Were you in any toxic relationship before?
Keep being strong. Sometimes these people are good at manipulating our feelings, too. I had a few friendships like this and when they refuse to get the hint, even after being told directly, I finally just ignore them until they quit (hopefully!) and move on with my life, things became much more simple. Good luck!
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Yep, been there .. Keep your head up, remember why they're in your past :-) I wish you all the best.
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yes i have and as much as i would like to say the opposite i would take the call and do my best to help the person and even try to make peace and be friends again... thats just the kind of person i am
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Does being kept on the "I'm not sure if I want for us to be together" leash count as toxic? If not, then nope, but being treated like a glorified tour guide and "plan B" felt really toxic to me. When I pulled the plug I was sure she'll find some asshole, who'll treat her as garbage and she'll come running. When that happened it was great to see her almost ready to beg. My humble advice: if the help needed from you isn't related to money, help, but be firm and show you've moved on. This is the best revenge.
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Yeah, being "Plan B" is indeed harmful in many ways. At least you managed to leave (and to have some nice topping at the end ;)
Maybe one day I'll listen to your advice. Now I feel that any contact will damage my will to leave. One day, one day!
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Yeah she was pretty crazy used to just make up bs to argue acused me of cheating non-stop said I wanted her Mom her sister her friends I put up with all this for like a month cuz..=} she wanted to stay friends said she would call me so I smashed my phone infront of her then left never saw her again or put up with bs like that again. Just ignore em soon they will move on no need to let toxic people back to infect your life.
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Just ignore it and move on. I had a couple of very unpleasant relationships and the best way to end those is to not look back. You might feel the urge to tell them to get lost, but don't waste your time.
All the best for your future and there are people out there that are worth your time and care :)
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I was married to one of them, stay strong and never look back. Theres so much better out there, you deserve the very best for yourself :)
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That's part of the problem, actually the whole problem, I don't think I'm ready. I said I wanted a break, but the break only lasted for 10 days and we got back together. I truly do love him, but what we have isn't healthy for either of us...
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I've had my share of toxic relationships, both friends and significant others. Here's my 2 cents: there's 7 billion people on this planet; if you can't find somebody more deserving of spending your time, effort and energy on, you're definitely doing it wrong. Improve the quality of the people you spend time with and if you can't do that, improve the quality of yourself so you attract a better type of person. You've only got so much time on this planet; try not to waste any of it on trying to make assholes happy.
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My Father, but he still gas some control over my life, to a degree I don't feel comfortable with. It's tough because I had to cut my relationships with my stepmom and stepsister and cut out a lot of the relationship with my grandparents on thier side to do it. Those grandparents are trying to push me back towards him, and my mom want me to have a relationship with him, but isn't pushing it.
For romantic relationships, I was in a controlling one, but not nesscarily toxic.
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My toxic relationship wasn't one of arguing or hatetred. We both fueled each other into delving deep with in drugs. When we finally where able to separate (which was the hardest thing ever, we had been together 10 years). We both got off drugs. She found some one new (recently contacted my letting me know she is now pregerz with the new guys baby and the guy is abusive. I feel for her and put good vibes into the cosmos for her and so should you if you have any beliefs that support that 8]
Did I find some one new you ask? Not another person but myself .. I also was in car wreck that left me disabled.
Go figure I rode around high all the time never even got a parking ticket. Oh well I count my blessings.
Oh and this has all been about 6 years ago.
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Doesn't matter how toxic somebody has been to you, nor bad, if that person needs urgent/serious help from you, then by all means you should help him/her.
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I barely have relationships. More than half of them I fuck up in one way or another into ruination. The only thing I've learned is that I have to apologize if I ever do something (no matter how right/wrong it may be) and I have to take everyone's shit. Everyone else can do whatever they want but as soon as I try that, I'm the freaking bad guy.
I've already resigned myself to not relying/wanting/being with any human being for the rest of my life. I have nothing to gain except a dagger in the back. I'm not going to set myself up when I know they'll drop me when I'm obsolete as countless people are better, so why settle for crap? NO ONE is truly altruistic and nice. EVERYONE has an angle and a motive.
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I haven't been in a toxic relationship. So I don't know what you have been through. I'm happy to be in a healthy one.
I''m happy for you that you found strength to end it. I understand some people can't end it (still love the other or too terrified to do something), or don't see how bad it is for them. I hope you found someone who deserves you, and is as good to you as you are.
It's not wrong too help someone in need. But if they never learn or never want to improve, what good is that help. Don't let them take you down with them.
But you have learned from it, and you might help others that have similar experiences. Now you are gaining strength from the support of SG and maybe other resources. And you are part of it, so someday you can help an other one who posts someone similar.
Wish you all the best.
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I left a toxic relationship not so long ago and today I received few calls from this person and then a message "I urgently need your help".
So I thought I'll return to SG Shrine to rest and gain strength to avoid bs like that.
Were you in any toxic relationship before?
obligatory GAs
Asphyxia (Lvl2+)
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adding more - GAs made by awesome CowOfDarkness for this thread! ♥
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edit (again):
It was really wise of me to turn into this Marvellous SG Shrine, really. I feel stronger and definitely WAY better than before. You people rock! And I'm wishing you all the best in return ♥
I'm sorry if I didn't respond to someone, my inbox just went BOOM and it's hard to keep up!
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