I want to share with you my pain [GA]

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i dont want to bump such a sad and painful story :(

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I'm not really in a position to give advice, so have a bump.

i would say move on... the situation doesn't seems good for what you want, a stable relationship. it will not be easy but usually it's the best move to make.

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Ah, so sorry. Cannot give good advice, unhappily. It feels like "move on" is the correct thing (you should definitely respect her wishes, she spoke them aloud and clearly, it seems), but truth is, it is still very early to know what is happening...

If possible, try to be a friend (it seems you did value her friendship, right?). But maybe right now it will be hard to stay friends with her -- if it hurts too much right now, you might consider staying away for a while.

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I'm rooting for you to avoid the zone.

I'm not sure how many females give you an advice here ^^" but for me, it sounded rather uncomfortable when you said that you "managed to kiss her". Maybe she likes you as a friend and doesn't want to lose you, so she gave in and wanted to give the two of you a chance, for your sake, but it just didn't click? Maybe she's turning to her coworker because she doesn't want to tell you again that she can't see the two of you as a couple. I mean, she rejected you and you didn't accept it, but kept pushing her (or so it sounds).
What I've read here are people stating how quick she moved from you to the other one, that she's not worth it, that she used you...
But I was rather surprised that hardly anyone saw it critically that you couldn't accept that she's not interested and even kissed her anyways ._.

Dear guys here... A woman has every right to be not interested in you, to see you as a friend, but not a love interest and it doesn't make her a bad person if she doesn't appreciate your efforts to date her. Or are you willingly taking every girl that crosses your path? Are you unable to just be friends with a female? She clearly told him that she's not into him, so where exactly is she at fault if he still tries to convince her?

My advice would be to not be pushy and accept that she's not interested in you as a lover. To be honest, you should have accepted this right from the beginning ._. Sorry that this is probably not what you wanted to hear (and it seems that it's nothing a guy would tell you :p), but in my experience, women don't want to be convinced, they either fall for you, or like you as a friend and maybe, at some point, they develop feelings. (And the whole friendzone stuff is just a pathetic excuse for those who can't accept that every person has the right to choose and just because one is in love, the other doesn't need to feel the same way.)

Edit: Sorry if I sound a bit harsh here, but so many here sound as if she should be grateful that he's interested in her ._. and that she's a bad person for allowing a friend to be her friend and comfort her in a hard situation. You know, that's exactly what friends do, right? Be there for each other, help each other... The gender shoudn't matter in this situation and just because it's a male friend, women aren't automatically using them.

let it go, just like that. you can't do anything if she doesn't want to be with you, and it's her decision to be with someone else.
she might not have anything for you and was only looking for some fun. don't feel bad.

Thanks for the GA. I think just be her friend, as well as you can. If she's into you, she'll come around. If not, you'll still be friends. It might not be so easy, but if you walk away or do something to try and force the issue, you may regret it.

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I know its hard but you have to forget her and probably the only way to do it is to cut any contracts with her. And find another girl.

She knows where you stand and you know where she stands. If you really love her just respect her decision and don't force it; she has told you she prefers you as a friend and you can still have an amazing relationship with that woman and be close to her. Don't screw it up just for sex... If she changes her mind in the future and it is the right timing, you will know ;)

Don't contact her any more, just let her go, that will be difficult, but you need to forget this one and meet new girl :))

Yep, time to let it go, bro. It's not worth losing a friend to get what you want when it's clearly not what she wants, too. You've already let her know you want to be with her - so if she decides that's cool and wants to be with you, she'll let you know.

Otherwise just move on - be a good friend to her - but move on and don't expect anything romantic with her.

I would at least try talking to her one more time... but if she still only sees you as a friend, I'm afraid you have to forget her and move on...

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Hard situations over there :(
Thanks for the ga btw and have a bump :/

Bump! It seems to me she's not interested, and you should stop pursuing a romantic relationship. If that's too hard, maybe even back off on the friendship a bit.

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