Where did you first meet your significant other?
I met my wife by chance one day on a motorcycle circuit while I was doing a few rounds. Two months before my girlfriend left me after more than 6 years of relationship, the thing is that while I was with her, she would "not let me enter" the circuit and the day I met my wife was the first time I entered!
My advice is do not stop doing what you like most because love appears where and when you least expect it, you haven't to search for it. Be yourself and he/she will appear in your life. Once you meet him/her, you'll know it ;)
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IRC, we were on a common cyber-friend channel, and started talk because ultima online (for young people: on a chat, and started to talk because a mmorpg)
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I 'met' my wife while listening to an C64/Amiga remix radio show in the chat of that show. Let's say it wasn't the place I would have expected to find my SO :)
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Through a friend. He forcefully dragged me out of my depression hole and it paid off
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blind-date thru mutual friends. 17years and three kids later, here i am. xD
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My longest relationship lasted 4½ years, and I met him through League of Legends.
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I thought you were still with someone. Looks like I'm bad at keeping up with SG rumors.
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:O and what does SG rumors say?
But I didn't say anything about being in a relationship now or not. Only mentioned the longest one I've been in. :)
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"Rumors" actually don't say much XD I only used the term because the expression I would have used in the first place sounds really rude when translated to English. I just thought I remembered you talking about your boyfriend here once.
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Lol, I see! And yeah, I did. :) But that's a while ago. That's actually the one I was with for 4½ years! I broke up with him last summer and moved back to my home country.
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Too bad it didn't work out :/ I wish you more luck in your love life in the future.
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Why did you move back home if you don't mind my asking? And where from?
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Always lived in Denmark, but after 2½ years in the relationship I decided to move down to him in Germany. 2 years later I broke up and moved out of his apartment and got my own in Denmark.
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On a friend's IRC channel.
Relationship ended the same way, although we're still on good terms.
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My wife used to date one of my best friends.
A few years after they broke up we met at a concert and since then we're together.
We did see/speak eachother sometimes before that concert though, we hung around in the same bars.
Oldschool, internet was still in the early days
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I married my bartender. 10 years and 2 kids later still happy.
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in my 20 years i did not had any girlerino or relationships with them, but i have over 1k games in my steam library, SeemsBadMan
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Dating site as strange as it is. Why strange? Because before this one i never used one in my life and all my relationships started in some facetoface situation.
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she was part of a large group of friends, but i never paid much attention to her because I thought she was kinda dumb.
one day after i failed a final my best friend convinces me to come to his place to play trivia. i love trivia.
so i go to his house and she was there. ok, let's play..
she beat the shit out of me.
twice.
i was hooked. we dated for 2 years and have been married for 11 more.
moral: never judge a book etc, etc
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chapter 2:
actually, i wasn't totally hooked right there. after that day all our friends went on vacation, and we were the only two on town.
so we started hanging out. as friends.
after two weeks our friends return:
friend: "so you're dating with F., eh?"
me: "dating? no.., we've just gone out a couple of times"
friend: "how many times?"
me: "let's see, like.. 12?"
friend: "...dude. you're dating"
me: "no, i told y.......... oh.."
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Haha funny story. But the whole thing about don't judge a book by its cover, totally true.
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To make long story short: a girl asks me to go on a kinda date with her -> she brings a friend -> I like her friend better :D It has happened to me second time. Funny thing is they are both best friends, have the exact same name and their parents also have exactly same names :D Yes, they sare still friends :P
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How is that even possible. I mean with the names. What are the odds of that :o
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None of the provided options fit for me. We've been together a bit over 8 years now.
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I met mine in an MMO, The Secret World. We'd been playing in groups for a long time, months, doing your standards dungeons and whatnot. Then, as with most other games at some point, I got enough of it, and I quit. Told her and a few others we could keep contact on Steam, maybe play something else once in a while. A long time passed where we didn't really talk. Then after a while, I pushed her into buying Diablo 3, so she did, and we started playing together. We startet spending more and more time together online, and at some point she said that if I was ever in the eastern part of Russia, I'd be welcome to visit. (I live in Denmark). Odds were fairly low that I'd ever just randomly be in that part of Russia, because it was not exactly a tourist atraction or anything either. But after a week or two thinking about it I asked her if she actually meant it, and she said she did. So I played a bit with the thought of actually visiting her, which in September 2014 I did. Since she said I could visit her, and until I actually visited her, our relationship had already taken on a lot more then just friendship. We knew already that we'd fit perfectly together. First time I met her, we met in a nice long hug. Been with her since, and I don't see that changing in this life :)
On another note, I'm sorry to hear you having troubles in your relationship. But I can't blame you for wanting to get out, if you're not both willing to make it work. Maybe it's just better to move on then. Get some distance, and focus on the future.
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nice. how do you make it work though? is it a long distance thing, or did any of you moved?
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It is indeed a long distance thing at the moment yes. The plan is that when it's possible for us, she'll be moving here to Denmark. It's unfortunately a few years into the future. It's hard for both of us, but we make it work because we're both determined to make it work :)
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with my current girlfriend (and I bet future wife) we met on the University, chat through facebook before our first date... 1 year and 3 months together by now :)
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Dang, I'm actually really surprised online is the most voted. I know we're all internet nerds but still, wasn't aware it was so common.
Well it was for a few years but no longer a thing if that still counts.
Funnily enough it was in church... and no, I'm not the religious type, nor was she. This was a hella long time ago back when I was 14. My mother is incredibly religious and her rule was me and my brother had to go to church every week until we reached 18. On this particular week she'd already been to mass so she dropped me and my brother off while she went to do some shopping. My brother, who was 17, instantly left when she drove away to go meet his friends but I was too scared to defy her because she can get pretty serious when it comes to this kinda stuff, so I went in to the upstairs where it was always quiet, hung out in the corner and instantly just started texting my friends.
One of which was a girl I'd recently been introduced to and had been trading pics with because that's what 14 year olds do. After a bit of chatter and mild flirting she told me that she was actually like 10 minutes away from me and asked if she wanted some company so obviously I was like fuck yeah, and we'd never met up until that point so the fact that it was while I was in the middle of a mass didn't help with how nervous I was.
So yeah, ten minutes later she arrives, we start having fun by doing stupid stuff like poking each other and trying to make each other laugh during the sermon, then we were politely asked to leave by one or two fellow churchfolk after I confused her when we were meant to kneel and I told her to stand until she looked behind her and realised there was about 20 eyes on her and hung her head in shame and an unstoppable laughing fit.
So we and waited outside for the mass to end, continued to have a bit of fun, texting went on to the 100's per day then the following weekend we met up again and things escalated heavily from there. It lasted about two years until... eugh... a series of unfortunate and obnoxious events occurred and I just had to get out of it. 12 years now since that ended and I've pretty much avoided serious relationships ever since. I lost a lot of good friends after that ended and that cut me pretty deep, I miss those people a lot more than I'll ever miss her, so I've yet to be convinced it's worth doing again. Had a few flings here and there but avoided getting anywhere serious with anyone. Kind of felt like taking the risk in recent years because it's been a long ass time and I do miss the comfort of a serious relationship, but every time I even begin to consider it I instantly thinking about how much I lost and can't imagine going through that again.
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That's a great story. Sorry to hear it ended like that, but I hope (It looks like) you can at least look back at the good times.
I've been surprised myself quite a bit lately at how common the whole online meetings are. I thought my relationship was unique, turns out not at all! But I also do probably still think it a bit like I did 15-20 years ago where the internet was not THAT old at least, and back then I felt it was pretty unique. Maybe I'm just getting old :o
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That's probably it honestly, old people getting old. Online dating was kind of unheard of back then for me too and I just never really paid much attention to it when it started going mainstream. There was a guy I used to live with who met someone different on Tinder every week and it made me uncomfortable as hell so I avoided it even more after that.
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My sister has a friend that is, or at least was, much the same as the guy you lived with. I always found it a bit funny, and I often asked how it was going with him, just to get a good laugh that now he was again dating someone else.
On a serious note though, I can certainly understand why you or many other people would feel uncomfortable with Tinder and the likes. I'm a fairly awkward guy when it comes to women, and I'm not the one all the ladies look at when I'm walking down the street. At least not for the right reasons! I never really considered Tinder anything for me, purely by the way it works. And I'm speaking a bit hypocritical here, because I've never actually used it, so my view of it could be entirely wrong. But for me it just seemed like a place for what the what the general public considered sexy and beaufitul, to get some fast hookups (For whatever it might be). And I don't know why, but I always categorized that kind of online dating from "real" online dating. Websites with serious people, looking for something more then just "fun", willing to put at least a bit of time in to get to know you.
Bleh, I hope it makes sense. I don't know how many more ways I can rewrite it.
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At least not for the right reasons!
Oh god, don't I know that feeling
But yeah I getchu. It's hard to consider Tinder online "dating" when a lot of the time there's hardly even a date involved, just two people getting together for a little bit of rumbly tumbly and then going their separate ways. Which is what just makes it even more mindboggling. The fact that there's so many men and women alike that are so desperate for sex that they'd be willing to first of all meet a complete stranger for it, like ew god knows where they've been, especially when it's someone who meets strangers for sex, and second of all risk meeting someone online that you don't even know in the first place potentially putting yourself in danger just to quench your thirst of arousal. At least something like OkCupid is more reasonable considering people are actually interested in starting something serious with someone.
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I think it also depends highly on who you are. I myself would never be able to just have random sex with people. Not even considering diseases or other random dangers. But, I was also never really part of that "generation" or that environment, so it's difficult for me to understand what's so appealing with it, other then the obvious "fix".
But I think it's just as you said, old people getting old. We just don't understand these crazy young people :o
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Interesting story, thanks and sorry at the same time! BTW I lost someone too, because she was jealous :( Currently I'm thinking it's best to avoid relationships with people who demand your attention all the time and get jealous too easy. If something goes south you're left with tons of lost time and many lost friends. If she can't accept it, better lose her, otherwise it's a gamble with a high stake.
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Sucks to hear, man. It's not really something I personally experienced but I definitely agree, the jealously thing sounds like a recipe for disaster and frustration, especially if they're overly clingy.
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It's always very difficult when it comes to love. People will have different versions of it, different veiws, and all sorts of different advice.
I can only speak for myself, but I realised at some point that I'd rather live and die alone, then live with someone who couldn't accept me for who I am, and love me for both my good and bad sides. Someone, who's main mission in life was not to mold me into her perfect husband, but someone who'd already say I was the perfect one just the way I was.
I know it's a cliche, and something that make some people vomit, but speaking from experience, when you find her, you won't be in doubt.
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Who needs a SO when you have i waifu?
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Poh T_T Man I haven't played BnS in like a year now, the P2W got absolutely out of control.
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Someone that doesn't like when devs gradually turn their games more and more P2W?
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What makes you think it's P2W? The only problem i see is the grind. A lot of grind
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I don't think it's P2W, it is? There literally is no grind if you have money. I used to lead the 2nd biggest clan on our server and we were highly competitive getting to #1, but it was impossible because the day they released legendary weapons, half the members of the #1 clan already had them fully upgraded within hours. They were nicknamed "The Wallet Warriors" by everyone else on our server. I don't know how you could possibly think the game isn't P2W with all the trove events they do and when they have points that you could literally just buy Cold Storage reset tickets and Soulstones/Moonstones from the shop for money...
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I know this is sort of a necro/derail, but I when I was playing as a BM(quit around october-ish 2016, I believe? Played since May IIRC, so not too long) I recall bumping into someone had a nice chat about how apparently the American servers are the only ones that are P2W, so to speak. The explanation being that the Asian/European servers require you to buy the game or buy a 1-time subscription(I forget which one it was) and the companies running those servers are generally not greedy and, well, incompetent? Hehe.
Yeah, I quit because of the grind. Excuse me for this slight derailing on your comment chain, but the people on the server I played on (crimson chat, Uuuughhh...) were pretty rude and obnoxious about it, going so far as to say the grind can easily be passed, despite how ridiculously incorrect that is. One of the people was a summoner main so, y'know, yeah. Anyways, I got stuck at the harbour dungeons/sets and ignoring the huge money troubles the American servers have(apparently loot and money drops are WAAAAY better on Asian servers), it was pretty much impossible to get past those tiers since no one wanted to help me out whenever I asked for it, aside from people who would do it once just to shut me up. God, that server's population was so toxic and disgusting. Most people just told me to solo the harbour dungeons as if it's just that simple - I could barely even survive Poh as a Blademaster because of my equipment. Quite possibly one of the most depressing MMO experiences I've had as everyone made me feel very weak and stupid, although apparently it's not uncommon in that game specifically.
Your thoughts? I feel like no one talks about BnS and it gets a "pass", so to speak(my experiences anyways), but it's actually a very interesting and fun game. The outfits are also really neat, too.
Sorry, I just saw the chance to talk about this :P. The forums and the Reddit aren't too hospitable. The Reddit advice I got was essentially "ask for help and you'll get some" hahaha... Funny! Also, no clans ever wanted me / I didn't fit the "requirements" for most clans. Sad, really.
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Also, the soulstone/moonstone monopoly in the game is actually disgusting, since it essentially(in my opinion, I guess) runs the economy of that game(the battlegrounds on the plains, for example) and they so damn much for anyone who doesn't have a farming source for money.
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I'm too half asleep to type up my typical fashion essays right now, 6am here and still up, but I'll share my rants and bants with you tomorrow, good sir.
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(Sorry about the wall of text but it's kind of what you sign yourself up for when you try to have a discussion with me)
So I have no real idea how things go on the US servers, and EU was fine up until the point that they released legendary weapons, I had a great amount of fun with the game. Played it basically every single day for at least 5+ hours. There was a huge race between my clan and the other #1 clan to becoming the best and we put a huge amount of worth in to it. I had teams that would farm SSP every single day for like 10 hours just to get Dye for our outfit with scouts on every channel to see which was the best to hop to next, and had 6 dedicated leaders for Cold Storage who would gather the tokens from the main + bonus boss so we could exchange them for outfit parts, dedicated PvPers who did nothing but 1v1 all day, and World Dragon teams with our top BM/KFM tanks who knew the rotation perfectly would solo gain aggro on the dragon while we killed one on another channel and again with scouts in every channel so we could note down respawn timers and get aggro before the other top clan (as well as griefers who would try to reset their aggro because we hated each other).
It took a lot of time and effort but it was the most fun I'd had leading a clan in any game easily. Eventually we overtook their clan and danced around in our badass looking outfits compared to their bargain bin trash, but motivation quickly fell after that because things were just never the same since the legendary patch day. The requirements for joining their clan were incredibly high but because they were #1 for so long (because they bought their way to clan rank 15 almost instantly and were the only one on the server for a long time while we hard to work together to farm for it and became the second. This was a clear example of how the grind could easily be bypassed. And don't even get me started on battlegrounds once they came out. Being paired against them was a waste of time to play. When P2W starts to intervene with PvP, that's a serious problem.) so they pretty much got all the whales on their server joining them, half the clan had legendary weapons the day they came out, hence being called "The Wallet Warriors" and they even stooped so low and to start privately messaging my top members offering them gold to leave my clan and join theirs because they had trouble keeping their numbers high as their members were embarrassed to be associated with them once the name-calling started going around and began to leave.
I can't say I had many experiences with trouble getting into dungeons etc seeing as we had plenty of members. Unfortunately we were one of the clans that had moderate requirements to join but that's just how it goes if you want fast clear teams when you're trying to be competitive. We made exceptions for friends of friends kind of thing but it made it incredibly frustrating because they always slowed down everything. Like yeti dungeon for example we could clear in a matter of minutes with our normal team, then to have a guy who got in because of a vouche die to dumb stuff like not knowing about the ice freezing etc... yeah.
Don't even get me started on the outfits, it's what kept me in the game for so long, they were absolutely incredible. And then getting to design and colour your own that only members of your clan can wear? Absolutely fantastic. Getting our perfect clan outfit motivated me more than anything to continue playing the game, it wasn't until about a month after we finally completed it that I quit the game along with 3 or 4 of my top farmers because we kind of considered that our end-game goal and didn't really have anything fun left to do. Clearing Asura 10 times a day was just boring as hell and then they released new dungeons that were even easier so we just kind of stopped caring.
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also sorry but I forgot to mention that the "dungeon community" of the US servers(maybe the game overall) were just overly toxic, so it ran me away from the game. As I mentioned, I was never able to get into a clan and my faction / the server itself didn't have any nice/helpful people and restarting a character from scratch sucks. I wasn't able to really do any dungeons without either embarrassing myself or just straight up being rejected when trying to find groups to do them(because you get access to the dungeons long before people say you "should be ready" and the grinding for upgrading equipment was awful. I just couldn't do it past harbour(sorry forget the name, I apologise). Getting soulstones but not actually being able to do SSP was just a crushing defeat. I basically couldn't do anything to progress past the point I was at(I even had trouble getting through the main story at around lvl 50~, barely even beat the main story arc at all, and then after beating the "lady in black", I had to basically give up, it was too tough for my setup I had, I got so much hate/mockery for this stuff alone). The constant mockery of my situation plus the fact that I had nothing I could do solo that would make noticeable and worthwhile progress for me(I also wasn't very good at the game overall, so I contribute this to it too, but everyone else kind of came together as a whole problem personally) had me quitting very quickly. It was sad, it's a very good game overall, I suppose. I just couldn't deal with the terrible community and how grindy the game was. It was also very difficult because it was very grindy, and falling behind in equipment without help is pretty bad in the game, in my experience. Maybe I don't know anything at all and I just straight up suck, I have no idea.
It's just that with the dungeons, I never got the chance to learn any of them, even with poh because I straight up couldn't even survive in that fight (as BM, I aggro'd a lot, and so it kind of sucked to die, be spawned behind the fire wall, and be unable to get back). I was always given tips on what dungeons to do, I was at HM+3~ IIRC, and I kept on being told to do yeti and cold storage, despite my equipment, and that I just had to find a group to do it with, as if I was familiar with the dungeon or that I'd find a group at all. Just bad experiences with the community overall, personally. Couldn't even get the chance to do any of the late-game dungeons despite how much I was suggested to try them. I was definitely one of those people that would slow down everything and just overall suck, I hope that doesn't bother you, though I'd understand. I've also been less-than-average at everything video game related.
Anyways, very nice post. Nice to talk to someone else who doesn't immedietally suggest that I 'git gud', or anything along those lines. I just had horrible experiences with BnS and I did eventually look around to see other opinions, I'm not the only one who thinks the overall community is kind of uh... Not great. At least on American servers. I just have terrible experiences with mmos. Your post was fun to read! Cheers!
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I've come to a point in my relationship, where I don't want to continue it. If nothing changes in the meantime, I'll be single by the end of the week. This situation drove me toward the following question: How did you meet your significant other? I mean someone you either married or have been with for long years.
Feel free to vote, and let me know your stories in comments! ;)
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