Congratulations :) marriage is a beautiful occasion. Did you have wedding or only registered marriage without wedding as such ? I've photographed several weddings up to now and enjoyed every one even though its more of a work for me. Cant wait when someone else I know will marry :D
Well wishes and happy marriage to you :)
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Um, well, it's only a registration of marriage without the actual wedding ceremony. The ceremony was planned for later this year but it's obvious to the both of us that it's not going to happen now so we're looking to postpone it until around the end of next year. Hopefully things would be much better by then and massive gatherings would be allowed :)
Funny thing though, we were actually looking for a freelance wedding photographer earlier this year, hadn't had any luck, and ended up signing a wedding package with a photo studio... and that was just a day before the sudden lockdown was announced. We've got awful "great" timing, my hubby and I :P
Thanks! :)
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Yeah, this time has been intrusive in all our lives. Well, at least you got to register :) Celebration can wait a bit as well, but I wish you success with planning it :)
Hopefully you get a skilled photographer, awfully messy and responsible job shooting a wedding. Many things can go wrong from technical point of view. I try to do it more or less as a favor to someone if they ask as its not my favorite shooting subject, but after I've experienced the process I can definitely say I understand why wedding photographers are expensive. I dont think I'd actually would want to professionally do it.
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Yeah, that's the positive lining for sure :) Can't say I'm looking forward to planning (almost) everything again though. Cancelling all our bookings had been a nightmare.
After looking around for suitable hobbyist photographers for months, we reckoned as much as well - but it's still good to hear from someone who has actually been through it :) - and decided the 3x cost for a package was probably worth it. The studio has a good reputation so hopefully everything would turn out alright.
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Congratulations.
My advice (and TODAY is my 24th anniversary), is to figure out money right from the start. In a lot of couples, one person ends up earning a lot more than the other, and unless you figure out how you are going to handle that, it can lead to resentment. In our case, we pay both of our incomes into a joint account, which is used to pay bills (utilities, rent/morgage, children's allowance, insurance, etc.). That joint account then pays each of us the same amount of money as a living allowance each month for anything we want to buy for ourselves. So I never have to ask my wife if I want to buy a computer game, or a trashy novel, it comes out of my money. Similarly her (different) trashy novels come out of her money. Most couples I know who have gotten into trouble have gotten into trouble over money.
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Hey, congrats on your 24th anniversary! :D
You're absolutely right. Now that I've thought about it - we hadn't really discussed, at least in-depth, about financials. We really need to get to it. Maybe we could adopt the system you use :) Thanks!
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Thanks for the vid! Heard the song many times before but never expected the music video to be this funny :)
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Congratulations! It's not so much about marriage as it is about a long-term relationship and everything that comes with that. I've been with the same woman for... let's just say a very long time, so I do have some advice:
- Don't worry about the time leading up to the wedding; everyone's going to be at each other's throats until the actual day, and then everything will be fine. I've seen it time and again withe every wedding I've ever been a part of.
- Love is not a special feeling; love is devotion. I've seen countless couples dissatisfied with their marriages because they don't have "that special feeling" anymore. That special feeling is attraction; that's what brings you together and keeps you there long enough for you to build a love together. That you're not going to be a couple of starstruck teenagers or twenty-somethings forever isn't a sign that there is something wrong with your relationship.
- Communicate. I'm sure that everyone is telling you this, and what it means is that you should really get to know each other, including what bothers you, and work together. That doesn't necessarily mean to express every little grievance at length, but make sure that you talk about the important stuff. And that brings me to my next point...
- Work together. You have your friends and your family, but at the end of the day, it's the two of you against the world. Whatever that means in your life - bills, for one thing - you are a team; tackle anything coming your way as such. And that also brings me to my next point...
- Don't let anyone else tell you what your relationship should be. Just as no 2 people are completely the same, no 2 couples are, either; you figure out what you want your relationship to be, and work toward that. You'll have plenty of people telling you that you should hold hands in public, kiss more often, say "I love you" more often, have children at this point in your life, all the way down to the intimate details of your sex life; it's none of their damn business, and whether you smile and nod or tell them off, just don't forget that. Some people like going out to a fancy restaurant for a candle-lit dinner; my lady and I like to go to Ikea for our dates; every couple is different, and that's okay.
As for music, I've never really liked love songs, but this one is about getting married, so maybe appropriate: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G2dR2DV-eGc
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Thanks a lot for the thorough advice (and for giving me a lot to think about :) ) and the song!
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Congrats Aethyna! There's some great advice in this thread already, so I will just say -- keep an open mind and an open heart.
As for the song choice, I think this is perfect. One of my favorite songs of all time. Ruelle -- I Get To Love You
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Thanks, Canis! That's a really beautiful song as well, thanks a lot for recommending it :)
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Nice one - this I haven't heard before :) Thanks for the recommendation!
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Long story short - my boyfriend of 7 years and I were supposed to tie the knot back in April but then a lockdown was imposed in the mid of March which was then extended until June. However, thankfully, the government offices have finally reopened and they have started to process marriage registrations. We managed to snag the earliest date possible and well.... we're now officially married!
Thought I'd share the good news here since I've made some great friends on SG 😊
And of course, organize a small celebratory train to mark the occasion and share some love around!
🚄🚃Main Carriages🚃-🚃TMCG🚃-🚃Pandora🚃-🚃CBNA🚃-🚃PA🚃-🚃PAGYWOSG🚃-🚃SG Pillars🚃-🚃Gamer's Cabin🚃-🚃Positive Thoughts🚃-🚃Weird-Based Gamer🚃-🚃Elite One GAs🚃-(Not group)🚃SG Karaoke🚃 Giveaway link is hidden there (not really; it's super easy to find) ;)
(Deadline to board: May 31st; Anti-bot Protection; Level 1+; Some love songs)
I'll see if I can add more carriages to the train but this is it for now.
For those of you who are married, any advice for us newly-weds?
Do you all know of any love songs that are sung by the bride/wife to the groom/husband, and not the other way around? I can't seem to find any.
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