First of all I am very sorry for what happened and probably nothing I say will make you feel better... Thruth is, there is never a nice and considerate way to leave someone, there will always be someone left hurt and broken hearted. Most important thing is to realize that it is not your fault and that there is nothing you could have done to prevent it, perhaps postpone but it would solve nothing and better she did it now than later... If it's not ok, it's not the end and the fact you broke up means it just wasn't meant to be and that there is some other girl for you out there and you will mean everything to her. Until you find her, take some time for yourself, hang out with your family and friends and do the things you love and make you happy. It is very importand that you take all the time you need to heal, you will wake up one day (no matter how much time it takes) and you just won't think about her anymore. I wish you all the best! :)
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I subscribe to every word, and even can tell you, that I had same story with many same detail. And what? All you need is time and to be open to the world, you'll see - you'll find your twin soul. And soon you'll be thankful to her, becase you'll find someone, who you can completely trust.
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I know I shouldn't but, to be honest, I can't stop thinking of what and when went wrong. Was there anything I could do?
Probably, nothing. And even if I could, there's nothing I can do about it now.
But you're right, it's good it happened now and not, let's say, in 10 years :)
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I understand that you are troubled by some unanswered questions and possibilities what might have happened if you did some things differently...I was torturing myself as well with same things after a bad break up, I blamed myself and thought it was my fault somehow. Took me quite some time to realize we obviously didn't want the same things, didn't have the same goals and that he obviously didn't feel the same for me what I felt for him. It was for the best and he did me a favor. Today I am in a 3 year old relationship with my new boyfriend, we sre planning our life together and he is the one person I can tell anything and everything and will always be there for me.
Thing is, I know these are just words and it will be up to you to get throught it, to heal and get better. And it is easy for me to say all this things and tell you it will get better and that it is for the best while you are the one who is hurt. It will take some time, but it will be okay, I promise :)
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Well, it's sad whenever something like this happens. I'm sorry that it happened to you and I know it seems difficult at the moment, but try moving past it. You'll find someone better, someone worthy of your time. After all, this is life and you can't let the bad things stop you from getting to the good moments in your life.
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its so sad.... I'm sorry that happened to you..
bump for the train.... thank you........ ♥
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Bump and here's hope you don't fall too far down the path of madness, humans are messy, relationships far more so.
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Oh man, I'm really sorry
You think you know someone, and then... :/
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Wow, she kinda sucks.
I know long distance relationships are really hard, and it's perfectly okay for her to not want to be in one, but she could have (and should have) handled the whole situation in a much better and less painful way for both of you. Specially after knowing each other for 5 years. I'm sorry she didn't treat you and your relationship with the respect you deserve.
On the bright side, at least now you know she wasn't "the one", and that the real one is out there somewhere waiting for you :)
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Very sad story... Hope things get better for you... I don't really have any good suggestion or advice for you... Sorry
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Sry to hear that but i would reccomend an awesome movie like kingsman funny and serious to help you forget
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I'm truly sorry, and unfortunately, there's not really much that any of us can say that will make you feel better right now. Relationships are tough, and distance makes them infinitely more so, but you can make them work if both people are willing to. Her actions show that she didn't value you or your relationship nearly as much as you did, and the hard truth is that it's best for this to happen now than years from now when you'd be even more emotionally invested. I know that it felt like she was "the one", but if you put your emotions aside and look at this objectively and see how little she valued what you two had shared, then it's obvious that you deserve much better.
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Life is see how much can you hold without falls most of the time ... it's a bit harsh, but true.
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So sorry to hear about your troubles. Heartbreak is never fun, but hopefully you'll find someone else who is perfect for you and you're perfect for them and be happy again forever! :D Thanks for the train!
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thanks for the train.... though good luck in the future.
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I'm sorry to hear what happened, but then again if someone dumped you by email I think it's safe to assume you'll find someone better out there mate.
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Oh my, sounds like hurt. Ouch. Sorry for your loss. I hope your heart heals fast.
All moons, all years, all winds, reach their completion and pass.
Just as blood flows to its place of silence,
it also achieves its thrones of power and authority.
The radiant gods
measure out our time of celebration;
measure out the time we know the benevolence of the sun
measure out the time when the stars look down on us.
And until the end, in vigilance, these gods we have ensnared inside the stars,
also look down on the cosmos from outside time and place.
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lel what an asshole, oh well man, life is full of fish...?
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sad sad story but you just have to move on and maybe find someone better, hope sooner than later.
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Life goes on. Now put the FOCUS ON YOU, and think of it as an opportunity to do whatever your mind asked not to when you were together - and please, do this while you distance yourself from that ex. You're not supposed to forget her, but distancing yourself will make you feel less miserable.
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I don't know if it helps you but this video always cheers me up.
Never give up!
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Sad story, mate :_( (btw AlohaHawaii is a cool nick). That kind of things happen, but they hurt a lot. Be with your friends, go out and enjoy. She was not the one, and it better knowing that than in 10 years. You have time to search for the one you deserve. Hugs!
Enjoy enjoy enjoy enjoy. Cry if you want, but enjoy, and be happy.
Thanks for try to make others happy :)
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I am sorry to hear about the end of your relationship. You should spend some time with your closest friends and family and have some fun to cheer you up in this depressing time. You are a generous person and deserve a person who is honest with you..
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Sorry to hear about your situation :( Sadly, that kind of thing is actually pretty common in long distance relationships...
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So, how do I start?
I had a girl. Last autumn she moved to another country to study (doesn't really matter what). We started to communicate less and less, she was telling it's due to the classes and also due to the fact she's in a new place and everything looks so interesting, she'd rather spend time exploring the city.
Long story short - a couple a months ago she wrote it's not really working out (and that she's changed a lot in last months and so on) and we should break up. I suggested her to discuss it in skype, but she refused and said it'll only hurt us more (Who the hell breaks up via emails? Well, at least it's not a sms or a tweet). I thought, fine, let's wait for my vacation, I'd visit her and we could at least discuss it face to face.
So for the time being I decided to step onto the slippery "just friends" road, not to lose her completely.
Some days ago I asked her when it's better to visit her. And today she replied that I better do not, and that the real reason for the break up was that she actually has a boyfriend for quite some time already and that they're even living together (knowing her, it'd take at least several months to get to that state).
So what do we have in the end? I was dumped via an email, probably cheated on. I've known her for 5 years and we've been together for 2 years (if to count till the breaup date. Or 1,5 years if to count till the moment she moved for studying.) And I couldn't live without her, thought she was the one. Wanted to marry her one day, have children. Oh well.
So I thought maybe making some people happy with free games (all from my whishlist) could make me feel a tiny bit better? Probably not.
TL;DR
Shut up already, whine girl, and post that link. Here you go. Enjoy it.
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Wow, there's way more replies than I expected :) Thank you for all your supportive words. I know life goes on and everything will be better someday. But I just don't see it that way right now :)
Also, please, restrain yourself from writing bad about her. After all I loved her, and hearing this for some hurts me. Besides who knows maybe I was a real jerk and that was her real chance to finally ran away from me :D And I'm just here badmouthing the poor girl. There are things I did wrong, there are things she did wrong. So let's just leave it out.
She did what she did, I don't want to judge her. If she thinks it's the right choice, if that's what her heart is telling her, there's nothing I can really do. At least she says she's really happy with him. Maybe he can give her what I couldn't.
I just thought that after all those years, after everything that was between us she'd have some respect for my feelings and the courage to say the truth, not that "it's not about you" bullcrap.
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