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I would say... don't be nervous about meeting new people, that will always be a great experience. If you are feeling shy, just remind yourself about your qualities and how anyone would be lucky to meet/ know you. It will be a time for making new friends. :)
As for College, I would say to try and be Disciplined, get done what needs to be done. It's important to have fun and socialize but it's also important to get the Education you are paying for.

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If you just be you then you will attract the right people towards you.
If you try to blend into someone that isn't you then you will attract people unlike yourself.
Birds of a feather flock together so I hope you will attract more cool people just like you : )

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When I started university a few years ago I was terrified of people and even decided not to go to some universities because they were so large and had so many people in them so I can understand your anxiety. Best advice I can give is to just not give a shit. There are a ton of people you'll eventually meet someone who has similar interests and the like. If you let yourself get worked up you will just look back and wonder why you cared. Also I wouldn't care about making enemies. People are easy to avoid. Oh and awkward jokes make meeting people a lot easier. like telling them you won't rape them.

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Just say hi first :)

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Seize it, it will be over in the blink of an eye. Don't take your studies for granted, you are paying to be there. Sit in the front row. Always accept social invites, you never know where the night will lead.

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Avoid people.

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Learn an opera by heart
Get a podium
Perform aforementioned opera to your new friends
???
Profit

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No early morning classes! Seriously, life will be so much better.

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I guess the other thing I'd say is don't worry about meeting people. Most everybody is in the same boat, so just hanging out in the dorms and in and around your department you'll run into people you'll eventually hang out with and call life-long friends.

As to studies - I do recommend taking them seriously. It can be a shock to some students. Many freshman don't return because the freedom is too much to handle and they flunk out. Also, think seriously about job market before you spend all the time, money and effort. There's the real life problem of making a living and paying off debts when it's all done. I have friends who are still paying off school loans.

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I just recently finished Uni, even though I'm older.
This is something I struggled with too...
The key is to just put yourself out there.
Say hi to people, start conversations... Simplest question you can ask anyone, "Why did pick your major?"
People like to talk about themselves :D
Establish study groups if you can, to help each other... then even if you don't know people, you all have a common purpose.

Just be friendlier than you normally would at first.
Remember to guard yourself against being taken advantage of, but don't assume everyone will before they do.

I don't know what else to say right now.... it's really late.

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The first 5 minutes are the worse. Then you get used to it :)

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had too look it up
advice? just the clishes:

  1. be yourself
  2. everyone else are also shy/scared
  3. doesn't work? picture everyone naked
  4. be careful not picture your self naked
  5. unless you like to
  6. i'm just adding more cause i decided to reach number 10
  7. seven
  8. i'm really out of idea here
  9. most people are usually like minded, you'll be fine, just relaxed
  10. be yourself (and wear sunscreen)
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Lucky you, university life is wonderful (as long as you don't have to eat pot noodles)!

You won't be alone in feeling nervous early on. Most people that you're going to study with are probably in a very similar situation, worrying about if they'll fit in, if they'll be able to pass exams and so on. It's only natural. I've been there as well (heck, when I started studying at a university level I was one of the most shy & introvert persons there was, university life partially cured this!). Just focus on what's right ahead of you and you'll be doing fine.
Also, don't you need great grades from high school to be allowed to study psychology at a university level?

Anyway, I'll be off now, meeting 60 or so students in your situation, and telling them that I'll be their teacher in some of their courses they have this semester (man, I hate having stage fright ;) )

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You don't have to try so hard.
You don't have to, give it all the way.
You just have to get up.
You don't have to change a single thing.

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Make friends right from the start :3, then everything is better with friends.

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On a different note than much of the advice so far, remember that the professors are on your side and are there to help. Of course, I don't know the staff at your Uni., but I know a ton of academics (my father and my wife are both professors, and I'm in grad. school so I teach too) and a lot of them are people who care deeply about their students, want to befriend them, and want to help them in whatever way they can.

(If your classes aren't too big it's good practical advice to get to know your profs a little bit too. You have to deal with them to pass a class. And it works to your benefit if they know you're there, and trying hard in their class.)

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go out get drunk and let the freak show begin... if people are still talking with you in few days guess what, you met people who like you

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don't be scared of university, make university scared of you

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Wear a hug me t-shirt, let them all come to you

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When many people begin school, they feel the pressure to be someone who they are not and present themselves in a way that they think would be most acceptable to people, or have people like them more. I'd say be yourself, and the people who like you for who you are will gravitate naturally towards you!

If you can find a job or club to join, do so! It's a great way to gain some good skills in communication and pick up useful tricks for future jobs after college/social world.

Have your parents help you out when you move-in. Also, do some grocery shopping before hand so you can spend some time exploring instead of grocery shopping and grabbing necessary supplies. My parents took me to the local markets and I stocked my fridge up with enough food to last a couple of weeks :)

Good luck, my dear! I remember my first couple weeks/days/year at college was rough, scary, but a learning experience. I was terribly homesick, but I learned to be independent and do things as an adult that I wouldn't have been able to do at home.

If you ever need to talk, I'm here for you! <3

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My time in university was great :3
(Ok I quit it after 1,5 years cause of maths xD)
But they really hate chickens in universities, so watch out D:

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sorry, can't give you any advice since I never went to university. :-)

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I guess you wanted to go to university but saw a sign like this D:

View attached image.
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hab kein abi, aber so'n schild hΓ€tte mich bestimmt abgehalten :D

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May I ask what college you go to?

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Step 1: Go to uni
Step 2: Stab them
Step 3: ??????
Step 4: Profit.

Not but really, just be yourself. And keep your eyes open, you will undoubtedly find at least some people that will want to hang out with you, or at least tolerate eachother ;)

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