what do you think of over controlling partners?
I think people would blacklist you for your ratio :3
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isn't not <-- double negative
"rise above and focus on science"
Focus on what makes you happy. Don't waste your time with things/people who will disappoint you.
If you think she is worth all the hassle: go for it. If not then let it go.
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thanks though, and yeah, it was 5 am and i meant is not , or isnt XD
rick does have a point.
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Hmmm.
Ill say this and walk away slowly.
There is no reason to break friendship with her. None that i can see.
I actually think you should stay around, when she breaks. You would be surprised how many couples break soon after after they announce their engagement.
Having said this. Man, just say it, either now or after they break, if they do. Just propose to have sex. No relationship, straight sex, and work with whatever happens.
If she really appreciate you, she should accept your apology and stay friends with you, you should still be able to fix whatever you broke. Unless you were shit and treated her wrong.
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i dont want to have sex DX i seriously just want friendship.
also, i didnt break anything, she sees my point and understands it
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The question is, do you want friendship because you don't think the relationship will work, because you're afraid it will ruin the friendship, or because you're not attracted to her? If the latter, then everything is fine (I had a lady friend I wasn't attracted to, and it did make for an enjoyable relationship). If not (that is, if you're attracted to her, and can think of being with her, but are worried about other stuff), then personally I think that a relationship based on shared interests and caring for each other is a good one to pursue further.
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im not attracted to her, like, at all, we play the same games, read same books, prefer the same type of music, but thats it, i never considered, nor will consider us being together as in, relationship like
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It didn't sound like that from the initial post. Sounded more like you'd want her if you thought you were better at relationships. But I'd take your word that you're not attracted to her.
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i had to make it seem like im a guy who is interested in her, i dont like showing what sex i am, nor what my purpose is therefore, alot left without a comment, thinking : thats just some lonely guy who wants sex, Hence the comments
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in other words, the situation is true, other things arent, genders might be flipped to protect the people, as i dont like mentioning my own gender, and i never said what i am, they deserve some secrecy as well, over controlling could be guys or girls, but both arent my fav kind to deal with honestly.
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Well, it does make it harder to offer good advice, not knowing what the case really is. Even this comment confuses things.
But in general I'd say that I think you're doing good, assuming that your later responses reflect reality better.
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i do apologize for that, i hope you forgive me, but asking for advice in something clear could somehow bring all kind of people, this was the only was i can limit who checks this post, by making the post seem a bit...teeny? , but your advices sure helped me alot, and in fact, it doesnt confuse stuff, we managed to speak about them in all angles but angles that show who they really are, all we did is convert them to data, data that cant show its owner, then we analyzed them carefully.
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Well, good luck. To both of you. I'm glad you feel I helped, I certainly wasn't sure my comments were useful, especially when I (hopefully) understood the situation better. I still feel a little bit cheated now, but if I did help in any way, that's what matters.
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you helped me alot, ALOT, thanks alot! im extremely sorry for that.
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Sure, there is the possibility she may wind up in a toxic relationship and will hopefully have the sense to leave at some point, or she could be blissfully happy with this person. The point is you're putting the other person's happiness above your own by letting her go to follow her own experience. (As they say, sacrifice is the ultimate act of love.) Backing off is not an easy thing to do and can hurt like hell. As long as you have communicated your reasoning that gives you both closure instead of saying nothing, you're doing the right thing by stepping away and not interfering with her relationship. In short, you, or she, don't know what the future holds...
Good luck to you both and hang in there!
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Tear a hole in your pockets. It's cheaper and has the same outcome.
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this is nothing important, and it will probably waste your time, leave now and blacklist me if you must.
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yeah, just like the title says, i want a girl friend, i want to friend zone her to hell XD, we basically match in alot of things, we like the same games , laugh at the same jokes etc. she is just awesome, we both arent interested in dating though, she has someone, and im not the best person in relationships, i know im gonna miss things up when we grow close, ill get terrified and start to drive everyone near me away.
BUT
i know she loves him, crazy about him, worships the ground he walks on (this is an arabic proverb that shows the extent of love)
she wouldnt cheat on him, not with me, not with anyone, i trust her completely on that.
but the feelings arent mutual , her "boyfriend" apparently wants to drive her away from her friends, and make her have HIS friends as friends, she isnt allowed to talk to anyone other than who HE designs .
im writing this because this messes me up inside
i was a controlling partner, not that much, but i was a controlling partner and i know how it feels , im not judging him, but i just feel so tied up and i wanna write this out,
what do you guys think of over controlling partners? when i was one i was pretty pretty pretty SURE i was right, (i ended up being cheated on that time as well LOL) but i wasnt right, not everyone is bad, not everyone is thinking that way, there is nothing called "im a guy i know how they think"
i just ended up with a wrong girl, we werent good enough
i didnt try to improve myself, i was too annoying and controlling,
so im kinda lost, i just want to discuss with people about this stuff,
im facing the Xmen dilemma , which is the right side? who is right and who is wrong?
and yeah, yesterday, i ended up my friendship with her, he will probably marry her soon, and he can make her happy, on the other hand id ruin her life if i stayed, was that the right choice? should i have stayed?
you can comment and help, you can just ninja around, you can report my account , you can add me, i wont hate you no matter what you do
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