" means to give your attention elsewhere.

attention is power and where you direct its focus there it goes manifesting..

just choose what you really want next and accept the whole outcome of your choices.

be wise about your choices.

I just usually masturbate in a corner....... OH GOD I AM SO LONELY!

Accept your reality before judging it, get out of that "my life is falling apart" idea, and move on.

TIP: That "move on" happens at the same time as you accept things and get out of that depression, it's harder for some, easier for others, but you'll get there eventually. For the moment, keep living your life, keep going to work/studying/both, and at one moment you'll realize she wasn't your whole life, your life didn't fall apart, and you can live without her.

(this is all assuming you're at least 18/19 yrs old btw).

chat to other girls, and shag another one...i promise that will help a lot.

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Back on the horse, fellah

I been there and it was terrible. You just got to hang out with your family and friends. Through them you will see there is more to life than just the girl. Cheer up, there are other fishes out there :).

I don't understand how you people lose your women. You must not be tying the knots correctly.

Physical Exercise, good for depression in general and there is nothing like being exhausted to clear your mind.
Just decide to be happy. Sometimes it takes work and a conscience decision to get over depression. You have to decide from this point on to be happy, then pretend you are and you would not imagine how much that can help, Immediately and over time.

Just wanted to say some of these comments really crack me up.

I think you should find another girl :D

I'll not say "You'll go back together" and stuff 'cause it's hard to say so, or taking any position about, without knowing the problem. The fact is: you need to do your best from now and let time passes. Time cures everything, but sometimes it takes a while... If it's possible to manage through the breakup to try to be with her again, that's cool, but don't push her too much. Let her have the required space until things settle up. But, if the reason for the breakup was something really bad you did... Then you really have to work hard. Don't give up of your love, but know how to respect her as well.

In the meantime, try to work your body and mind. Pursue your peace of mind, because you're nothing without it. I really wish you the best of luck.

It just takes time.

For my worst breakup, it took me around 6 months after to start being somewhat over it and not depressed. One day I watched an episode of The Joy of Painting... use to watch it every day as a kid. It flipped a switch in me, and was actually happy for the first time again.
It worked for me, but the main thing is time.

hit the gym