Is talking anonymously about sex counts as cheating? (with ga's, 9 hours left!)

If your relationship is in such a state where you feel the need to find your pleasure elsewhere, then you should talk to your partner about it and let them know your wishes or just break up the relationship and find someone who can fulfill whatever you need in a relationship.

feels like cheating emotionally.

Plot twist: The anonymous person you're sexting with is your girlfriend. :)

It doesn't matter if it's purely in the mind and never physical but if your partner isn't aware of it and wouldn't be happy with it, then you are cheating, as they would still feel betrayed when they found out. (That even goes to watching porn honestly). If your partner is not OK with you doing that and you do it any way, you are breaking their trust and they would be justified if they felt like you had cheated when they found out. If you're happy to share the conversations you're having with strangers with your partner and they aren't bothered by that, then it's up to them, but cheating is a betrayal of trust, plain and simple. So any action you are taking that does break trust is cheating.
I've been married for 10 years and if my wife looked through my phone or searched my browser history or installed spy cams everywhere, there would be nothing to see. The trust and friendship that we share is more important than any lustful ideas my brain might have that she can't fulfil. So the question you have to ask yourself is, Is my relationship just about sex, or am I actually wanting to build a strong bond with another person? If it's the former, then perhaps you need an escort and not a girlfriend, and if it's the latter, then you need to build trust with that person and it starts with the things that you might think are 'harmless'.

Simple solution: Ask your partner what (s)he thinks. My ex-gf was incredibly tolerant and wouldn't have minded so long as it stays digital. Text on an app.

Just so happens I never wanted to do that.

Would you be ok with your partner doing the same thing?
I wouldnt

My boyfriend and I tell to each other when we have crush on people, because we both accepted the fact that we can find other people attracting even if we love each other. We don't consider it as cheating, but I know it could be in other relation, with jealous people. It really depend on the relationship you have with your special other.

TL,DR : If you feel you need to hide something you're doing, it's cheating.

People don't talk enough. Nobody should get into any sort of committed relationship without having had a long discussion about what is expected, what is okay, what is not okay. This is not something you should be asking strangers on the internet, it's something you HAVE TO discuss with any potential partner that you have any form of sexual or romantic relationship with, casual or serious or not.

The reason for this is simple: There are as many definitions of cheating as there are people on the planet. Never, ever, assume that what you think is cheating or what you think is acceptable behavior is the same as what your partner thinks - confirm it. Sit down and TALK TO EACH OTHER!

If you're not mature enough to be able to talk to your partner about what they consider cheating, then you are not mature enough to have a committed relationship. It's really that simple.

And while we're on the subject: if you're not mature enough to discuss STDs and protection with someone you are considering having sex with, you're not mature enough to have sex.

If you're jerking it to a cam girl I think that's fine.
If you're going to a camgirl to just talk and develop an emotional connection.. you're a fuckin weirdo and that's borderline cheating.

Looking for universal rules about this stuff is always hopeless. Every relationship has its own boundaries.

Cheating..

You waste your girlfriend's life. It is a terrible crime.

Anything that you need to hide or feel like hiding from your partner is called cheating.

Sexting is cheating.

I'd say it depends on the partner, but I think most would agree it was.

Unlike say Tex-Mexing, which is flippin' delicious, bb!

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If they don't know about it then likely hood is that it is cheating, otherwise i think it counts as a cuckhold? unless they are also a part of it. in which it is a threesome (or the equivalent word for 3-way sexting...like an orgy of information?).

Does it really matter if it "counts" or not anyway? "It doesn't count" sounds like some excuse that a child would use to justify their action.
And if you have to ask yourself if it counts, it most likely does.

If you're in that situation you should also ask yourself if you are really satisfied with your relationship, because if you were you probably wouldn't be seeking that kind of attention from someone else.

I'm assuming your partner would mind, and I don't see why they wouldn't, except if you both had commitment issues and made some sort of agreement, which doesn't seem to be the case.

I fail to see where just talking about sex with someone is cheating. You're not asking them to replace your partner in bed, you're just discussing an aspect of your couple with them, asking for advice, comparing experiences, that kind of thing. Of course some people like to keep that kind of thing private, but I don't think those who don't are betraying their partner's trust. Sex is just that, sex, not some kind of top-secret government matter.

Sexting may be cheating though, at least if you take that kind of thing seriously. I don't. If someone sends me something along the lines of "im so horny right now" I'll probably tell them that, as far as I know, blowjobs don't work through phones and to go watch some porn instead.

Any activity with opposite sex without your lovers consent is cheating. Either find a woman who doesn't care about this stuff or keep cheating.

Just think what your SO would feel if he/she found out. It may or may not be cheating but I think it's more important to bear in mind the other person's feelings.

Talking about sex and sexting are completelly 2 different things the first is not cheating cause lets say you are a man , you can talk about it with both genders no matter your sexuality, sexting is cheating.
Also what do you mean when you say if you continue in his/her room could pass the boarder of cheating...could? it is cheating :P

All I will say if you love or care about this person this would not even be a question.

Now I am not sure you are asking just to troll or you are in this situation or about to enter said situation.Asking advice is one thing but imo anymore regardless if it's actual "cheating" or not I still think it is wrong.
I mean flirting is fine as long as it is not taken to far like telling someone they look good to compliment them vs saying damn you fine.

How is them being in the same room some how make it okay just because they are there?Well my partner is here I guess since she is in the same room and I grab my friend's boob but she does not notice it okay.I mean by your logic that is.

There is no regulation to not do it but there is a thing called moral.You might want to find out where yours lies because it seems you and moral may not be on the same page.If you care about this person and had any moral you would not be doing this period.
You should do both yourself a favor and end this relationship it is obvious you are not committed and I doubt she approves other wise you would not even be asking such things.

Wait what's wrong with cheating?

I think you should ask your partner because there is not a definitive answer.
Thanks for the GAs!

*does count

It depends on what your relationship contract is.
If you are both open to flirt with other people and don't need to tell the other person, then it's fine. Otherwise, not so much.

Sexting is cheating for sure