Was your previous manager male?
You are dealing with a group of women, and that is different than dealing with men. If you are well-versed in the behavior and social interaction of women, then you know what you need to do to patch things up with them and move forward. If you are not, then you will have no clue as to what you are doing wrong and how to handle the situation.
Let's assume the latter.
From what you describe, it seems you are operating on a different wavelength (socially, politically, religiously, etc.) from the rest of the group. That is problematic but not uncommon. You are not a bad person, you simply aren't whom they want you to be. Now, a good manager will take your personality and habits into account and incorporate them into the team dynamic, but you are not dealing with a good manager. The evidence of that is in how poorly she has handled you so far. (Have your efficiency, output, and morale all gone up? No? Manager failure.) Put all of that aside, however. If you like your job and wish to continue working there, you need to be pro-active.
Assuming for the moment that you know yourself well, you need to request a meeting with your manager and relay the following information:
- You love your job and are driven to do it well.
- You will make every effort to follow your manager's instructions to the best of your ability.
- That to which you respond well (encourages productivity)..
- That to which you respond poorly (discourages productivity).
- The style of criticism which is most effectively used with you (encouraging adaptation).
- The most effective method of encouragement for you (raises your morale).
- The least effective method of encouragement for you (does not raise your morale).
You have now given your manager the tools necessary to effectively manage you. (A good manager would have started with those seven things straight away.) After that, all you can do is focus on #1 and #2 while waiting to see what the future holds.
P.S. (Don't tell your manager she is incompetent. Just focus on doing your own job well.)
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Thank you for the detailed answer, I will follow your advice. My previous manager in this company was male, yes, but in a previous job a few years back I had another female manager and I had zero problems there too... so it looks like I am having problem to deal with this particular one. Plus, I couldn't care less if you are male or female: the only thing that really matter to me, in a work related context, is if you are competent, not your sex/religion/whatever!
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That's all well and good, but women and men have different styles of social and verbal communication. If you're not familiar with the differences, it can lead to misunderstandings and confusion.
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Very much indeed. Also, 3 out of 4 are from UK and just me and another girl aren't from there, so also this geographical aspect has to be considered in the way we communicate
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Aye. Cultural differences can also throw a wrench in the works. Of course, a good manager takes those things into account. Your previous managers did. P
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as a manager myself my advise would be to ask him/her to coach you into being a better teamplayer. That way the focus shifts from judging to helping you with this and you two can team up in a positive way. Hope it helps!
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Happy cake day. And sorry for your problems at work...
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Happy Cake Day Painman and thank you for your SGTools protected giveaways! :3
Sorry to hear about that, the real world is somewhat like SG, you have very good people but you also have some scum or very bad people. ;_;
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Some jobs aren't worth keeping. Watch out for petty managers... I had one such boss that despite working my ass off with 60+ hour weeks he held a grudge against me for pointing out legitimate flaws with a technology the company was using. Found later that said technology was the primary focus of his resume. Screwed me out of a pretty considerable raise I would have had otherwise. And would have been a LOT less stress to just give him a 2 weeks notice and find something else, even not having something else lined up ahead of time. That said, obviously this is one extreme and doesn't consider other factors... just wanted to mention for the sake of considering how it might impact salary / bonus if you stay on with a bad boss.
EDIT: Also, just to clarify I am not suggesting it is a lost cause in your case. Only you can decide that. Whatever path you choose, I wish you the best of luck. :-)
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Happy factory day!
And I'm not good in advice-thingy, sorry ^_^'
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bump!
parlagliene in maniera diretta: "ho notato che blablabla, sbaglio qualcosa?"
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bumpo for early? happy birthday~ :b
no real advice to give... hope you won't give up on communication though! communicating issues without the intent of pointing fingers/picking a fight of course will at least get you somewhere, where that somewhere will be though, is up to whether or not the issue is something that you/your manager trusts can change or not :v
gud luck out there to your team~
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and if you have a spare moment... i'm having some troubles at work, my manager kinda hates me... any advice on how to improve the relationship with your manager and your team?
edit: a bit of context is needed, sorry for that:
With my previous Manager I got zero issues, nothing at all. I then got a new manager since 6-7 months, and a whole new team to be part of. We are all reporting to this manager. I ve been told I am not that good at being a team player and that I am bad with people.
Now I agree I am not a really outgoing person but the way things are presented really makes me feel like a huge a**le and horrible human.... Also, I am the only male so when they talk, most of the times I cannot partecipate as I'm not really an expert in makeup, good local hairdressers and such things
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