Good afternoon everyone! Well, it's afternoon here anyways! :)

I've popped in and out over the past few months and I've noticed an overall negativity surrounding the forums when I visited. I wanted to share a few thoughts with you all in hopes that it will help us treat one another better and hopefully, with more love and kindness. The one thing we all have in common is our mutual love of this great website and we have the ability to either keep building on the positive environment we have here or to let it turn into something toxic.

  • Show Empathy - I think first and foremost, we all need to remember and keep in the back of our minds that this is a forum on the internet. With that said, there will be people from all backgrounds, ages, colors and in all different places in life. What you say on here could have either a positive or a negative effect on their life. So, show the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. We've already lost one great member in Rachel let's try not to lose anymore over petty arguments and disagreements that we can easily settle without letting it get completely out of hand. Keep in mind, if someone is saying or behaving in a hurtful way, that could be a sign of something deeper going on in their life and what they could need right now is to be shown a little love and patience. :)

  • Spread Positivity - With the aforementioned, let me encourage you to choose the option to spread positivity. Not only here in the forums, but take that into your everyday life. I'll be completely blunt with you, when we leave this world, the only thing we will leave behind is the memories others will have of us. Life is entirely too short and precious to argue over things that could have been easily prevented if we had shown each other a little empathy from the start. If someone has offended you in some way, the best way to counter that is by being the bigger person, showing empathy and trying to somehow bring a smile to their face. Fight negativity by showing them positivity, instead of sinking to their level. Nothing will show negative people more satisfaction than letting them know you let them get under your skin. Set an example for others to follow. :)

  • Learn to Forgive If someone has offended you here or shown you something less than a positive attitude, let me encourage you to show the forgiveness that both you and them deserve. I have been wronged many times in my life, and holding on to the hurt, anger and resentment 9 times out of 10 does nothing, but bring me down. While the person who did the hurting has most likely moved on with life. Don't that let that one small moment bring the rest of your day down, or in contrast, your week or month.

If you feel like you're words aren't important or will have no impact on another person's life, no matter how great or small, I will remind you that a member here committed suicide after making this thread, aftermath here. We need to be reminded of this, because I have seen some serious hate in the forums these past few months.

With that said, I will remind you, that this IS the internet were talking about and there will be sarcasm and trolls and really hateful people here. By the very definition. It's the internet. How YOU respond, will determine the outcome. :)

If you could only sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to the people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person. - Mr. Rogers

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Happy cake day :)

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There will always be mentally ill people who will commit suicides, there's nothing you can do about it via Internet, they need to get help from a real person not just online. Eventually they'll stumble upon the same problems all over again.

Some people commit suicides because they are bad at solving problems, others because they feel lonely and don't do anything about it. You need to want to become different in order to enjoy your life at fullest, just need a little push to get some help. And you'd be surprised how friendly people are.

And about negativity, the society becomes more and more "open" about their opinions, future generation will say it's their right to say "Screw you, boss, I'm not doing that because I don't like it." and the employer won't be able to do anything about it. So I say, stay classy and don't open your mouth as wide as you could (metaphorically speaking) because nowadays insults are considered "freedom of speech".

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I think blacklists screwed half of these, community got much more toxic, even more than it even was.

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We could all definitely benefit from more positivism.

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A very nice message, though I'm not sure how well-received it will be by some at the moment, as they might feel "targeted." But showing empathy for others is the key to good relations in any society, online or otherwise. It's amazing how much more we understand others when we walk a few miles in their shoes, but in most cases this requires a little imagination and mentally putting yourself in their position...trying to see their perspective.

Best to you-- and thanks for the message!

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bunp

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I was thinking of posting something somewhat similar.. but you said it better than I probably would have. We are all conscious people with our own dreams and motivations, and if we can at least forget some of our differences and try to appreciate each other it will be better for everyone. So, thanks again for this positive message!

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Hope your letter will be read and acknowledged, I think that this forum and great people in here was what made SG so great

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Bumpy :3

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Have a positive bump! I made my first big forum post yesterday with a very positive story, but since posting I've been added to 7 blacklists and I have no idea why :) I guess that is the nature of the internet, but your post has helped me to remember that the best thing I can do is stay positive and be kind :) Hadn't heard about the suicide before though; very sad.

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Thank you for this thread dude, it helps. You are such a great member of this community.
And thanks for the nice giveaway.

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Bump'n thanks ;)

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Everyone have a nice day! :)
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Nice :3 Have a bump.

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Wonderful post, and thoughtful sentiment - if just one person learns from it, or takes a tool away from your good thoughts that helps them on their way, then you have done a wonderful service.

From a personal point of view, it's very pertinent right now - so I thank you sincerely, Fyantastic.

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Thank you for your thoughtful words, it's great to have you in this community! :)

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For a noble cause, bump!

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Being positive can be just as important as being empathetic yes.

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