I've been flirting (or kind of) with a girl for like 2 or 3 years. I'm happily married, and I don't intend to have anything special with this woman.
Some days ago, and just by chance, I saw her in the door of my kids' school, and she saw me, and said Hi. So I got curious, and tried to google her (she is a cashier in the supermarket I usually buy at, so I know her name).

Here is where things got tricky, since her name is kind of popular down here in Argentina, not because she has a common name, but because there's a model/actress/vedette (not really sure what she does) with her name, that married a politician with her last name, so googling her name, brings mostly results of these two together.

Thank you for reading, now have an Amput-Tea or wait for the Incoming Forces

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Have you ever found someone ungoogleable?

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That's not possible, Google knows everything
Of course, some people know how to hide their ass
I just came here for the GA

It's possible to some degree. My real name for example is not common, and for at least 10 years I managed to have practically zero results if searched in Google. All was going well until my company wanted me to publish some posts for the corporate blog. And then some (rather obscure) TV channel interviewed me about stuff related to work. Guess what? In both cases I had to use my real name and now it's there in the open, and there's not much I can do about it. On the bright side - I'm not on Facebook.

And I agree with most other people on this thread. Better stay away and avoid the urge to stalk.

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Its funny how most people try to go for the "stay faithful" route and follow the moral consensus of the crowd. I bet most of you computer purist would find a completely different outcome to the opinion you expressed if you were in the same situation. I like this guy, he's being bluntly honest and there's not a thread of elitism, or moral superiority, or even advice in his post. He just wrote of an interesting scenario (one that might tarnish the image of any goody two shoes, but clearly, he's not afraid of that) and then did a giveaway at the end. What more could you wish for? Ah, to give him sound advice without knowing half of his situation. Cada situación es subjetiva, y hay que tener los ojos abiertos. Todo lo demás, es tu propia decisión, aunque no estemos ni discutiendo el problema más grande… bueno, que las mujeres son TAAAAAN lindas jaja saludos de Chile

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+1

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Honest question(Please don't read too much into it): Would you be saying the same if this were a woman posting?

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I think so. The boundaries of faithfulness can be breach by anyone, for whatever reason, at whatever time. I don't really think gender makes much of a difference. We could turn his story around and replace him with a her and the cashier with a him, and I wouldn't change a word of my response.

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Fair enough.

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Thanks! Igual, la hitoria puede ser inventada, nadie puede saberlo, y nadie lo va a saber, pero es lindo ver como sale la moralidad de todos con este tema.

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Definitivamente, sacaste a todo tipo alarmado de sus cuevas para dar su opinión. Buen tema!

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Pasa data amiwo,comparti, we :p.

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Con los datos que tiré, si no te diste cuenta como se llama, vivís en un tupper

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no veo tele :p.

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Cirio te dice algo?

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supongo pero la verdad no me hago ideas de como seria el nombre jaja...y buscalo por face....

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Flirting or kind of

Happily married but not

Don't intend anything but google

Just by chance

Curious

-- Sounds like you need some solidarity. It's time to be honest, starting with yourself.

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Precisely.

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I didn't know she sent her kid to the same school I did (it's a private school, and there are, at least 15 schools in a 2 miles radius), I didn't even know she lived near either, is not like everyone lives 20 blocks from work

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i hide my ass on my pants, and nobody gets on there.... he... he.... :c

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Ungoogleable: What's the definition of life?
Ok, it is googleable, but there is no proper answer, imho

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bump

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buy her a house.

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My real name will provide you no result of myself. My username on the other hand, you'll find a good amount.

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There are a couple of people I share my name with but only 2 in my region and I've actually googled myself a couple of times to delete my internet presence so only the other person's is relevant.

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This could be a case of catfishing.

Basically its when someone pretends to be someone else to trick someone for what ever reason into a relationship. There has been a couple of cases of this that has made it to the news in the US. One was a football star that was tricked into thinking he was talking with a woman for a number of years, when in fact it was a guy. And no it wasn't a guy who is trying to physically become a woman, he would get a woman to pretend it was "her" on the phone and stuff like that. It was really really creepy just how far this guy went to trick the football start. There was a bunch of social media sites and pictures and stuff like that.

OR it could be just that someone is rather good at keeping their info off the net. In this day and age its rather hard to do this without actually doing it all actively.

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In this case, I think is the second option. I mean, I know she is real, and she couldn't probably fake a name, and keep a job for 3/4 years. And is not like I'm a millionaire, or some person of interest

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As a cashier myself, they offered me the chance to use a different name than my own on a name tag at work. So perhaps she does go by a persona/alias at work. She couldn't do this at her kid's school though, I think. Try going to a PTA if you have them and see if she uses the same name.

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I've been looking for one person, i can't find this person.

I googled my name, couldn't find me but found a dude who used my picture for some wayn profile (i don't even know that website TT ), the good thing is he didn't use it on some pornsite @@

Good luck with your situation and thanks for the giveaway.

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I wonder if anyone here is gonna go do that now, make a profile of you at a porn site. xD

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I can't tell you what to do, but it sounds like your wife wouldn't care, so it doesn't really matter then. If that's the case though, and you like this girl, and she likes you, you should go for it. ;)

But even if this is just entertainment, it certainly worked! Thanks for the amusement.

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Wait what?! No, he should definitely not just "go for it". I can see your point with 'if the wife doesn't care then whatever' but still, at some point in time OP decided to spend his whole life with the woman he loved, for better or worse, blablabla. Saying his vows was a decision he thought would be right. So by just discarding his wife and by going for the other girl he'd betray his own ideals of marriage. So not only would he hurt the person he (supposedly) fell in love with but he'd also go against his own vows, meaning he'd be lying to himself.

IF he'd really consider going for the cashier girl, he'd talk with his wife about it or even more drastically, divorce his wife.

Sorry if I sound a bit harsh here, but I had a friend with the same problem (though she was the 'cashier girl') and this is what I told her...

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Errr, I never really got married, just moved in, had kids, and live together (yeah, it doesn't change the things, except I never said my vows)

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So you're saying that you're not actually married? o.O

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Hahaha this is just one big laugh.

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Welcome to my whitelist ;)

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:D

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does it make a difference? I spent half my life alongside the same lady

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Actually yes, it does make a difference. If you haven't sworn your oaths, then you're basically free to do whatever you want. All you're gonna ruin if you go for the 'cashier girl' (I'm picking up Quaestio's train of thought here) is the trust your partner has given you.

Otherwise, you're free to do what you want to do. Coming back to the actual thread though, heck, if you wanna google that girl, then do it! You are your own person and since you swore no oaths, the only feelings you might hurt by checking out another girl are those of your 'wife'. I'm not gonna tell you that it's ok to look up other girls when you're in a relationship, still you're not married and you can do what you want.

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Woah, I really didn't expect that.
One question, though, is it the civil or the religious marriage the sacred one?

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I cannot say.
Since I'm not religious in any way I guess it's more a state of mind. For me I would respect the civil marriage over the religious marriage. Since I would think that I swore my oath before an institute of power in my country, I guess that I wouldn't go against the law.

Still, I don't know about you.

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Well, down here, if you spend 5 years living with the same person, you are technically married. It has a ridiculous that translate like "common law marriage".
For instance, I added her to my healthcare, and I could not do that, if we were not married.
So for the civil aspect, I'm married.
Religious marriage, is not something I'm looking for, specially since we don't believe in any particular god

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im ungoogable or whatever you write it
and i found many ppl also hard or impossible to get intel

and the flirting part...

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Do you think you are doing something creepy by looking her up online without her knowledge? Is this something you'd be willing to say to her face that you'd done? What are you hoping to gain from it ultimately?

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Probably, is a little bit creepy. But isn't it cute I googled her?
Of course I would say it to her.
The only thing I'm trying to gain, is entertainment.

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Will you tell her the next time you see her?

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I don't think so

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So you would say it but you won't?

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I said is something I'm willing to say to her face, not something I was going to say in her face.
Is something I would say, like 2 years into a relationship (the same relationship Im not in pursuing, and not interested in)

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Let it go, all your searches are tracked and logged. If anything happens, anything, you will be screwed. If you still want to be a jerk then just stalk the areas where you have spotted her and do whatever you want. I'm just saying, better to not search for anyone, best to just let it go.

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I think there's a movie starring Harrison Ford about this situation.
So OP just needs to evade capture and look for the one-armed man who killed her.

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Since I live near her workplace, and send the kids to the same school (and probably work near her home), I don't have a lot of options

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if you wonder whether it's bad or not, just flip it on its head and consider your wife flirting with a nice attractive man for a few years, and being interested enough to google him and find out more.

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Morals aside, you've failed the consistency test.
Let's break it down -

This thread lost all credibility. I don't believe anything you're saying now.

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  • I edited, just to have fun. I'm happy with my marriage.
  • As I explained to that user, according to my countrie's law, I'm married, since I apent over 5 years living with her.
  • I respect her, and I'm not fooling her. Still I don't care if she finds out. If she finds out, she realise I didn't cheat on her, nor tried to be unfaithful

Is up to you to beleive it or not. I also said no one will ever find if this story is true or not, but we had a good conversation about the topic, and exchanged a lot of point of view.

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As I explained to that user, according to my countrie's law, I'm married, since I apent over 5 years living with her.

Ah, no. You've added that explanation after I've made this post (people can see the time stamp). So this is just another action on your part to fix things after they've been exposed.

Anyway, I'm not going to waste time here any longer - if the OP is true, you got most of the info you can by now, if it isn't - enjoy your time eating popcorn under the bridge.

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My online persona really easy, my real name lol no impossible. It's so generic.

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+1 for generic names :D

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Yes, plenty of people. Also, try to ignore the people moralizing you. Relationship anarchy ftw.

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nicely done! I didn't think this thread would be as creepy as it sounded :D

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Flirting when translated literally with that context in your first post has negative connotation in my language. More so, marriage has something to do with formal vows, be it religious or civil. Your case... can't be called as an marriage here. It's kinda surprising you could add her to your healthcare under family status. I guess different country REALLY different rules, after all.

Not that I'm going to teach or preach anything, your life, your call.

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Blacklisted for cheating white (flirting is cheating).

Just kidding. Please don't blacklist me for jokes. :(

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