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In one hand it's good that they have a choice but in the other childhood is not a good time to make such decisions..

if nobody is being forced then is all right... they are just introducing peeps to peeps....

Somehow I don't believe their parents won't be forcing it if it doesn't work out itself.

It may sound nice on the outside, but I believe more often than not even if noone is directly forcing a marriage there is still forcing, but indirect - you don't want to dissapoint your parents, you feel obliged to "at least try few more dates" while otherwise you'd dump the other person after the very 1st date, you may be even unknowinglly be forcing yourself in your subconcious.

This allows them to get to know each other, but parents who want to arrange marriage for their children will definitely either force or heavily encourage it so it's not much better than the traditional arranged marriages. Anyway marriage is not something that should be pushed on children in any way. People shouldn't even consider marriage before they're at least 25-30, have their life on track and are in love-filled relationship with the person for at least a couple of years. It's very important that the couple lives together for several years before considering marriage as well, because people might be different when you go on date with them every now and then from when you actually start living with them.

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I'm not that into the idea of marriage anyway, but if any arrangements at all would need to take place there would have to be a true freedom of decision left, as I agree with a few other people in this thread that the social pressure would still lead to unwanted by one or both sides couplings.

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These arranged/forced marriages are utter bullshit. It's forcing children/young adults to do something they may not even want to. More often then not there is pressure to carry on meeting the person etc. even if they may not like them. The thought of these really irks me and hopefully one day they will be outlawed everywhere.
The choice which person you marry or are in a relationship with is one of the most important decisions you make in your life and to think that someone else decided who is best for you or pressured you into meeting or having (many) dates just annoys me immensely.

It's fine. Strictly arranged marriage are not common around here (never heard of one, but I'm not surprised if it still practiced). Mostly it was the introduce-arranged marriage. Parents used to be young too, so they are quite considerate and choose only the one that they think the best for their children.

Around here, we don't quite accept the concept of dating or couples going out without chaperon. One of my friend were bold enough to directly approach the parents asking for their daughter's hand. He never dated the girl, only started to contact her after meeting with the father. They got 2 healthy kids.

The term "child" is enough to say it is far from perfect. If lots of highschool / college couple break it is because they didn't finished to grow, in theyr body, in their tastes, and in their head. You can be totally in love with someone at 12, yet, you grow up, your taste and way to think change, same as your lover... in the end you might be so different that you can't support each other anymore... add to that the study / work perspective wich might put distance (sometimes a LOT of distance) between both of them. Also as other people stated, the only fact that it is a "marriage arrangement meeting" if it is requested by the parents to the child, its already kind of a forcing, i don't think childs need to have the "feeling" that they "have to" marry themselves at some point... i believe lots of childs probably accept those meeting only to not disobey or upset their parents.
Personnal point of view though

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long distance relationships don't usually work, you need to actually meet someone to see if you click and you need to spend at least a certain percentage of time around someone for a relationship to form.
people become adult at between 12 and 14 and this is when mate imprinting occurs, the strongest relationships are formed in that time.
arranged marriages have two important benefits, often the mate for both sides is better than one would find on their own, also if a male isn't paired at the appropriate time they become increasingly obsessed with finding a mate, this leads to a downward spiral of depression, mate searching (or worse porn) taking up time that should be used on self improvement, and the desperation and age will begin to show putting off potential mates, by 21 chances of finding a mate are practically non-existent. the vast majority of people will never manage to be rich so the get rich and find a mate thing not only doesn't work but if "successful" you will just find a gold-digger instead of a companion you have fought the world with.
many things you see on tv are designed to destroy your life so you will substitute products instead

Arranged marriages are a very common thing in my country.

Basically, you're selling your daughter into sex slavery for some favor/money, or "buying" your son a woman.

Completely disgusting and among the worst things in the world. I have no respect for anyone who would even consider it.

Those are only 1% better than intro-only arranged marriages.

Parents should not have the slightest part in the decision making process when YOU are deciding who YOU want to spend the rest of YOUR life with.

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It's still fucked up even if they introduce someone to their kid and are like 'hey you will marry this girl... if you want'

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