sh*t happens, been there, done that. relax, someone better will come to you :) they always do
vote for..... nothing, got all of em, but option A is a very good game :D
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Try to think of it that, maybe she realises that she isnt the one for you and felt that she shouldnt be wasting your time.
Drown your free time at something that cheers you up and count all the things you've learn and gained from this =)
Other than that I vote for C since it seems to be an underdog here X)
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Well looks like you learnt something, 1 is that your friendly and that means atleast you dont have much trouble getting to know women. And 2 once you know them, that's when you have to be a tad more cautious as to not getting treated like before.
Just be a bit more cautious dude, since you say your a nice guy =P maybe you're just going out with the wrong type of girl/s.
PS: Spend this free time doing what you've always wanted to do but didnt have time for. Then you might slowly realise that being single isnt bad at all and just what you might need now
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The wrong type of girls... mhhh.. that gets me thinking.
If I had to put them in a captioned box, the caption would probably be... woah, that's tough..
I guess it would be "unhealthily selfconcious shy cuties until they've used me to "fix" themselves bitches".
Which explains A LOT :p
You're right, man, something I've always wanted to do - that sound about right :) :)
Problem is, I'm beginning social studies in a few weeks in a totally new city, which is a BAD thing for my (social) anxiety disorder :/ I guess, I'll just try to make the best out of that, then :P
And during semester breaks, I could always cross something of that 2do-list :P
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Well now this social studies gig surely will help. Think of it as there's no reason to hold back in it. You can focus your time fully it in without dividing your attention to other important things since there is one less.
Plus (im not that sure how this social studies work) this could help widen your horizon into meeting new people. Like a fresh start in a different place, that'll help you tremendously, since there is no familiar place near you to remind you of the past.
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Well, that's the direction I am hoping to go ;)
Social studies is like studying people with a magnifying glass, seeing society as a whole and analyzing developments etc pp..
It always interested me and I'm sure I can "delve" into this field with all my brainses - regarding my heart.. well, I guess I'll take it as it comes :)
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Better if happen now before it becomes too serious. If you're young, that might be the problem right there. Go out, have fun, have a few short lived relationships and try not to tie yourself down. Most young people are not ready for a real commitment (hence your ex "exploring around") and dating multiple people will help you learn more about what you actually want in a long term partner later on.
Also, this should cheer you up :)
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rick rolling me :D
Well, not too young, myself - but she was kinda young.
I do understand that "exploring" need and we could've easily talked about opening up .. let's say sexually.. but communication was rather dull and one-sidey...
I do believe I know already what I want in a long term partner (aka forever) and I guess it's not asking too much :/
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First I recommend you listen to this song. That right there is the truth. Then go work out, get a new wardrobe and clean yourself up real nice. Next time she sees you don't look like you're hurting. You want to look like you're doing even better without her. Living well is the best revenge. Cut off all contact with her. Delete her from your life. She's just holding you back from true happiness. No one f**ks with your true happiness!
Spend time with your friends and family. They will make you feel better, because they love you. Get out there in the community, meet new people and get comfortable with being by yourself. Thinking you'll be alone forever means you lack confidence, that is a turn off to women and they can smell it a mile away. Get rid of the stench of desperation! Seriously just keep yourself busy with self improvement and making healthy personal connections. You need to rediscover who you are, the single you.
Don't view this as a break up with her. View this as a reunion with yourself. This is one of the best things to ever happen to the world! It's an opportunity for other women to get to know how amazing you are. She had a shot at something amazing and she couldn't handle it. Her loss and now some other lucky lady or many lucky ladies have the chance of a life time now. Seriously get cocky, have a winning attitude and remember
C) Insecticide
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Wow - these words do make a LOT of sense, even for my broken self right now.
Thank you for this advice, man, you have no idea how much it is appreciated!
If only I was .. "strong" enough to get my confidence to work.
As I mentioned somewhere else, I AM in therapy and working on a couple of things and problems.
They have been holding me back, especially when it comes to my social life, sure.
If only I knew how to tackle those freaking stones in my way, instead of always having to jump over them....
Again, mate, I'm deeply thankful, you rock (even though your picks of songs were not my taste at all :P :P :P)!
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You are strong enough. You just haven't realized that yet. Telling yourself you aren't strong enough is self defeating. View yourself as a masterpiece in the making. Reinforce your strengths and accept your weaknesses. At some point you'll learn to say f**k it and just go out there and do the best you can. That to me is confidence.
I really hope you get through this. I've been there, it sucks. My advice comes from personal experience. I went through this a decade ago. I have to say it's been a great 10 years, that I've lived for me. I've traveled around the world, meet amazing women and accomplished many of my dreams. Now I have a wonderful woman in my life, who I'm about to propose to. The girl who broke my heart, a decade ago, just got back in touch with me. She knows she missed out on a good thing. Not that I really needed her to acknowledge that she messed up, but it still feels good :)
Anyway, remember it gets better. Hold on to that, your goals and you'll be okay. Life has a way of falling into place.
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Your story is in fact inspiring :>
Oh and I wish you all the best - especially considering popping the question :P
Once again, let me thank you with all my heart - these are the things you don't get told in a weekly 1-hour therapy session ..
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What a hore...
About voting, I've never heard of C, so I choose "C) Insecticide"
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i actually thank god that my country wasnt hard hit and infected by western culture. well atleast not totally hit.
so far all i could see is women becoming more and more of trouble, no wonder most men in your countries tend to like being single. and well the fact in reality the only reason we might need women is just psychological.
always test women and learn of her past, and always stick with women who actually arent in for the sex, money or whatever. also try making your relationship all about the actual aspects of relationship and not just sex aspect.
goodluck.
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Thanks for your insight :)
May I ask where you originate from?
You're right - even in my "short" life span I was able to observe people in general lowering their values and forgetting about good attitude and behaviour.
I'm not sure how to express this correctly but there's a club with weekly events in my area and there are events like "Bitch looking for pimp" (roughly translated), where the bitches dress like whores and have to handcuff a "cutie" to themselves until he spends some money for a drink or so..
How fucked up will society be in a decade..??? It scares me, really..
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yeah its kind of sad now a days if you look at the past and now youll notice how the people's tendencies have changed. not that we can do anything about it. its only natural. but yes this does show how the future looks pretty grim. just hold up and well just becareful who you choose to be with. no one can know what might happen. just like in komachi's reply.
also from syria here.
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If she cheated on you, she'll cheat on him eventually too. Or he'll cheat on her. Sleezebags that cheat tend to find each other. This is why you never give a cheater a second chance.
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Well, your username makes more sense to me, now :D
Oh and that I didn't say in bad intention - just making sure you know I was joking, not making fun of you ;)
Thank you for your insight, man. It helps a lot, talking to other cases of bitch-heart-rape.
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What do you mean by "having your guard down" ?
Other than that - yes, I've already built some... let's say antivirus anticipation in my mind and guts... That's actually the only reason I'm not crying right now, but RAGING because I feel and was badly treated.
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I can see that, yeah :P
I've always said that I, myself, won't be the person to end this relationship; I was truthful and honest and I've trusted her blindly.
But there was always this antivirus program I mentioned.. the gut feeling that what I've experienced before could happen again.
And I've seen small signs.. sure..
Thanks for the advice :)
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Whenever you start to feel comfortable thinking that everything is great is usually the time when something like this happens.
It's not like anything can be done to avoid it, except break up sooner, so you don't waste your time on a doomed relationship. Which still hurts, but at least you were the one making that decision.
The silver lining, if she cheated on you, she'll probably cheat on him too :)
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Mark OF ninja....Don't despair....humans inevitably break from each other, better now than later when it would've been worse.
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When you will meet the next one your disappointment will turn to joy!!
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I put it in some other post too try this
I don't have any girlfriend so i can't put myself in your place ,but it looks like this way is better than still being with her.I mean why would you want to be with a girl that doesn't deserve you or constantly hurt you :)(I hope my imaginary future girlfriend doesn't turn out like this).
It is life and you can't possibly made the right choice all the time.No one does.Hopely soon you will forgot about her and don't try to make same mistake again.
Oh also C pls ..
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Well, next time you should know that if someone wants you to change, then you should be with her/him/it.
They should want you the way you are and not the way you could be. Of course you will change some things when you are with someone (for example i stopped fapping and sometimes i wash dishes :P) but you most certainly should not change -everything-.
I m not here for teh gayms :)
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=> for example i stopped fapping and sometimes i wash dishes
I've read that with Zack G's voice :D Hilarious :P
You know what? You're absolutely fucking right!
I've literally changed my entire personality over the years - and for what? So I could be getting cheated on? No-fucking-ope!
This I will keep in mind, too, man. Thank you!
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I would really like to feel sorry for you, but honestly, no matter how alone you feel without a girlfriend, it's better than wasting your time with a girl who doesn't appreciate you and ultimately hurts you. Relationships should be mutual, if it's anything less then it's bound to fail and someone will get hurt. I hope this teaches you a lesson and you don't go down the same path again.
Edit: I have both Mark of the Ninja and LIMBO, so I guess I'll vote Insecticide.
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Bitches be crazy man. She'll never know what she missed out on :)
There are plenty more meatballs in the pasta!
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