Lets talk about introvert people, also, 10 copies of Hero of the Kingdom II.

I consider myself an introvert as I am most comfortable in quiet places without any sort of physical contact but I do admit that I have some extrovert tendencies (especially after drinking). Of course you see successful people as extrovert as that is how they wish to be perceived. A successful introvert would stand quietly in the background while someone else took the praise. This is not a bad thing by any means. Have you heard the expression behind "every great man there's a great woman". I consider this an extrovert introvert argument that can be applied to modern life in a more broader sense.

I'm an introvert... I'm shy, soft spoken and I never used to make the first move. Take something as simple as a party with friends: I would always make excuses why I couldn't go or I would stress out until I was in the room. Before the alcohol kicked in I would be awkward and would wait for other people to talk to me first and even then it would be small talk. I would want to leave the whole time. Now I've been pushing myself with work and stuff and basic conversation with other people is okay and I go out of my way to make conversation. I don't get the whole, "You are so shy" thing as much. But I still want to leave and have time alone, away from others, but I'm okay with this... It's just who I am and I'm learning to accept it!

Steamgifts has helped and made me realise that I can get better. Take BAA for example, that group is a very social group and has given me an opportunity to be more social. Normally, if I was asked to voice chat and play games I would make excuses like say my mic was broken. In BAA I pushed myself and spoke on group voice chat and I speak just as much as the others. I've even been told I was outgoing, so it makes me realise that I have these traits in me, I just need to bring it to real life more. So just keep pushing yourself and you'll get there :)

You are feeling bad because you are afraid to make a mistake :) We share the same story, I was a lot like you. But I've learned how to cope with it. It is very complex, I could write the whole book about it, but there are some advices I can give you that can make a big difference for you.

Experiment. Be a scientist. Do things to see what will happen. Don't think further. Go, talk to the girl/boy and see what will happen. Haven't you ever been curious what will happen? And do it in every aspect of life - experiment.

Talking with people is easy, especially when they talk much. You just ask a question about something and you show you love what they answered. Say: "wow, it's so cool" and ask another question. Of course you have to really love what they say but when you're scientist you love to know new facts about other people and gather informations about them. Love what they said and you will remember it and when you will mention about it one week later they will be like in 7th heaven because nobody really cares about what other people say. Except us - scientists of love ;)

Look in people's eyes.

Smile :)

I feel the same as You or at least similar... Yet, I feel so useless and worthless :/
I wish You good luck!

I feel like I'm introvert too but as the time passes I'm trying to make myself less introvert. The thing is that most people have commom subjets to talk about while myself I only know much about videogames, anime and maybe drawing but nothing else,those stuff are not really common in society nowadays so that may be a reason of why I do not speak much with people. But I do hope to find love someday despite of beign introvert.

This is complicated, I was extremely shy as a child (I did not talk even with my parents) and seeing how much it hurt me in my life, I've been fighting this alone, forcing me to talk more with people. And I had a good period in my life. Today I'm not shy but continuous introverted, I think I got used to not talk much to people, do not know. But one problem I notice is that I can not make new friends in certain environments (especially at work), I think my biggest barrier is my sexuality, I can not open up, talk to others about my life knowing that they are homophobic or homophobic colleagues can hear the conversation, it hurts my logic.
But these days, I find it hard to make friends (even in the gay scene), I basically dont have matter, I can not explain what happens, I always try to analyze me and try me understand why all this my social difficulties (yes, unfortunately it hinders in life, in certain jobs, lose space for those who do well socially). I think just doing the therapy to perhaps get better.

The only hint I can give you is to try, yeah, it's hard, but try to talk as much as possible with people, always look in the eyes, not toward, look IN THE eyes, it makes difference.

Good luck =/

everyone is laughing, having a good time overall, and yet, I'm there, without enjoying the time being

Big mistake, being chatty or extrovert doesn't make a person happy per se.
I know a lot of people who desperately search parties\people to talk with because they are afraid to be alone with their thoughts

If you like to define your personality, try getting into MBTI, and from then on into cognitive functions and socionics. Beware, it's not anything scientific (I mean psychologists don't use MBTI in their work), but there's enough truth in there to consider it worth to know when you want to understand yourself and other people better.
Yes, I'm an introvert, by MBTI, I'm an INTP which stands for Introverted, iNtuitive, Thinking, Perceiving.

Don't worry too much about being an introvert - it's a part of who you are; you shouldn't have to change it - make it your strength, not a weakness.
There are many successful introverts out there - they just don't advertise it (they don't need to).

Here are a couple of articles that might be encouraging
http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/meghan-telpner/introvert-in-extrovert-world_b_8761110.html
http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/2-superpowers-introverted-men-use-for-understanding-women-kt/

Hang in there!

Just be a funny guy, this helps a lot. Though if other people already put you in the drawer of "the guy who does not like to talk" that might be hard... but good luck!

Unfortunately I can not help or give advice, just because I act the same way. I am a man of few words.

Sounds like you could benefit from a talk with Dr. Victora Vanderfort.

She's an exceptional psychologist giving out free sessions this month only...

You can find her somewhere in here...
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Hello. Look, you don't need to be social with everyone. I like to talk to people at general, but I never like talking to people that I don't like or that they never have something interesting to say. Keep that in mind. It's good to be selectively social. Other than that, you said that you are talkative with people that you trust. So, be with these people, but also with people that you don't trust, in the same room. You will talk to the people you trust, then they'll talk about the same thing to the people that you don't trust, so they'll start the conversation with them. So, you'll conversate about the same topic and slowly you'll end up talking with the people that you don't trust too. I hope I explained this well because I'm not a fluent English writer. :P Also, do you know that it's always good to express your feelings? You get out with some people that you don't know and you're feeling shy. Well, then try saying: "I'm sorry, guys and girls, for not talking a lot, but I'm really shy". I'm pretty sure that they'll help you and make you feel comfortable, as long as they're good people. Simple, yet effective advice. :P

As a psychologist, I'd suggest avoid reading the common sense that you can find around about it. If you'd like to know more about such personality division, go to the source: Carl Gustav Jung, who made these terms popular. No need to read his books, just make sure you search for "Jung" along with any of these terms, and you'll probably find more reliable information (mostly).

It's not only about being successful in social situations, but has a more structural meaning: where does your vital energy flows to naturally: to yourself, or to others. Philosofically, I'd say that it's where do you think you'll find the truth: inside you, or outside you.

I'd also not compare a psychological trait to the social behaviour, because the later varies greatly from each culture, so it's not a fair comparison.

There's also a well-known psychological test, the Myers–Briggs Type Indicator, that can easily tell that (among other interesting stuff). You can easily find derivates of this test around the web, and even though not as scientificaly accurate as doing the proper test, with a proper professional, it can give some great insight about your personality.

I used to be alike and I honestly can't explain to myself how I managed to get out of that. But here are some tipps I made experience with and would suggest you to try those when socializing:

• Decently cling to people you already know. Don't overdo it because it will make you look like you are not interested in the rest of the troup.
• If you meet strangers generally be friendly. (This is a major point which will make them think you are sympathizing.)
• Ask a person you want to socialize with out on random things that could be in their spectrum of interest. It's not hard to find out what you have in common (e.g. music, food, movies/series, hobbies, what they are doing for a living/what school/studies, pets). Once you know about a common interest you can navigate the conversation into further details.
• Let go of things that make you feel afraid to say or do something.
• Embarrassment happens to all people. No matter how much you think it is, it won't be embarrassing if you don't let it be embarrassing. Just shake it off or even better do slightly embarrassing things on purpose. It'll make it easier to grow familiar with it.
• If literally nothing works out or you feel like being happier somewhere else, simply try to act like you were someone else with no boundaries. You don't have to meet the recently met people again. Chances that you fuck up everything is ridiculously low. In face the more you are openminded the more people will get to like you. Same applies to people you feel attracted to. Similar to a game you take action and if it does not work out you can try again the next time. (This does not mean it's okay to be a jerk!)
• Stop giving a f*ck about what anyone says if it's meant to harm you. If you allow it to slip through it will sicken you. I'd say let it go but that would require grabbing a hold of it first. Don't even grab/pick it up - simply ignore.

There's one simple thing that will rule your life, make you feel better in different matters and make you don't waste too many resources on irrelevant thoughts:

Treat others how you would like to be treated

If someone treats you bad, stay good intentioned, let them know and hope they'll recognize their mistake. If they don't (intentioned or not) treat them the same way. They don't deserve your kindness and you are not supposed to work and improve their behavior/personality, they gotta learn better themselves.

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Having an elevator all to myself....:P
If you are like that, then you are awesome,don't worry lol
Happy New Year lol

I'm also an introvert and generally I find myself building deeper and longer connections with other people like this. I don't think you need to be extrovert to be successful. Sure, there are some areas where it definitely help, but that would be it. I'm really socially awkward when I'm in group of people I don't know or simply don't share any common interests. I'm not the type who pretend to be amused or agree with the loudest and the most obnoxious person, so I've heard a few times that I'm boring or not friendly. It doesn't bother me, since it let me build strong connection with really great people, that I have a lot in common with. I don't think you should force yourself to act in a particular manner only to be more accepted, because pretending it's tiring in a long run. You should start by accepting yourself and you'll find your social circle ;).

I'm definitely an introvert as well. Just be happy with those you enjoy being around, is about the only advice I can offer.

I used to be incredibly introvert (I still had friends, and I loved hanging out with them, but I would generally avoid things that would draw too much attention to me).
Decided I wanted to be more comfortable with going to parties and socializing with strangers, so I started more or less forcing myself to go out and talk to people. It did take me a while to break out of my shell, but nowadays I'm far more comfortable with being the center of a crowd. I'm still an introvert and I find it far more relaxing to stay at home with a good book & a cup of tea than going out to socialize, but I'm no longer uncomfortable with being the center of attention.

Most of the successful people I've meet or seen (in person), share a common trait: They're extroverts.

There are a lot of successful people who are not extroverts, you just don't see them. A boss who's an extrovert and who does his/her job well is someone you'll notice, they like to get involved in what's going on, a boss who's an introvert is someone you'll not notice... until they're no longer there and things stop working.

Im an introvert, but unlike you im ok being this way, i have a very small group of friends and thats all i really want really, i dont hate people or anything, just im not gonna go out of my way to meet people i guess. I enjoy my time alone(not that way).

Peeps change, i mean i changed a lot since i left school, im of the kind off mind that if i dont like something bout me i try to change it as hard as possible, ex i didnt like my overweight so i worked hard and since then lost more that 30kg.... now im kind off on the other side but thats another thing.

If you dont like being a lone wolf change it, i know its hard, just trow yourself out there, when i was younger i was very scared of rejection... but as i got older i stooped caring about what other people think... now i dont give a dam.... im a bad ass B)

Introvert, really shy :p

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