Question for seasoned online gamers

" Is there an online game where everyone plays nice and it's not in the land of unicorns?"

No ;)

I play mp firstperson shooters. BF1 at the moment. I disabled chat because most harassing seems to go through chat on that game.
If someone is too annoying I just leave a server.
I dont have any experience with the kinda games you play though.

Maybe what you need is somekind of online game when you can play singleplayer but it's funnier/easier/smarter to play cooperatively with friends and/or people. No necessarily an MMO, but you know, an online game that focuses on coop rather than competition.

I don't play online multiplayer games much at all.
The best you can make me do is couch co-op/games where everyone playing is a friend of mine.

Actually that's not completly acurate. I really enjoyed the way multiplayer was set up in dark souls.
Sure there was a bunch of trolls but even when I saw a message at the edge of a cliff saying "secret here, try jumping, invisible path" or whatever and like 10 bloodstains surrounding it I could only laugh.
There was also the whole PvP aspect where other than 1-2 invasions you had to actively go out and search for them.
Then your would do a match and people would bow to you before flight ng you off into the lava and it was all in good fun idk.

At the end of the day I'm not really an online multiplayer guy.
If you want a similar sense of playing with other people finding people you know irl and setting up a party and play jackbox party pack or some competitive game can be really fun. But if you arnt into the online thing I wouldn't push yourself into playing it.

I play Team Fortress 2 with the voice chat mute, no regrets

it's easy, don't play pvp games. there will be always idiots ruining fun for others. and since developers want their game like that, you don't need to support them by either giving them money or increasing the number of online players.

take it as people cheating. they want to feel superior so they use cheats. same with people attacking underpowered players, they love easy wins.

I generally avoid games that have a heavy PvP focus. I'm not attentive enough for the quick reaction a lot of them require. I enjoyed the concept of LoL for example, but refused to play without a friend or two with me. Blizzard released Heroes of the Storm and since it allows full AI, I started playing that instead, so it's just the AI, my friends, and myself.

Like others have said, if PvP exists in a game, there will be griefers, it doesn't matter if it helps or hinders, some people just get joys out of being an asshat.and they tend to be unavoidable.

I suppose if you have some friends who are seasoned as well and you can create a team with them, then it might work out better, but yeah.

I'm a seasoned veteran of online gaming.

Sadly for your question, my season is salty.

So I'm not answering shit.

try gw2 or warframe. you can play most of the both games alone or with random people who tend to be around.

Try playing a game that's not pay-to-win or has good matchmaking/tiers. That sounds like your main problem to be honest.

Being able to attack people that have lower stats in games where stats trump strategy/skill is pretty much the worst - they're designed to suck as much money from your frustrations or competitiveness as possible.

Unfortunately, it's difficult to find massively multiplayer games that respect balance and aren't purposefully designed this way.

I just play single player games or live long enough to be the pker.

Another good one that is mainly a single-player experience, but can be played in co-operative mode is the Borderlands games (non-Telltale, of course). They are single player FPS's with RPG elements such as XP and abilities that unlock as you level up. As well as single player, you can have up to three other people playing with you to complete the story quests. The best of the three games so far is Borderlands 2. It has a unique sense of humor, cool weapons and gear which are randomly generated with somewhat random parts and have rarity tiers. There are 4-6 characters (depending on DLC), each with different playstyles. I'd suggest the GOTY Edition which has all of the non-cosmetic DLC for the game except for the four Headhunter Pack DLCs and the "Ultimate Vault Hunter Upgrade Pack 2", along the aforementioned Upgrade Pack. It's US$45.00 to get both of them, but for the content, it's worth it.

I would find a game that has a multi-player option that is private, so you can limit who joins the game and just play with people you trust not to be trolls.

Well I play only 2 online games atm : Fortnite(paid PvE) and Planetside(f2p MMOFPS).

At this point I managed to ignore said morons 99% of the time. In general try to focus on co-op games with no PvP(or just being optional) and see if you can handle a single moron in your team(in my experience this happens once in a blue Moon). Another thing is that some of the bigger f2p MMOs tend to have big guilds that also play other games so you may want to try look for that if you want to play online games with buddies.

I am huge coop/teamplayer person so I really had to go for competitive games where you can't avoid morons on both teams but hey, there is a lot of morons in everyday life so this is easier. The best thing to do is to find a multiplayer game you like and keep playing until you find similar minded people, then play only with them together so you can't rely on them to have your back and few morons here and there won't make a difference.

I enjoy pvp games like Overwatch and Rising Storm 2 but I also love pve games where you works together with friends like Dying Light and Killing Floor 2. The most important thing is to find similar minded people who enjoy those games for the same reason as you do and you will have great time, no matter how many morons.

What multiplayer games would you like to play?

Good luck!

"Is there an online game where everyone plays nice and it's not in the land of unicorns?"

Yes, they're called co-op or PvE games. Mass Effect 3 has a fantastic co-op multiplayer mode where everyone works together as a team to defeat the enemy. Same for Boderlands, though you have to find others to play with, rather than being automatically matched.

If you're looking for more of an MMO, Destiny 2 is almost entirely co-op, just stay out of the specific PvP area. Same for The Division. Warframe is a free, if grindier, option. There's many MMORPGs that you can play on a PvE server and never have to deal with morons trying to kill you (though you may occasionally have to deal with morons unintentionally getting your group killed).

Rocket League is PvP, but since it's a sport it's more team vs team, so you don't feel picked on, and it's pretty fun at all times.

Stay away from any pay-to-win games. Even jerks aside, stay away from them in general, on basic principle - such games are terrible and should not be encouraged.

And if you decide you don't like multiplayer games in general, that's okay too. Nothing says you have to like or play multiplayer games.