Huge HYPE and Massive Congratulations!!!!!!
Wishing you guys the absolute best and a very long life of happiness with each other!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sorry for butting in when I'm not married, but i've learned via extensive talking and close observation that it helps long term marriages to have the spouses be always looking for the good in their mate and in circumstances, able to laugh together at oneself and with each other, not taking oneself too seriously, putting the other before oneself and literally being "quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry," A very tall order, but those I've talked with have said these things have really helped them.
Were you able to have family / friends in attendance or via stream?
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Very true. Also important to avoid "mind-reading". Do not imagine that your spouse is saying more than is said, or means something other that what is said.
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That's definitely something I struggle with from time to time. Thanks, I'll be sure to keep this in mind!
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Good. Most guys tend to be rather literal-minded, imo. I am more than average, but that may part and parcel of being a programmer. My standard response to "You know what I meant" is "No. I know what you said."
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"quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,"
These are golden words everyone should live by I think :) Thanks!
Were you able to have family / friends in attendance or via stream?
Unfortunately, no; his parents wasn't able to attend due to being in an entirely different part of the country. Initially, we planned on doing a video call so that his parents could attend virtually but both him and his parents are okay with only photos so it ended up being just the both of us and my parents who also double up as our respective witnesses. We didn't plan on inviting friends to the ROM - wanted to make it simple - but we'll planned on doing a huge party for the extended family plus friends once the pandemic situation eases up quite a bit.
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I'd say that's a big celebration! :)
Congratulations, hope you have a wonderful life together.
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Cgtz n Wish you all a future in riotous profusion :)
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Thanks!
riotous profusion
That's the first time I've seen those two words placed together! Thanks for the mini-English lesson here :)
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Congrats, best of luck to you both with your futures.
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Congratulations! Very exciting!
As far as advice:
Communicate - that's the most important thing. If something's bothering you, talk about it. If you're not sure about something, ask. If you want something, ask for it. A lot of issues can come from simple misunderstandings, and often we assume that the other person knows what we want or what we're thinking when they are in fact oblivious, and communication sorts it all out. If you encounter an issue or disagreement, talk it out.
And the best way to talk through an issue is to focus on yourself - something like, "When you did this, it made me feel..." That way you're not passing judgement or accusing the other of doing something, but instead explaining how their actions made you feel
Also, moving in together is an awful, stressful experience. Prepare yourself accordingly. Don't go in expecting that it's going to be great, go in expecting that it's going to be terrible and that you may find yourself curled up in a ball, crying, thinking that the whole thing was a huge mistake. But that's normal as two people with previously separate lives and different ways of doing things try to adjust to a new way of living - and it's going to be new and stressful for both of you. Even something like where and how you place the dishes could be a point of stress and conflict. You will both have to adjust and compromise. Go in with proper expectations, and give yourselves time to adjust.
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Thanks for these valuable advice, Timo! I'll need to keep these in mind :)
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Congratulations! It's nice to see people still finding happiness even during these difficult times. I sincerely wish you and your husband the best, and hope you have a long happy life together :)
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Congratulations! I wish you the best! <3
About advicing, in any kind of relationship: good communication. It works for me.
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Thanks! That's the hardest part though, isn't it? :P
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I never thought of thinking it as it, but yes it is. I just think of it as something needed. But surely it's so hard, maybe the hardest, cuz sometimes you gotta say or ask uncomfortable things, or embarassing, or bad, or simply things you'd prefer to not tell. But I still see in couples around me that better communication is something that 1. would improve their relationship a lot, maybe after some bumps, but definitely, and 2. it's something that they're severely lacking.
But that's the way I see relationships, if others prefer other ways, it's their thing. But then I don't like when friends of both genders come to whine about their partners, when it's obvious it's not me who they should be talking to.
Also, if you've been living together before the marriage, it should mark not a big difference. If you've already passed the test of convivence, you're safe. Again, wish you the best <3
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But then I don't like when friends of both genders come to whine about their partners, when it's obvious it's not me who they should be talking to.
This is very true for most :)
I think the biggest challenge would come when we finally move in together - just needed to clear some paperwork and start packing. I'll temper my optimism about the move - thanks to Timo for that bit of great advice - and if any issues arise, we'll just have to do our best. Thanks again! ^^
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Long story short - my boyfriend of 7 years and I were supposed to tie the knot back in April but then a lockdown was imposed in the mid of March which was then extended until June. However, thankfully, the government offices have finally reopened and they have started to process marriage registrations. We managed to snag the earliest date possible and well.... we're now officially married!
Thought I'd share the good news here since I've made some great friends on SG 😊
And of course, organize a small celebratory train to mark the occasion and share some love around!
🚄🚃Main Carriages🚃-🚃TMCG🚃-🚃Pandora🚃-🚃CBNA🚃-🚃PA🚃-🚃PAGYWOSG🚃-🚃SG Pillars🚃-🚃Gamer's Cabin🚃-🚃Positive Thoughts🚃-🚃Weird-Based Gamer🚃-🚃Elite One GAs🚃-(Not group)🚃SG Karaoke🚃 Giveaway link is hidden there (not really; it's super easy to find) ;)
(Deadline to board: May 31st; Anti-bot Protection; Level 1+; Some love songs)
I'll see if I can add more carriages to the train but this is it for now.
For those of you who are married, any advice for us newly-weds?
Do you all know of any love songs that are sung by the bride/wife to the groom/husband, and not the other way around? I can't seem to find any.
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