I've been visiting on and off (mostly off) for over four years now; I've witnessed my fair share of drama over the years, but I don't think I ever recall there being a level of toxicity and general negativity as there has been in recent weeks/days.
Thank you for your plea for compassion and forgiveness and the chilling reminder of the consequences of our actions. I hope it will be heard and acted upon by most, if not all.
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Omg, that thread is so sad :C
some of those comments though, some of them are totally unnecessary....
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I'm not so sure about that forgiving, but yeah, not-hating is something everybody needs.
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But crusading against the rampant and head-aching snobby elitism that makes up a significant part of these forums only by mocking it will not make you look like a brave anarchist rising against a system but an annoying clown who thinks she is so better than anyone else that she can shame them.
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I could say that some of the threads/post made me think of a female Chuckles, but that is a reference that most people around here won't get despite being a video game reference and it is too strong for the current situation. :)
I agree on that a lot of things here can be annoying.
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Alright, I'm super late on this, my apologies. I got home yesterday and had zero brainpower. :)
There are so many threads that made and are still making fun about many kinds of situations on steamgifts. They usually light up an issue that has taken itself way too serious and people here enjoy it. The thread Mully made was happily welcomed, too. I agree, my comment in it wasn't too nice and I surely didn't expect it to cause that much of a racket. People here make fun about things all the time.
I actually missed that entire thread until yesterday. I still haven't went through the whole thing, because it seems like a drama pot. Drama pot's give me headaches. I won't comment on any of it, because to be honest, that whole thread probably could have been handled in a better manner by all parties involved. \o/ I do appreciate Mully's sarcastic response to nomination threads though. I wholeheartedly agree with poking fun at things. :)
So, i guess, this is where I'm at: I keep seeing some of my favorite people on the forums here keep fighting with each other, you for instance, over reasons I have no idea originated from, spewing acid at each other. Like, holy crap. Why in the world would they be fighting with each other. Wallister is usually peppy and happy from what I see. You're usually peppy and happy from what I see. Mullins is usually sarcastic and peppy and happy from what I can see.Chicken is peppy and happy from what I can see. It's just surprising. I could be wrong, but we all got along together a few months ago, right?
I wrote a whole paragraph trying to explain how i'm feeling, but it sounded like I was babbling again so I deleted it. Take it for what it's worth, I love you all and I hope there's a way we can continue being excellent to each other. I got nothing but love for everyone. :)
I babble when I'm tired so I hope that was coherent enough :)
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Posts or threads about konrads? - Sure, that's fine!
God, this. With all the crying about "bullying" going on lately, I'm glad you said this. One user screaming "foul" was one of the people opening a thread about konrads, and of course a dozen others jumped on board to harass and continue with it. It was embarrassing and disgusting to see how quickly the community jumped on board when it wasn't them being attacked.
Just because it's someone a number of people don't like does not make it alright to single out someone for attack. If attacking someone like that makes you feel better about yourself, you have issues and should be ashamed of yourself. Your level, how much you've given or contributed to the community, or how many friends you have here doesn't matter. If you're attacking someone like people have attacked konrads, you're the problem - not them.
I see people every day on these forums crying for change. If you truly want change, people, begin with yourself. Set the example for others to follow, and don't go attacking one user in one breath, then weeping that you were attacked back in the other.
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Wow, missed a lot of stuff recently, so it seems :o
Great post Fyn, but may I add that always thinking positive is not sane either ;D
Bump!
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People tend to share their negative thoughts and complaints rather than the positive ones. It seems to be easier to be grumpy, or ignore people.
So~ while I might unfortunately not always be a positive and supporting human being (but in most cases I at least decide to say nothing over saying something that might be hurtful), I try to do the right things. I'm friendly and polite, I say thank you, please, I smile, I don't ignore my bus driver or cashier, I treat them as valuable human beings (in contrast to many other people that aren't nice to those that make our every day lives better or easier).
And somtimes I take the time to write someone, just to let them know how awesome they are and sadly, they're usually really surprised because something like this hardly ever happens. But to think that I put a smile on their face, to maybe have made their day a tiny bit better, makes MY day better!
That said, thank you very much for reminding me of these three, very simple 'rules' that help me to be a better person ^.^
Much love for you <3
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Bump for important thread!!
On a related note: This amazing podcast is something I like to refer back to regarding overcoming negativity. Listen to it if you get the chance!
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I prefer the alternative; develop a spine and realize it's just random internet people.
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Thanks for the friendly reminder. I really liked the forum / discussion board how it used to be when I joined SG and would love it if it would turn back to how it used to be. I mostly kept away the last few weeks because of all the toxic everywhere.
Enough said - heading for the GA now. Yay! :D
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Thanks for the nice message.
I said it elsewhere, I think that SG encourages toxicity. The moment you give people tools to exclude others and judge them, you make the place more toxic. CV started that, blacklists continued that, and SGtools also contributes. There's a natural tendency of large communities to have jerks dominate and good people leave, but having a 'this person is better than that person' mentality as a basis for things certainly leads that way.
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Don't know how I ended up here, I tend to avoid forums where possible, but the topic grabbed my attention.
Really sucks how some people respond to certain users or posts, even if it was all a hoax for attention. Just ignore it if you don't want to give them the attention.
That said, I don't think what was said on SG, or any Internet forum, would have done much to prevent the underlying issue, since he was clearly having difficulty. But, we as a community, should have been able to assist in some way, however little, just delay the outcome.
Every now and then I get the urge to reply to someone's comment that's completely out of line or not necessary, or just plain stupid, but then stop myself. The thought of getting into an argument with someone who most likely will just troll the situation is cringe worthy. I'd rather save myself the trouble, embarrassment, hatred, and all other emotions of dealing with such people. I'd rather live a happy, anonymous life on SG if I could. :)
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Thank you Fyan for always being so friendly, positive and thoughtful. You express the thoughts I was having in a far better way I ever could have.
Thanks for being here =)
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Good afternoon everyone! Well, it's afternoon here anyways! :)
I've popped in and out over the past few months and I've noticed an overall negativity surrounding the forums when I visited. I wanted to share a few thoughts with you all in hopes that it will help us treat one another better and hopefully, with more love and kindness. The one thing we all have in common is our mutual love of this great website and we have the ability to either keep building on the positive environment we have here or to let it turn into something toxic.
Show Empathy - I think first and foremost, we all need to remember and keep in the back of our minds that this is a forum on the internet. With that said, there will be people from all backgrounds, ages, colors and in all different places in life. What you say on here could have either a positive or a negative effect on their life. So, show the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. We've already lost one great member in Rachel let's try not to lose anymore over petty arguments and disagreements that we can easily settle without letting it get completely out of hand. Keep in mind, if someone is saying or behaving in a hurtful way, that could be a sign of something deeper going on in their life and what they could need right now is to be shown a little love and patience. :)
Spread Positivity - With the aforementioned, let me encourage you to choose the option to spread positivity. Not only here in the forums, but take that into your everyday life. I'll be completely blunt with you, when we leave this world, the only thing we will leave behind is the memories others will have of us. Life is entirely too short and precious to argue over things that could have been easily prevented if we had shown each other a little empathy from the start. If someone has offended you in some way, the best way to counter that is by being the bigger person, showing empathy and trying to somehow bring a smile to their face. Fight negativity by showing them positivity, instead of sinking to their level. Nothing will show negative people more satisfaction than letting them know you let them get under your skin. Set an example for others to follow. :)
Learn to Forgive If someone has offended you here or shown you something less than a positive attitude, let me encourage you to show the forgiveness that both you and them deserve. I have been wronged many times in my life, and holding on to the hurt, anger and resentment 9 times out of 10 does nothing, but bring me down. While the person who did the hurting has most likely moved on with life. Don't that let that one small moment bring the rest of your day down, or in contrast, your week or month.
If you feel like you're words aren't important or will have no impact on another person's life, no matter how great or small, I will remind you that a member here committed suicide after making this thread, aftermath here. We need to be reminded of this, because I have seen some serious hate in the forums these past few months.
With that said, I will remind you, that this IS the internet were talking about and there will be sarcasm and trolls and really hateful people here. By the very definition. It's the internet. How YOU respond, will determine the outcome. :)
If you could only sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to the people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person. - Mr. Rogers
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