Where did you first meet your significant other?
meet her through a friend of a friend of a friend. been together for 5 years between high and low. we separated a mouth ago.
... for the third time :facepalm:
always end up looking for each other. heard her just this morning.
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5 years is hella lot of time, I'm not surprised you want to get back together, especially if it was one bad event versus many good ones. On a different note though, if she can't control her emotions, is she really a good life partner?
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we both want to. thing is, she is a fervent christian and wants to get marry. i would want it too but im not ready... first of all economically as i dont have a stable job. basically i do not feel to take such an important decision without the adequate conditions for doing so, while she want to take the big step no matter what.
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Sorry, I can't answer that poll as there is no SO out there for me.
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Pretty Little Liars Whats App Group Chat xD Well and now we are together for 3 years :b
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Was burnt by love too many times (probably due to my being attracted to "bad" boy types) and having just ended a 5+ year controlling relationship, being a young single mom i decided to go back to study. That's where i met my SO. With him being a few years younger than myself, i didn't take him seriously when he started pursuing me.
After winning me over with romantic gestures i decided to give him a try with the condition that it won't be serious. Now a kid and 11 years later we're still together to my surprise so never give up hope and always be open to new opportunities as you'll find love when you least expect it. Don't give up hope ;)
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Dating site. She wrote to me but I was just coming out from a bad breakup so I didn't answer back at the time.
She had long forgotten about it when I finally answered back 3 months later, and had to go look my profile up to even remember who I was.
That was 11 years ago... time does fly.
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I finally answered back 3 months later
Whew, Zombys really are slow, aren't they :P
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I met my SO in high school over 10 years ago. We didn't date until it was over but we had already been friends.
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In my dreams, but she always leaves when I wake up ;_;
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I don't think so, but thanks for saying it anyway. Didn't mean to bum you out even more. Still it's better to leave a relationship that's not working than staying together just so you aren't alone. You have to leave the wrong person, before you can meet the right one, I don't think many people would be able to make that hard decision though, so good for you ^^
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Seeing as you don't have the "while working as a missionary" option, I guess "workplace" is the closest out of the list!
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I met the mother of my daughter when she came to do her PhD in the lab I was working at (I was finishing mine at the time). She became a part of my project and I kind of took her under my wing (in more ways than one).
We started getting along increasingly well and it resulted in a 6 year relationship and a child.
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At a punk club. I'd just had a fight with my then current girlfriend and went out there to vent, but ended up meeting the love of my life that very night instead. Broke up with the girl I used to be with the very next day and then me and the girl I met at the club were together for 3 years, until she passed away... Never recovered from it.
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Oh my God, I'm so sorry :( I really don't know what to say, but maybe try to look at it from the perspective that you had 3 amazing years with her, and as she loved you she wouldn't like to see you down. I'm sure she would prefer you to be with someone else, just for you to be happy!
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It's been a long time since she passed, so yeah, I've been in other relationships, but they never really work out. Someone else asked me how she passed away and since my reply to them also contains the answer as to why I can't hold on to any other women in my life since then, well, I'll just copy-paste it here... I hope you don't mind.
There's probably children on this site, but oh well... Very long story short, she was repeatedly raped by her own father, took a bunch of heavy drugs and slit her own wrists in the bathtub; found her body when I got home later in the day, there was blood everywhere... I Still have night terrors, see her in the room when I wake up, randomly feel like there's blood on the floor when I'm just normally walking around and I have to stop as to not freak out. Yay to PTSD, I guess...
Also, I'm sorry if that was too much information :(
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There's probably children on this site, but oh well... Very long story short, she was repeatedly raped by her own father, took a bunch of heavy drugs and slit her own wrists in the bathtub; found her body when I got home later in the day, there was blood everywhere... I Still have night terrors, see her in the room when I wake up, randomly feel like there's blood on the floor when I'm just normally walking around and I have to stop as to not freak out. Yay to PTSD, I guess...
Also, I'm sorry if that was too much information :(
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Oh my god! Forgive me for asking, I really didn't want to tear up any old wounds and scars you might have. I figured it was a more natural circumstance. No where in my mind had I imagined it could be something so horrible. I'm so sorry that both you and her had to go through all that, and that she didn't get the help she needed to have a life with you. I can only imagine the nightmares and after effects it can bring, seeing the person you love the most being the centerpiece of such a grusome scene. I don't even know what to say. I don't know what I'd have done if I had been in your situation.
And please do not apologize, I asked.
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I actually tried to kill myself twice back then, but well... I'm still here and I've since come to terms with living like this now, so don't worry, I guess. Anyway, thank you so much for your kind words and for listening to my ramblings-- as friends got married and such, I've come to just mostly be by myself at all times; don't really chat much ^^
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It's not difficult to understand why you develop those defensive mechanisms after being through such an ordeal. Can hardly blame you for wanting to take that way out either. I can't say I know what you've been through, but I have a suicide attempt in my bag as well, so I know at least a bit about being pushed to that edge. I'm glad you're still here, and have learned to live with it. It's bullshit when people say time heals all wounds. Some wounds will never heal. But with time we can sometimes at least learn to live with it.
I've been through a lot of stuff in my life as well, and I have greatly found that talking about my shit, usually with a professional, but also friends and family to a degree, greatly helps understand and accept things. I truly hope that some day you will meet someone that you can spend your life with, someone that can tear down that wall we all like to build when we get hurt enough.
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You're right in saying that it's bullshit people saying time heals all wounds; if anything it's been getting worse. It's just I've learnt to somewhat live with it. But it always feels like that black hole in my heart just keeps getting bigger and bigger.
I'm sorry to hear about your suicide attempt, I sincerely hope you're doing a bit better through life.
In regards to finding someone to spend my life with and also losing my friends as they move on towards marriage, etc, it's not so much me putting a wall up anymore, but others not being able to deal with the whole PTSD thing. I wake up screaming in the middle of the night or I freak out a bit because suddenly I see blood everywhere... I can certainly understand why people never really hang around for too long. I wish I could say I'm used to it by now, but that would kind of be a lie. It still sucks every time I meet a girl and I feel like things are actually going well and suddenly they're just gone. I'm not getting any younger either, so... oh well.
Anyway, I've been going on and on. Thank you once agian for listening and know that I wish you all the best in life.
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I have never known anyone with PTSD personally. So I can't really know how it is to be around someone that has it. But I do know how depressing it feels to constantly be shut down and dismissed because of something you have no control over. You can only prepare yourself for so much dismissal. And even if you understand how people react to you, you still have that hope that some day, there'll be someone that reacts differently you know. Someone that sticks around.
Thank you for telling me some of your story. I truly hope that you'll be able to find more peace one day. You're always welcome to hit me up if you ever need to vent.
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At this point, I've become pretty terrible at dealing with people and especially people being kind 'cause it happens less and less, so I don't really know what to say to that, other than just... thank you. So, yeah... thank you.
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met at school when i was 16, then dated when i was 20, lasted 3 years till i got cheated.
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well, that sucks. been there, after exactly 3 years. just fuck it 😀
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In my imagination... still haven't met her outside of that crazy messed up place though.
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SG gaming/dating app for the win! (Programmers with too much time on their hands I'm looking at you bump) :)
P.S. Sorry to hear that your relationship has gone stale moomphas.Just take a break and see how you feel a couple of weeks down the road.I myself have been pretty unlucky with love or connections because they either want a hookup or they want kids right away but nothing in the middle to actually see if we are a good fit.Way too much desperation or disconnection :(
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I've been with him only for a bit less less than 5 months, but I wanna comment too. :<
Met on a Discord server where my ex (the one some of you may know) invited me. We instantly bonded through memes. The ex wasn't happy.
Little advice on your situation: even though I don't know anything about it, your post looks like you're waiting for your SO to change something by the end of the week, that they may not even be aware of? People, talk about your things. It's by far the #1 way to fix your relationships.
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However difficult it is to say, it is indeed by far the better option then letting the other guess what's wrong.
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Yes, I did tell her what was not ok, I even rephrased it in the meantime to make sure she understands. It's in her hands now.
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i met her during erasmus. we were friend during 1y and finally we started dating. almost no internet involved. it was some 20y ago, wow. we have 2 kids and still keep on.
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It didnt end very pretty, but I met my most recent ex over WoW (yea go ahead and laugh lol). We knew each other for a year, then dated for three. Unfortunately, the last year was constantly fighting. Ill spare the details because I could write a damn essay, but it basically equated to him thinking that because we were "serious now", that I should be setting aside my hobbies/friends, to spend all of my time with him (but he didnt have to). And he decided we were having kids, even though I told him before we started dating that I didnt want/like kids (but we could wait until I was 30 if I wanted! lol...). That guy completely wrecked my self-confidence, and drove my anxiety through the roof.
Then one night we got fighting over Skype and I got fed up. Walked away for about an hour, then came back and gave him a borderline essay on exactly why I was done with the relationship.
After that, unless the next person is damn special, Im staying single lol
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Smacked a club on her head and dragged her into my cave!
What else?
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I had gotten married straight out of high school and it was a HUGE mistake. We'd split up and gotten a divorce, and I was pretty much living online 24/7, Too depressed to go out.
I'd gone to my cousins wedding and had a few drinks and there was this hot girl there. I asked her out to an Iron Maiden concert and she laughed in my face.
A few months later, my cousin asked me over for a drink and there was this same hot girl. Turns out she lived four houses up from my cousin.
I'd pretty much smashed a bottle of Wild Turkey by myself and we started playing Truth or Dare.
My cousin dared me to ask her out, so I did - she turned me down flat. Again.
His wife then dared me to drop my pants, stand in the front yard and sing Kevin Bloody Wilson's "Do you F*ck on First Dates" at the top of my lungs.
Well... I did. On my way back inside to get another drink - I really needed it lol - she turned to me and said "Pick me up on Thursday."
I have always maintained she saw something between turning me down and telling me to pick her up that she liked.
We went out to a nice little restaurant, where my brother happened to work, and he set me up with a nice table, by the window overlooking the beach, a $500 meal and a bottle of wine - only cost me $150.
We cruised into town in my Falcon, could find anything interesting so we grabbed a bottle or 2 and went to my place.
We stayed up talking, drinking and playing cards until 4pm the next afternoon when her big bad bikie father sent 4 brothers around to check on her. We went back to her parents and after a short interview where it turns out her father and I came from the same stomping grounds (albeit 30 years apart,) he gave his approval and the rest is history.
We've been together 9 years this June, have 4 boys together, and she's still a fox.
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I "found" mine at university
Well, i was with one bad relation at the time and wtv wtv.
One day at one class i sit down next to her and we start talking with each other, literally out of nowhere. After that i went one at day school to do some work after the classes, and she was there to. She needed help with one job and the next day wee both went there to do it, we launch together etc etc, and had a really nice day. the things between us started to go really smooth, we found that we had literally had tons of things in common and the conversation was really easy to do and felt so damn normal, nothing that i've ever felt before.
by the end of that day i ended the relationship i had with no clue if this new thing was gonna work.
The next day we finished the work that i was helping. After a while i get back at home i received one text from here, we didn't had numbers exchanged at time so she needed to other ones to get my number, and with that we started to see each other every day, talking and going out etc, after a week the things started to happen. After 2 weeks or wtv i found that she had a steam account, and oh boy, that was fun, we still play together everyday. I've been with her for 4 years😁
Fun fact, i never noticed her till the day she sit down next to me, and that was 2 years after both of us started the university. 2 years at the same class and i didn't knew her name, one class with 20 students.
So, my advice to you. If you don't feel right at your relationship or if doesn't feel normal, don't keep it, you need to feel comfortable with it. It's not suppose to be a "job". i'm not saying that you don't need to get effort to make it work. you just don't need to do that all the time. But that's just me, if you feel that is that what you want, keep fighting for what you believe 😀😁
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I've come to a point in my relationship, where I don't want to continue it. If nothing changes in the meantime, I'll be single by the end of the week. This situation drove me toward the following question: How did you meet your significant other? I mean someone you either married or have been with for long years.
Feel free to vote, and let me know your stories in comments! ;)
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