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Ouch. Sounds like you're having a tough time max. That sucks. I've been there, so I kinda know what you're talking about. I've been in the ever >circling vortex of self doubt, frustration, and loathing. It's no bueno. I know. If you don't mind lemme tell you a couple things. You can read em if >you want, read em again later if you feel like it. But honestly man, if I spend all this time typing this out to you and you don't let it be a little tinder >for your fire, well, you're just letting us both down. And you don't HAVE to do that. You don't HAVE to do anything. But you get to choose.
(Who am I? My name’s Ryan and I live in Canada. Just moved to a new city for a dream job that I got because of the rules below. I owe a lot of >my success to people much cooler, kinder, more loving and greater than me. When I get the chance to maybe let a little bit of help out, it’s a >way of thanking them. )
Rule numero uno - There are no more zero days. What's a zero day? A zero day is when you don't do a single fucking thing towards whatever >dream or goal or want or whatever that you got going on. No more zeros. I'm not saying you gotta bust an essay out everyday, that's not the >point. The point I'm trying to make is that you have to make yourself, promise yourself, that the new SYSTEM you live in is a NON-ZERO >system. Didnt' do anything all fucking day and it's 11:58 PM? Write one sentence. One pushup. Read one page of that chapter. One. Because >one is non zero. You feel me? When you're in the super vortex of being bummed your pattern of behaviour is keeping the vortex goin, that's >what you're used to. Turning into productivity ultimate master of the universe doesn't happen from the vortex. It happens from a massive string >of CONSISTENT NON ZEROS. That's rule number one. Do not forget.
La deuxieme regle - yeah i learnt french. its a canadian thing. please excuse the lack of accent graves, but lemme get into rule number 2. BE >GRATEFUL TO THE 3 YOU'S. Uh what? 3 me's? That sounds like mumbo jumbo bullshit. News flash, there are three you's homeslice. There's >the past you, the present you, and the future you. If you wanna love someone and have someone love you back, you gotta learn to love >yourself, and the 3 you's are the key. Be GRATEFUL to the past you for the positive things you've done. And do favours for the future you like >you would for your best bro. Feeling like shit today? Stop a second, think of a good decision you made yesterday. Salad and tuna instead of >Big Mac? THANK YOU YOUNGER ME. Was yesterday a nonzero day because you wrote 200 words (hey, that's all you could muster)? >THANK YOU YOUNGER ME. Saved up some coin over time to buy that sweet thing you wanted? THANK YOU. Second part of the 3 me's is >you gotta do your future self a favour, just like you would for your best fucking friend (no best friend? you do now. You got 2. It's future and past >you). Tired as hell and can't get off reddit/videogames/interwebs? fuck you present self, this one's for future me, i'm gonna rock out p90x Ab >Ripper X for 17 minutes. I'm doing this one for future me. Alarm clock goes off and bed is too comfy? fuck you present self, this one's for my >best friend, the future me. I'm up and going for a 5 km run (or 25 meter run, it's gotta be non zero). MAKE SURE YOU THANK YOUR OLD >SELF for rocking out at the end of every.single.thing. that makes your life better. The cycle of doing something for someone else (future you) >and thanking someone for the good in your life (past you) is key to building gratitude and productivity. Do not doubt me. Over time you should >spread the gratitude to others who help you on your path.
Rule number 3- don't worry i'm gonna too long didnt' read this bad boy at the bottom (get a pencil and piece of paper to write it down. >seriously. you physically need to scratch marks on paper) FORGIVE YOURSELF. I mean it. Maybe you got all the know-how, money, ability, >strength and talent to do whatever is you wanna do. But lets say you still didn't do it. Now you're giving yourself shit for not doing what you >need to, to be who you want to. Heads up champion, being dissapointed in yourself causes you to be less productive. Tried your best to have >a nonzero day yesterday and it failed? so what. I forgive you previous self. I forgive you. But today? Today is a nonzero masterpiece to the best >of my ability for future self. This one's for you future homes. Forgiveness man, use it. I forgive you. Say it out loud.
Last rule. Rule number 4, is the easiest and its three words. exercise and books. that's it. Pretty standard advice but when you exercise daily >you actually get smarter. when you exercise you get high from endorphins (thanks body). when you exercise you clear your mind. when you >exercise you are doing your future self a huge favour. Exercise is a leg on a three legged stool. Feel me? As for books, almost every fucking >thing we've all ever thought of, or felt, or gone through, or wanted, or wanted to know how to do, or whatever, has been figured out by >someone else. Get some books max. Post to reddit about not caring about yourself? Good first step! (nonzero day, thanks younger me for >typing it out) You know what else you could do? Read 7 habits of highly successful people. Read "emotional intelligence". Read "From good >to great". Read “thinking fast and slow”. Read books that will help you understand. Read the bodyweight fitness reddit and incorporate it into >your workouts. (how's them pullups coming?) Reading is the fucking warp whistle from Super Mario 3. It gets you to the next level that much >faster.
That’s about it man. There’s so much more when it comes to how to turn nonzero days into hugely nonzero days, but that’s not your mission >right now. Your mission is nonzero and forgiveness and favours. You got 36 essays due in 24 minutes and its impossible to pull off? Your past >self let you down big time, but hey… I forgive you. Do as much as you can in those 24 minutes and then move on.
I hope I helped a little bit max. I could write about this forever, but I promised myself I would go do a 15 minute run while listening to A. Skillz >Beats Working Vol. 3. Gotta jet. One last piece of advice though. Regardless of whether or not reading this for the first time helps make your >day better, if you wake up tomorrow, and you can’t remember the 4 rules I just laid out, please, please. Read this again.
Have an awesome fucking day ☺
It was posted on Reddit if somebody asked.
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Actually thought of this and did five pushups at 23:59 last night xD
NO MORE ZERO DAYS, HONEST!
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The most important part is knowing that you want to live, and then keeping it this way. Eventually something will kick you in the arse so hard that the momentum alone gets you going again. I don´t know if the rough patch i´ve hit is over, but the last year at least was a gazillion times better than the 7 fucking wasted years bfore.
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He sounds like I do, but with me its medical issues that lead to deep depression and the feeling of not belonging, hating myself, and thoughts of ending everything. I spent Christmas week 2015 in a mental hospital due to a botched suicide attempt. I used to be so much different, strong, could work 100 hours a week every week, tough as the Abrams tank I crewed in 30 years ago. Now Im a sick old man who some days cant even get out of bed. I guess thats why I hang out on SG so much, like minded people about gaming makes me feel like I kind of fit in. My whole story would take to long to write and no ones interested anyhow, but I know depression very very well.
Hes a young man so I hope he can get his head back on straight and live a good happy life.
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Yeah, I read the first one and seen similarities. Did I miss something?
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When you say like minded people and gaming helps, maybe you would enjoy some of the comradeship that sustains the oldest groups (some are playing iterations of ArmA since 16 years) in our universe that´s called ArmA! I never was enlisted myself, so i will never understand the true concept of comradeship or the troubles that come with it, but i have a feeling that it might have helped some of the numerous veterans in the community.
Here´s a vid of Shacktac, one of the biggest and americanest (i invented that word) groups doing their thing, so you can see what i´m on about: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IspE0kUZ_B8
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Sometimes when I'm depressed I listen to Take on me from a-ha.
So needless to say, I'm odds and ends. I'll be stumbling away, slowly learning that life is okay. Say after me: it's no better to be safe than sorry.
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Stop! It's only a delusion what you think. Be positve and hyped to make a change of your mindset!
It's really possible. Get rid of your bad habits, implement new, good ones. Plan your days, organize your tasks. Develop your skills, work towards your goals, one small goal at time, dude. What your dream is?
What is happening currently in your life nowadays, does not have to be last endlessly. Forgive your past YOU, prepare yourself for the future YOU. You just need to get a grip. I won't say it would be easy, it's never easy to change the lifestyle, but trust me you can change it accordingly, one brick at time, step by step!
Stay strong brother and good luck!
In case you missed my post:
"Ouch. Sounds like you're having a tough time max. That sucks. I've been there, so I kinda know what you're talking about. I've been in the ever circling vortex of self doubt, frustration, and loathing. It's no bueno. I know. If you don't mind lemme tell you a couple things. You can read em if you want, read em again later if you feel like it. But honestly man, if I spend all this time typing this out to you and you don't let it be a little tinder for your fire, well, you're just letting us both down. And you don't HAVE to do that. You don't HAVE to do anything. But you get to choose.
(Who am I? My name’s Ryan and I live in Canada. Just moved to a new city for a dream job that I got because of the rules below. I owe a lot of my success to people much cooler, kinder, more loving and greater than me. When I get the chance to maybe let a little bit of help out, it’s a way of thanking them. )
Rule numero uno - There are no more zero days. What's a zero day? A zero day is when you don't do a single fucking thing towards whatever dream or goal or want or whatever that you got going on. No more zeros. I'm not saying you gotta bust an essay out everyday, that's not the point. The point I'm trying to make is that you have to make yourself, promise yourself, that the new SYSTEM you live in is a NON-ZERO system. Didnt' do anything all fucking day and it's 11:58 PM? Write one sentence. One pushup. Read one page of that chapter. One. Because one is non zero. You feel me? When you're in the super vortex of being bummed your pattern of behaviour is keeping the vortex goin, that's what you're used to. Turning into productivity ultimate master of the universe doesn't happen from the vortex. It happens from a massive string of CONSISTENT NON ZEROS. That's rule number one. Do not forget.
La deuxieme regle - yeah i learnt french. its a canadian thing. please excuse the lack of accent graves, but lemme get into rule number 2. BE GRATEFUL TO THE 3 YOU'S. Uh what? 3 me's? That sounds like mumbo jumbo bullshit. News flash, there are three you's homeslice. There's the past you, the present you, and the future you. If you wanna love someone and have someone love you back, you gotta learn to love yourself, and the 3 you's are the key. Be GRATEFUL to the past you for the positive things you've done. And do favours for the future you like you would for your best bro. Feeling like shit today? Stop a second, think of a good decision you made yesterday. Salad and tuna instead of Big Mac? THANK YOU YOUNGER ME. Was yesterday a nonzero day because you wrote 200 words (hey, that's all you could muster)? THANK YOU YOUNGER ME. Saved up some coin over time to buy that sweet thing you wanted? THANK YOU. Second part of the 3 me's is you gotta do your future self a favour, just like you would for your best fucking friend (no best friend? you do now. You got 2. It's future and past you). Tired as hell and can't get off reddit/videogames/interwebs? fuck you present self, this one's for future me, i'm gonna rock out p90x Ab Ripper X for 17 minutes. I'm doing this one for future me. Alarm clock goes off and bed is too comfy? fuck you present self, this one's for my best friend, the future me. I'm up and going for a 5 km run (or 25 meter run, it's gotta be non zero). MAKE SURE YOU THANK YOUR OLD SELF for rocking out at the end of every.single.thing. that makes your life better. The cycle of doing something for someone else (future you) and thanking someone for the good in your life (past you) is key to building gratitude and productivity. Do not doubt me. Over time you should spread the gratitude to others who help you on your path.
Rule number 3- don't worry i'm gonna too long didnt' read this bad boy at the bottom (get a pencil and piece of paper to write it down. seriously. you physically need to scratch marks on paper) FORGIVE YOURSELF. I mean it. Maybe you got all the know-how, money, ability, strength and talent to do whatever is you wanna do. But lets say you still didn't do it. Now you're giving yourself shit for not doing what you need to, to be who you want to. Heads up champion, being dissapointed in yourself causes you to be less productive. Tried your best to have a nonzero day yesterday and it failed? so what. I forgive you previous self. I forgive you. But today? Today is a nonzero masterpiece to the best of my ability for future self. This one's for you future homes. Forgiveness man, use it. I forgive you. Say it out loud.
Last rule. Rule number 4, is the easiest and its three words. exercise and books. that's it. Pretty standard advice but when you exercise daily you actually get smarter. when you exercise you get high from endorphins (thanks body). when you exercise you clear your mind. when you exercise you are doing your future self a huge favour. Exercise is a leg on a three legged stool. Feel me? As for books, almost every fucking thing we've all ever thought of, or felt, or gone through, or wanted, or wanted to know how to do, or whatever, has been figured out by someone else. Get some books max. Post to reddit about not caring about yourself? Good first step! (nonzero day, thanks younger me for typing it out) You know what else you could do? Read 7 habits of highly successful people. Read "emotional intelligence". Read "From good to great". Read “thinking fast and slow”. Read books that will help you understand. Read the bodyweight fitness reddit and incorporate it into your workouts. (how's them pullups coming?) Reading is the fucking warp whistle from Super Mario 3. It gets you to the next level that much faster.
That’s about it man. There’s so much more when it comes to how to turn nonzero days into hugely nonzero days, but that’s not your mission right now. Your mission is nonzero and forgiveness and favours. You got 36 essays due in 24 minutes and its impossible to pull off? Your past self let you down big time, but hey… I forgive you. Do as much as you can in those 24 minutes and then move on.
I hope I helped a little bit max. I could write about this forever, but I promised myself I would go do a 15 minute run while listening to A. Skillz Beats Working Vol. 3. Gotta jet. One last piece of advice though. Regardless of whether or not reading this for the first time helps make your day better, if you wake up tomorrow, and you can’t remember the 4 rules I just laid out, please, please. Read this again.
Have an awesome fucking day ☺"
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Just read the first sentence of the wall, it has the truth in it (except for the get hyped part, i know it´s nearly impossible).
Depressions are devilish illness, all those bad thoughts going rampage and running in circles.
What helped me a little bit, and i hate opening up like this in a place like the internets, was doing meals on wheels (i hope it´s the correct english term). The elderly take you the way you are, no strings attached (most of the times they´re worse off then you anyway). The ammount of sincere gratitude I met in that job definately helped reinstating a feel of "see, you ain´t that useless after all".
It´s really mostly about getting started in the first place rather than getting to know how to do it again.
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tldr:
No zero days - do at least one thing
Be grateful for the three you's - past self, present self and future self
Forgive your "past self" and do something for your future self in your present self so you don't have to forgive your past self tomorrow :-p
Exercise and read
Doesn't exactly explain it but close enough. As my grandmother would have said, "If you can put your feet on the floor, you can run".
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Interestingly The Gaming community actually statisically has one of the highest rates of depression of any demographic.
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Well, that's really easy to explain.
Videogames are some 10/10 escapism from reality.
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I think also it is that people who play games on average are more likely to be introverts when compared to any other group and don't socialize as much.
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Makes sense. Much like, say, reading, introverts will get into gaming because it's a hobby that doesn't require them to face uncomfortable social situations.
I get really annoyed when people say that gaming causes people to become anti-social, when it's obviously not true. Why they choose not to see it's sorta the other way around, i'll never know.
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I have crippling depression.
Well, I have crippling social anxiety, the self loathing and depression are a by-product of that. I manage it okay, I try to not stay home too long, go to the gym and all that.
I'm still lonely and all that, but that's a fate i've come to accept, and when the day day comes i will go gentle into that good night.
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