Are you married
Congratulations!
It will be hard sometimes but totally worth it!
Also you'll have time to play games. Someday... Or somenight... ;)
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Congrats ;) I'm engaged for a long time but not married yet - weddings are extremely expensive in my country (wedding cost is 1/4th of the cost of a new apartment, wedding is 1 night, apartment means you have place to live for rest of your life), so we engaged so our families would not be asking us "how long are you gonna be just dating" but not intend to marry any time soon ;p
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Don't know about Slovenians wedding traditions but polish wedding parties are extremely expensive (you basically are supposed to invite whole falimy, even the furthest one, from each side, for the whole night of dancing, eating and drinking - and eating and drinking a lot - like 4-5 main courses er person minimum, 1-2 bottles of vodka per person and so on. And if you try to go cheap - aka not throw a party or not invite whole family including aunt of brother of son of your uncle it basically means grave offense and he will not speak to you ever again. It especially goes towards older generation - they assume they all have to be invited to every wedding in family and if you don't invite them they may as well never speak again to you for the rest of your life.
All in all wedding party just for 2 families - for 100 people costs 35-50k PLN (9175-13100USD) an buying a brand new developer state apartment costs 200000-400000PLN depending on size of a city and used ones are 1/3rd cheaper. So yeah - we prefer to save up for our own home than to make one night of partying for our families including people we haven't seen in years....
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We had 3 guests at the civil ceremony and less then 50 for the church and party.
Because why would you invite people who you haven't seen/heard from for years.
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Well maybe if you'd know, that for rest of your life most of yout family wil be angry at you, and will point that out on every occassion you'd change your mind D:
We're far more traditional when it comes to society standards (stuff like american atomic family model is criticized on every step), so it's not easy to break out of this society expectation.
Every nation has it's own "rules". If you'd go around, spittting on random people and your family members noone would think it's appropriate, and your family members would most probably be angry at you. Or it would't be appropriate to go around, hittting people with you old, stinky shoes. It wouldn't matter, than in country x it's normal and cool thing to do. You'd still be considered as weirdo in the place that you're living.
Society expectations aren't something we can just change on our own, and we will either more or less obey them, or be alienated.
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Well you see - and here we go to polish traditionalism again. My fiancee's family is very religious, so civil only ceremony is out of questuion - it would be grave offense to them (it already is that we're living together while not married ;p). And me being an atheist makes church ceremony harder as well to make. So either way there is possible drama incoming.
And yeah - these costs are crazy hard. In fact most of my friends who had weddings had to loan money from the bank to have a wedding. Then you pay off for years the fact that you had 1 weekend party. Honestly - if I would be taking a bank credit I would certainly prefer to spend it for something more useful than 1-2 day of having "fun".
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As zelghadis said - it's pretty much grave offence to not invite your whole (most probably) ass-big family...
On my side of family there is tradition of inviting guests personally, while giving them special kind of cake. My cousin lives in England, so he had little time to go around, inviting people so few people get invitations by the post. And they were angry bc of it "how could he missed them, during his 3 days visit in the country, and why didn't he travel 250km (in one side, so total of 500 km) just to give me this special cake.
Not to mention that hosting wedding party is literally 1/4 costs of new apartment - and they are terribly expensive here, unless you've got shitload of money you will be forced to pay bank loan to the rest of your life (30 - 40 years) for 50 - 60 m2 apartment.
Ugh >_<
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You see - it's not only about what you would like, but also that you may hurt your close ones in the process. For example - I would not mind most of my far family to think I'm an asshole because I didn't invite them, I dobn't give two shits about people I met only once a few years. But at the same time thewy would not only get angry at me, they would also get angry at my mom for example And even if they didn't I think it would still be painful for her that for example in any phone conversation they would refer to her son as this ungrateful arsehole who wouldn'rt even invite his own family to a wedding. Like MSKOTOR said above - a lot of polish people, especially older generation, are very VERY traditional. I may not hold these traditions dear myself, but I've got to remember that I don't live in a vaccum, I have to remember that my decisions have impactnot only on me but also my surrounding, my closest ones, not only how I am viewed by others, but also how my closests ones are viewed etc. Example - I'm an atheist. But most of poles are catholics, a lot of them really devoted ones. I may dislike it, but when my fiancees religious mother invites me to family celebration in church if I'd say no "because I don't believe in your imaginary god" it wouldn't mean just me getting bad relationship with her mom, it would also bring drama between she herself and her mom, between religious members of her family and her etc.
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Congratulations but gaming doesn't end when you get married, it ends with children in my exp
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bump... and congratulations, hope you have an amazing life together
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Congratulations. Getting married only increased the amount of gaming I did and 15 years on we still game together - Its the first few years of kids that made the biggest dent in the amount of gaming I did ;)
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Congratulations and my very best wishes!
I'm planning on marrying my gaming partner this winter. He asked if we could get matching desktop gaming systems once we were married.. just cuz you're married doesn't mean the games need to stop! You just get a permanent co-op partner. Yay for +1's.
(We play everything together now.. our long time favourite is Minecraft. Should have known he was the one when we could actually build together.. never knew anyone I could build with!)
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I am married close to 5 years now. My wife does not game. I probably average 3 hours gaming per week now. We have three children. We are part of a Christian outreach group. Our lives are pretty happily busy.
Games, movies, entertainments... they have so much more of a hold on your time when you are lonely or bored. When your life is full, entertainments you can share become more important, but also you spend less time on entertainments.
Bed time and rising time have a lot to do with it, too. Weekends are no longer sleep in times. My kids awake the same time every day, so I don't stay up super late gaming any more.
A good marriage trumps gaming any day. And marriage is great. Don't let anybody tell you different.
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Thanks. And i agree. 1 hour walking with my wife is more fun then gaming in the same timespan.
btw what is a christian outreach group?
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We are a group of Christians who have chosen to move to a poor neighborhood to serve and to build community.
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So, my gaming days are over. That's what my friends told me when we had our party. So, better to let it all out.
I'M MARRIED :) We had a wonderful day and honeymoon. But now live continues.
so bye bye games
Hurray for Females
More games might be added later, depending if i can let go ;)
Thanks for All The gratz and Nice words.
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