Arranged marriages ? Modern or traditional ? Nah, thanks, I live in XXI century not XV . That's all i have to say about it. I did not need any help to propose to my fiance and meet her at all, we were not forced to each other neither repelled from each other and that's the way it suppose to be. I'm aware that some people are still mentaly stuck in medieval but that's just retarded. Cheers :)
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I'm not completely against the idea. I think arranged marriages get a bad rap, not unrightfully so... but still an unfair assessment maybe. The less forceful the parents are the better it is. I've known many people that had arranged marriages and were absolutely happy with the outcome. It honestly depends on the individuals ideals of love, marriage, etc. The only problem with it is that at such a young age it is hard to tell the personality a child will have when they are grown, which can lead to a bunch of problems if they turn out to be less than satisfactory. With more than half of marriages ending in divorce as it is, I would be willing to bet that the percentage of arranged marriages divorcing is quite slim. It keeps the marriage from being based on lust, money (in the child's eyes anyway), pain, or love. Instead you become friends with the other person (in the modern example) and then love comes from that. Which is how it truly should be. I'm not an advocate for arranged marriages, I just think they aren't as bad as people believe.
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I've always hated the idea of arranged marriage.
If it's up to the children (or adults by the time they can decide) then it's at least better.
But do the parents stop there? Will they stop talking about arranged marriages if their son/daughter says no? Or will they just find a new candidate?
If they stop when their son or daughter says they want to find their own partner, it's perfectly fine imo.
If it's forced then there's no doubt, I just hate it.
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As you define it, modern arranged marriage sounds a lot like general internet dating. As far as someone who has never done it understands it.
As long as you have some choice in the matter it sounds fine to me. The whole Marriage for love idea is relatively new as far as I have read.
Also the last I heard arranged marriages have a much lower divorce rate than love marriages.
Article on arranged marriges
Just thought I would include some outside sources.
Whatever you decide good luck.
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Marriage for love IS a new idea, so're civil rights, freedom of speech, not killing people for having a different religion...
I'm not just mentioning these for correlation: There's an actual reason behind them. You either believe people have the freedom to do what they want, or that they should be subservient to others. This reflects as much on the above as it does on arranged marriage.
And the reason for arranged marriages having less divorces? You have to look at their societies. As mentioned in the quote in the OP, most of them happen in traditional societies, where women CAN'T get a divorce. Like, literally, your family would reject you if you did, and you have no source of income other than your husband. Not getting a divorce doesn't mean you have a happy marriage.
You have to understand how human psychology and biology works. If you love someone, it is because your body has decided they are right for you to have offspring with. You can recognize how well their immune system complements yours subconsciously. If we evolve a certain tendency, it's usually beneficial. Love-based marriages simply produce healthier offspring, and that's a scientific fact.
Whatever you decide good luck.
Now that's a feeling I can get behind. The problem is that with arranged marriages you don't GET to decide. Even in the "modern" versions. Children can't make such life-changing decisions. Children cannot vote, they cannot consent to sex(hence why doing it with minors is illegal) so I don't see why they'd be able to consent to a life of having sex with someone.
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