Probably the worst place to ask for dating advice, a gaming forums :(

I think enough people have read this for me to be able to edit it

Thanks for the advice. I'll tell you how it goes

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First off, the friendzone's just a mental construct, and a generally harmful one at that. Don't bother with it.

Second, your best chance is to just pop the question. Find her, explain that you have to talk to her about something and then tell her how you feel. And if she doesn't want to be your girlfriend, don't go yelling 'friendzone'. Romance shouldn't be the sole end-goal of a relationship with a girl. Even if your relationship doesn't get romantic, you can still have a full and genuine friendship, one that can help you as you grow older.

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Friendzone isn't even a real thing. This is the truest thing I've seen in this whole thread.

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This is a great comment.

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ty

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I'm in friendzone now, and it's really not cool, and now I regret I didn't ask her for the same thing, because I know it could work earlier. And the biggest problem is, I really like her now, but she don't want to hear about any my feelings to her, everytime I start talking about them, she is just going somewhere else or changing topic. It really hurts. So go, ask, and don't make mistake that I did 1 year ago! :C

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awww :C

  • hug *
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<3

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Oh no tweedy :c bad puddy cat rejected u?

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puddy tat*

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Yes :/ but I`m still fighting!

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Dude, you are not gonna "lose" her friendship if you ask her out and she's not into you. Things may be a little awkward for a few days, but not even by much. If you have decided you want to but can't bring yourself to, or are always postponing it just close your eyes and think of ALL you stand to win if you ask her out. Science shows people regret the things they did NOT do a gazillion times more than the things they did do.

*DISCLAIMER: Above information based on average human nature. Your particular experience may vary.

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Typical BioShock Infinite fan.

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wat

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You bes tell dat guhl wats up. Othawise she gonna start trippin.

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just walk up to her and whip out your dick. now heres the difficult part, you gotta put your hands out to your side and do the best spirit fingers you can do and go "ta-da". if shes doesnt fall madly in love with you after that performance, there is no chance with her.

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Shit in her coffee, piss in her food, assert your dominance!

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People talk of the "friend zone", but I don't like to believe there is one. Maybe some of the girls here can attest to this, but I'd say persistence pays off.

Even Michelle Obama turned down Barack the first several times he asked her out. The ones that make you work for it are the ones that are worth it.

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Listen to this guy!, he has to deal with House all the time.

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Wrong actor brah. Not even from same show.

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he has to deal with Gob, Buster, his mom, his father, Maeby, George Michael, Tobias, and his sister*

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"The ones that make you work for it are the ones that are worth it"
Or they're just not interested. Or depending on how they decline, they could be just stringing you along. Relationships (and people) are funny things. Where they seem overly complicated they can be incredibly simple, and where they seem simple they can be insanely intricate. \o/

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You only went with her out once (I assume not as a clear date, just going and hanging out together) and with her and her friends only a couple of times. If in one year, that was all that happened, I would not think that this guy had a romantic interest in me. I would probably just think he liked to hang out with us.

So I don't think you were friendzoned, she probably never even perceived your actions as anything special or beyond a friend/acquaintance. Still, it is odd that she thought you were "joking". So maybe she did catch up on it, but didn't think much of it, because she expected you to pursue her more if that was the case?

Anyway, just try letting her know you are interested in her and if she wants to go out ^^

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The "joking" thing might actually just be the friend's interpretations of it, unless she explicitly told them so. Those whispers get distorted as they pass along-

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Hahah...I was trying to figure out how your italicised words formed the link to a giveaway.

Yes, you should ask her out.

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get her drunk or high and make a move if it goes south "it was the drugs" ;)

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This.

So much this.

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That's rape.

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That's bullshit.

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::facepalm::

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...you're saying that like it's a bad thing.

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If you don't mind being anally invaded by stronger men for the rest of your life, it isn't.

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Ask her out again, obviously.

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Listen to this girl, admirers literally add her on steam just to bask in her glory.

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Sounds like you've been friend-zoned... But ask her out anyway! Stop over-thinking it and just do it. The worst that can happen is that she'll say no, and believe me, that's not so bad. There are a lot women out there if things don't work out.

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It's a trap.

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Pfffft, friendzone. If you get friendzoned, just try harder and be more aggressive. Meh, what do I know. I'm 22 years old and a virgin, never kissed a girl, or had a girlfriend for that matter.... Homeschool is the ultimate chastity belt.

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I'm not home schooled, and I'm in the same situation as you. Unisex school the same? Or maybe it's just me indiscriminately barking at everyone who comes within a 5 metre radius, telling them not to spoil my latest plan to create the best piece of audio-visual art?

Nah, must be the unisex school.

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Take a risk and ask her out.
If it works out its all good, if it doesn't find someone else and move on.

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What is this "girl" you speak of? Must I slay it?

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Grow up a mainly moustache. That's what girls like.

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Got sued for sexual harassment, apparently I grew the "mustache" in the wrong place.

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There's no such thing as a "friendzone." You are not so self righteous that other people are obligated to be anything for you.

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hate people who love humans?

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Just ask her out and avoid the middlemen (or middlewomen). Tell things directly to her.
You are friends, so you know how to reach her - just be confident.
If goes right, enjoy the moment and don't freak out about the upcoming ending (if you are really moving out).
If goes wrong, don't be awkward with her because she will respond the same way.

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Ask her to set you up with one of her friends.

If she likes you, she'll suggest you take her out on a date instead; otherwise you end up on a date with another girl and you don`t have to worry about "friendzone" and can stay friends with her.

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Interesting idea but not the best advice, if she is nervous too this just tells her you are not interested.

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You can word it like "I really want to date a great girl, do you know anyone who would be into me?"

This is open-ended enough that she has can give a direct answer or she can say "I'll let you know" if she needs to think about her own feelings. It doesn't force a decision on-the-spot like outright telling her you like her.

It also has less of a backfire chance as if she is really not interested in anything romantic she is under no pressure as you're not directly asking her out. As well, if it does go this way you may end up being set up on a great date with one of her friends!

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Worst case scenario is, that she'll say no. Not a bad loss compared to the prize.

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Well said.

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Closed 11 years ago by Bards.