Happy birthday!
And don't worry about the single thing - it's frustrating, I know, but you've got to focus on the positive. You have a job you enjoy, and that's awesome! You're exercising and feeling better, and that's great, so keep it up.
For the loneliness, do you have any local friends you could hang out with? If not, could you make some? Coworkers? Go to a Meetup for something that interests you? If you can find friends to hang out with, that should help the loneliness thing. One of my friends actually met his wife by going to a Meetup.
And I don't know if it helps, but all of my relationships came about when I wasn't actively looking. So don't give up if you're looking and not finding, a relationship might appear when you least expect it. Just have to stay positive and confident - it's not only good for you, it's also attractive. :)
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Thank you for a nice post! I have a couple of really good friends but non of them are staying close by since all of us followed different paths. I am on friendly terms with some of my co-workers but that's actually part of my problems. I really like them but they are the kind of people who tend to make fun of each other and me being a negative nancy paints a huge target on my back. What they don't understand is that it tough for me to shake it off if it piles up too much. I have tried explaining it to them but I guess it's just against their nature to not try to rip me to shreds whenever I show weakness.
It's pretty difficult for me to connect with new people so despite things often getting uncomfortable, I still hang out with them. I could definitely do with some new acquitances though so maybe I should just try to get over my anxieties and try finding out if there is something like a meetup happening around. Thank you for the suggestion!
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I totally understand you about your coworkers. I've worked at places where I meshed really well with others, and we'd hang out together all the time, and other places where it was clear that I was pretty different from the others and their culture - we were still friendly and we'd hang out from time to time, but it was purely an at work / after work bar hangout, and not like we'd ever go over to each other's house or hang out on weekends. We'd only ever be social coworkers, and not friends.
I also know getting out can be a huge hassle, and laziness / nervousness tends to win, but it can be really rewarding if you push yourself to go out there. Look for Meetups or similar social gatherings for something you're interested in, and just being with a bunch of other people who share your interest already greatly increases your odds of making new friends. Worst case scenario, even if you don't make new friends, it's usually still fun just to go out and try to be social. Good luck. :)
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Happy Birthday and thanks for the ride. And don't worry about the being single. I've been single for 20 years now. And I'm ok.
Well, as ok as one with my frame of mind can be. :P
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Happy birthday and i hope everything will be better for you :)
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Happy birthday ^.^
Hope you can enjoy your special day and also good luck with your date!
See the bright side ^^ apart from the relationship-thingy, everything seems to be just fine and isn't it better to be single than to be with someone who doesn't really make you happy? You'll find the right person (on the internet, through tinder, among your friends, while working out, etc. who knows :3) Just don't feel bad for being single. Sure, it's nice to have a partner, but you're not worth less just because there isn't another person! You're great the way you are!
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Thank you for the wish and your words, appreciate both. <3
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Good luck with your upcomming date and happy birthday.
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Happy birthday!
I'm single for 4,5 years now. And I don't understand why would you feel worthless just because you are not in a relationship. I was 3 time sin love 3 times it didn't work out and I must say you that being single is better for me but well to each his own.
Good luck with your date!
And keep on working out! It is good to have some strenght in arms :)
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gl to you hope you will both have fun
and have a great birthday!
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Happy Birthday, Keenzor!
I hope the life will treat you better soon. Maybe this date will go differently, and even if not, maybe there is someone behind next turn :)
I hope this will make you smile:
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Edit: Just wanted to thank everyone for the wishes and encouragement, this thread has given me a lot of joy and some stuff to think about (good stuff). The keys have been sent to the GA winners, enjoy! :)
Today I got to add another +1 to my age and since I have not been very active in the 'giveaway creation department' (mostly because I am too lazy to go through the whole process), I have managed to hoard bunch of keys (mostly from Humble Monthlies since I rarely buy other bundles these days).
So here comes the obligatory train
And since this is a good opportunity to spill out some stuff, I usually bottle up inside, to complete strangers, I might as well use it!
Not that there is much to share... Job-wise things are going well, January marked the start of my 4th year at the company and since Autumn I finally got to do what I like full time so that's neat!
On the other hand, soon I will be single for 3 years and I am starting to get worried. The feeling of loneliness, accompanied by the feeling of worthlessnes is really starting to get to me and while I still do manage to get out of the bed and go to work everyday, I am afraid that a day will come when I just won't be able to.
On the bright side, I have a date scheduled on Wednesday (first one after a year!) so who knows, maybe things will take a turn for the better (though I would rather not get too excited since it's a Tinder date and I have never had a second one with anyone I met through it).
I have also been working out since January and it actually helps me to feel better about myself though I have been slowing down a bit past two weeks, hopefully I will be able to pick up the pace again this week because it would suck to stop now.
I might not be that active here anymore but I still enjoy reading the forums from time to time as well as entering the giveaways of course, so thanks everyone for keeping this place alive. Cheers!
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