what to do if i dont know which decision to make.

23 "already" and "losing years" so what? Can be a lot worse..

Life happens when you busy making other plans, you aren't giving much to go on, if studying didn't work for you, if you don't want to live at home, find a job and then get out wherever place that is closeby or not, only you can decide, but you already tried option 2 and it failed, go for a third.

Don't feel pressured into doing something because of your age. Just take your time and focus onto finding what you want to do with yourself.

What was the main reason you left the city; you didn't like studying or you didn't like the life there, or was it a bit of both? Either way if you don't like living in the city, don't live in the city. If studying was the problem, perhaps move to city to find a normal job, if there are none where your parents live.

If there are jobs where your parents are and you like living there, why don't you do just that? Stay with them until you fall into love and get in a serious relationship and then make plans on where to move with your partner.

Age is a number designed to scare people. Don't let it get to you.

It kinda depends on where do live exactly.

do what you love ,go the way you are meant to be.

https://youtu.be/xUv8JJn_-q4?t=8

Maybe this would help - whenever I need to make a major decision and I'm not sure what I should do, I would often times draw up a table of pros and cons, complete with weightage (from 1 to 5 or 1 to 10, whichever you like)... by the way, "weightage" = how important the pro or con is to you. I usually make sure to only list out the important factors that I think matters. Once it's done, or at least to a point where I think is satisfactory, I would count up the score. Naturally, the one with the highest score would "win", but of course, the final decision still lies on you.

I often find that listing things out helps clear things up quite a bit, so maybe you might find it helpful too :)

P/S: Personally, I don't really like "new things" too but sometimes, when you feel TOO comfortable living in the "old", you might yearn to do something different for a change. If that's the case with you, then you can give option 2 a real shot - You might surprise yourself :)

"I didn't know whether to duck or to run,
So I ran."
-Bob Dylan

You mentioned that you already went to the capital city and couldn't imagine your life there. So it sounds like you already know you don't want to live there. Do you want to go to the University still? If so is it not possible to stay in your city but not at your parents house and still go to the University?

staying with parents in my old city, im 23 already :(

Don't feel too bad; I'm a year older than you and have a Bachelor's Degree, but still haven't gotten a job, either (only the occasional interview, then I never hear back).

Go for Option 2.

If it doesn't work out, go back home while you look for Option 3!

First of all 23 is not that old. It's pretty young actually. So you should not feel pressure to "do something with your life" or whatever is driving you to make the change.
You should only make the change, if YOU feel you want/need to do the change.

Secondly, doing something new & unfamiliar is always scary. to everyone.
Some people handle the scariness better than others. Some even learn to love the adrenaline rush or being scared. But everyone are scared.
What's important is to learn to deal with the scary part of changes in life and overcome them.
Not everybody can. Some people cannot, and live a very difficult life because of it.
But the vast majority of people can.

The good thing is it's not as hard/impossible as it sounds.
Overcoming your fears, like most things in life, can become easier with practice.
Basically, the more you do it - the easier it becomes.
So you can start with the little changes that scare you, and the more changes you do, the easier it will be for you to do the next change. And eventually you will be able to do the grand changes (like change a city) as well.
I'm sure there are plenty of places on the internet you can find that will help you with that.

I can tell you a personal story about myself in that regard.
Up until my mid 20s I was very scared of talking to members of the opposite sex (in a romantic way).
I had no problem talking to co-workes, male or female, about work-related stuff. I had no problem talking to women I was not interested in romantically, about almost anything.
But as soon as I had romantic intentions towards a girl, the fear of failing, or screwing up, or missing my one-and-only chance with her, would make it impossible for me to have any normal conversation with them. Let alone approach and start a conversation myself.
Which led to a very sad situation, where despite having a good job, being not-ugly-looking, having spending money and plenty of friends (both male & female) I struggled for years to try to start any kind of relationship with a girl.
I think I was around 26 years old when I first kissed a girl.
What helped me in the end, is a self-improvement course I took, which included practice in doing things that you're scared of.
And the more I practiced, the easier it became to do such things.
Until at some point I was able to approach and talk to girls. I was still scared shitless (especially the first times), but I was able to overcome that fear.
And at a later point I was able to try to kiss a girl after a good date. Again I was scared as hell. But guess what: so was she. At some point you learn that as much as you think you're scared of doing new things, everybody else are as scared. They're just better than you in hiding it.

So as long as you're willing to try and better yourself, there is only 99% you will eventually succeed. And 0% chance if you don't try.
As Michael Jordan is always quoted: You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

i don't know witch decision would be better for you,
only i can tell you is that is very important to enjoy when\if you can your parents because life is only 1 and parents too,
this don't mean you don't need move away from them,is important that you try new works,new cities and all possibilities life give to you for you better,but don't forget sometime to back to them for enjoy them,this is very important,i lose many parents family and animals and miss them all much.

I don't have anything new to add to the discussion, but in general TED talks are a great source of information about... anything really.

don't make the same mistake twice. if you didn't like it in the capital, don't go. Build a life for yourself in the town you're from.
you may not be "successful", but you'll be happier

You have your life ahead of you. The worst think you can do right now is letting pressure crush you into doing nothing at all because you feel overwhelmed.
Take some time to clear your head but make plan. Evaluate your options. Plan small steps and then plan what you need to do to move forward at whatever pace feels comfortable to you.

You were overwhelmed when you were studying and living away from home. Maybe it's just not for you.
At the same time you feel like you don't want to stay home with your parents and be a kid forever, it's normal. We're meant to live the nest and be independent.

So maybe do something half way. Get a job in your hometown. Get your own place. Live your life a little. Pay your own bills. Make your own decisions. You won't be far from home if you need your family's support. And you can take some time to decide what to do with your life.
You have time. Use your years as you want, they're yours. Not anybody else's.

Sorry, didn't read everything but basically saw the title and you had 2 options.

If you don't know what you want, flip a coin.
During the 'unknown' part of the coin flip your brain is most likely going to wish for either one of the two outcomes, being it heads or tails. That's the decision you should go for since from deeply inside that's what you prefered.

If you can find a place to study and work in your hometown stay there but if you can't go to capital.

go to capital of my country and start a new life?
if it dont work out are u try, u still can take option 1

Spread your wings, sow your oats.

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I'd like to second all of Mdk25's great advice. Change is always scary, trying something new is always scary. You could try something and fail, but if you never take a chance than you'll always fail at the things you didn't try.

I've moved to a new city or a new place three times, and it was scary each time, but also kind of exciting. And the third time it initially looked like a huge mistake and a complete failure, but then just as I had resigned myself that it was a failure and I needed to move somewhere else, things turned around and it became a great success.

One of the most powerful things in life is a positive outlook. If you're optimistic, and look at the positive, you will do well and be successful. You will make mistakes, you will fail, there's no avoiding that. But what you can control is the way you look at it. You can focus on the negative - on the mistakes, the failures - and that creates a downward cycle which leads to more failure and unhappiness. Or you can focus on the positive - on the good thing that came out of something bad - and that will lead to happiness and success.

For an example, I had a car accident on the way to the airport where I spun out and wrecked my car. The car was a mess, front and back. I could look at it negatively - that I messed up while driving, wrecked my beloved car, and jeopardized our lives. But I chose to look at it positively - that neither of us were hurt, we were still able to make it to the airport on time and back home again afterwards, and that the accident could have been a lot worse but it wasn't. Instead of dwelling on the negative, I'm thankful for the positive.

If you have that kind of positive attitude, you will be happier and more successful in everything you do. And if you don't already have that kind of positive attitude, you can adopt it. You can chose how you view things and how you think about things, and you can make a permanent change in your attitude. It'll take work and conscious effort, but you can do it. For example, can you tell me something positive that came out of your time at university?

well it won't be a good idea if we would make choice for you. Think where you can get a better job and feel happy