You don't know anything about OP, and just so you know. While there's a ample amount of assholes like yourself who use SteamGifts and are dicks in these types of forums. In my time here i've noticed a fair amount of posts where the OP talks about feelings and troubles inside their personal life. There actually tends to be really helpful and supportive clients of this website who help out the OP in a very particularly constructive way. So that being said, OP may have known this and is gathering helpful information to deal with their current pains and struggles. I at least know I have this half right because OP said it himself (or herself, I don't know the gender or sex of the OP) on a comment chain that they've been receiving helpful comments and wants to see more if there's any more they can do to ease their pain and constructively think and deal with the situation.
I also just realized that I've responded to a trollish jerk, thanks for wasting my time though.
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I dunno. He could use a little more tact, but I kind of agree with him. Girls generally don't have a high level of respect for guys that cry on the Internet. Can't imagine this is even remotely debatable.
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Careful what you say. A certain someone might decide to take it upon themselves to call you a troll for speaking your mind. lol. Just look through the thread & you'll see who.....
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Never go full retard. Might wanna start following that advice Uroboros.
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It's "full retard" to point out the potential double-standard?
...oookay then?
I love how you were telling a heartbroken stranger to "man up", but the moment someone disagrees with you you're all about following them through the comments in weird stalker-ish grudge. Seriously. What happened to your "man up" ethic?
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Well isn't that the pot calling the kettle black. You attack me for speaking my mind and accuse me of being a knob when someone doesn't agree with my opinion. You're the only person I'm having an issue with. I'm not the one posting everywhere disagreeing with everyone. That's you. Do yourself a favor & stfu. Go be an internet tough guy somewhere else. Jackass.
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I'll be the bigger guy here & ask everyone to please refrain from picking on Uroboros. He has issues & I don't think it's fair to make fun of him for it. Thank you.
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Except for the part where I'm not the one making this into an epenis size competition?
You don't seem to understand what an 'internet toughguy' is. I just call people out when they're being uncool without really making a big thing of it. The one going through the pointless taunt spasms, chasing it around the thread and making a flailing meal out of it is the other dude.
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Woah! ...Now you're bringing epeen size into the discussion? Dude: If you're hungry, go make a sandwich or something. Stop expecting me to pull it out here. I know the definition of 'internet toughguy' & you're failing miserably at attempting to be one. You're nobody's hero. Just stop.
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Actually no, I didn't attack you, I said that your initial post is pretty much a "fuck you" in disguise. Telling someone who doesn't know how to handle heartbreak to just "man up" and "stop crying about it" isn't 'just sharing an opinion', it's being an uncool douchenozzle but making a token effort to pretend it was to help.
And yes, that would be you. You jumped several other comment strands to make a big deal out of this. I mean, fuck, you're trying so hard to make this personal. Like I said before, whatever happened to your entire "man up" ethic? What you're doing right now is kinda the opposite of that.
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Sigh....You still trying to argue your point? Wow. As for denying attacking me: yeah you did. I wasn't the one who took it upon myself to chastise everyone here who didn't agree with my opinion. That would be you. If you don't like what I posted, too damn bad. It's the internet. I can say whatever the hell I want & it's not my concern if you don't like it. You can hurl insults all you want but it doesn't change my opinion. Stop being a dick & prolonging the argument.
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It's funny you mention that, because I'm not asking you (or anyone else) to stop posting. Disagree all you want. Free forum and all that, but if you act like a douche, people will use their super-power of common observation and occasionally say "Hey, that's douchey".
You can keep trying to make this a personal thing all you want, but your original post came off as someone trying to rub salt in. Even if that wasn't your intent and I just totally read it wrong, that's how it came across. Instead of clarifying, you chose to turn to petty personal attacks, not even limited to random internet-toughguy blows like accusing the other person of having mental/emotional issues. It takes more than one person to prolong an argument, you can't just pretend it's all on me dude. If you don't like the counterpoint, perhaps you should stop the tirade.
Gonna repeat it yet again : What happened to your "man up" ethic?
You're doing the opposite.
If you can't "man up" over something so small and simple, why would you expect someone in the fresh throes of heartbreak to be able to just randomly wave it off?
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I stand by my original words. Man up & go find someone who makes him happy. My opinion hasn't changed just because you wanna throw a tantrum because you don't like it.
Would you rather the guy hide inside his house 24/7 crying and feeling sorry for himself? I bet you do. I know I don't. The longer he stays home depressed, the longer it will be for him to find the confidence to go out & find someone new. Sure, my words were harsh but it's not your place to call me out on them. Like I said: If you don't like it, don't comment on it. Stop being an ass Uroboros.
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It is his/her place actually. This is a public forum, and on said public forum. This is theirs, and anyone's. Place to call you out on anything you say as long as it's not blatant disrespect of any races, cultures, or groups. That being said and reading your trashy posts thus far. Your logic, horrendous. Your personal ethnics, illogical. And your attitude towards public discussion is disgusting and you honestly shouldn't have any part of it.
The way discussion works is two people come into a topic and discuss their feelings and thoughts on it WITH AN OPEN MIND. If one person or even several since this is a forum. Offers their take on it and isn't willing to receive any criticism and refuses to think any other way (i.e "close-mindedness"), you should not partake in the communal functions of the discussion and your opinion is most likely not welcomed because you refuse to adhere to one of the basic laws of progression and interaction.
At least, in a perfect world that's how it works. No one cares anymore and apparently being ignorant and bigoted is where we choose to leave off now.
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Just do what she wants both of you to do, clear your mind, relax, forget for a while that you were together and try to live your life! Don't think it's something that's going to make your life worse, changes aren't always bad, and when you don't expect it, she'll be back saying she's sorry and all that, and if not, I'm sure you'll know how to live without her at that point!
Good luck!
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well,maybe you should start looking for working t-girls. . .they already have a shitton of money,apparently;they're prolly less bitchy and bipolar,eventho they usually do take hormone therapy,since they're physically men(mostly)and lack in natural production process of estrogen,progestogen and oxytocin.also,they gladly take it up the corn hole,again for apparent reasons;be they pre-op or post-op,they can't refuse anal probing,it's in their nature.and another plus side,you already live in Brazil,and it's a world-wide known fact Brazil is swarming with trannies.so you're in the luck. . .just be careful,STDs mutate on daily basis.
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Wellp, if using your name is something annoying for you, then i think i understand her decision.
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I actually knew a dude who really hated it. While I won't get into what kind of person he was, it was mostly whenever somebody used his name at the end of a sentence. Apparently it was because one of his parents always used to do it in a really condescending manner to get under his skin, and it kinda stayed with him. You know, like :
"Maybe we should do that, John"
In the end though, arguments make people do and say stupid stuff. As much as it can be one person always stoking the fire or being the cause, even otherwise rational people can turn into bitey little monsters with enough provocation. It's why they always say you should live with somebody for 6 months before you ever consider marrying. Some people, no matter how cool, just don't seem get along when in close quarters for too long.
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Actually she was talking to a friend (and fighting). "Oh, and you know what? Isaque (me) told me that yaddayaddayadda about you and [...]"
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That changes things then. But then again, if she was talking behind your back, maybe the relationship was not all fine and dandy after all, at least on her end.
In those cases, the best you can do, is to simply let go, don't hold hopes, as it'll hurt you even more. Just try to keep on going, hang out with friends, talk about stuff with them, play games with them, go out for dinner (and yes, accompanied, don't go alone). Eventually you'll figure this out yourself; but to stand there, worrying about it doesn't solve a thing.
Not exactly the best advice, but i hope you understand it later.
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You should totally get back with her... I mean your old friend...
YOU PALM, NEVER FAILS, ALWAYS SATISFIES.
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Stop wasting your time with a girl who is not comfortable with you and who you are not comfortable with. It doesn't seem like it now but there are plenty of other girls out there, now that you've had a relationship you will know better what to look for in your next one. Once you find the right person and experience a relationship with mutual respect and trust where you're not always worried about the other person leaving you or cheating on you, you'll be glad you kept looking. My old GF of 7 years left me one day and the relationship experience allowed me to find someone more compatible with me, who I am now married to and have a child with and who is a much better match than my previous GF. I can see now what a toxic relationship my previous one was. A relationship is like a fart, if you have to try to hard, it's probably shit.
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Hi kinacero,
I'm really sorry to hear about the situation you're in, I know from a similar experience how bad you must be feeling.
Maybe I don't have something new to add and there is no "magic word" to get her back, but just let me share these thoughts:
First of all, please don't try and think FOR her. Either she told you what's going on in her head, or she hasn't. Some comments here are trying to interpret her actions and automatically assume the worst. I'd expect that over two years you've learned a lot about who she is and how she acts. Don't let baseless accusations and paranoia bring you down even further. Thinking worse of her won't help you and it won't bring her back.
Second - try and listen to her, to what she said. If she feels she needs some time alone, then at least give her some of that time. By either stalking, pressuring or harassing her, you're going to make it worse.
Third, you do have to try and be realistic. Breaking up is not a solution for whatever problem might exist in a relationship. A modern disease is that people are only looking for someone who is "right for me, from start to finish". A person like that doesn't exist, it's always hard work for both parties to make a relationship last. So if your girl does come back and says that she solved it, put in a real effort to review together what's happened, what's caused her to feal uneasy or unsure. Apologize for whatever small part you may have attributed.
In an interesting discourse last weekend I heard about dealing with anxiety. One of the best ways to let go of your fears, or keep them in check, is by trying to help others. Be a little less focused on yourself and your pain is the best medicine.
Drop me a line on steam if you feel like talking.
All the best and take care bro!
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From experience, i can tell you that the longer the relationship runs, the harder its gonna get. You age together and learn new things about each other everyday. But that doesn't mean that you should be so hung up on one girl, i know its cliche to say that you've got your whole life ahead of you but then its true right? You wanna be with her right now. Because she is what right now is. If you trust her on what she'll do with her time apart from you, then you have nothing to worry about. But you should probably stay away from lovey-dovey movies for a while. Vent your anger and frustrations on helpless civilians in a game. Play games that you used to when you were single. Find people who play tabletop games and join in. Eat some fried chicken. (my personal favorite whenever i'm feelin down)
Best of luck to you, mate.
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from experience, play WoW or Lord of the RIngs Online, they drive your full attention away to games
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It's hard to say what to do in this situation, although it's clear to me that you shouldn't stay in a relationship where you're fighting all the time. It's obvious that currently she's good at pressing your buttons. I'd suggest that you think about these fights and what you could do differently to diffuse these situations. If you can't think of anything, then you're probably better off looking for someone else. If you think you can change how you behave in those circumstances then it might or might not work, but there's at least a chance that things will work out better.
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It was hard. It happened around two months ago, and she told me it was for my own good, as we were only fighting and and could not stop this fighting (that she always started for any stupid reason). After that she insisted that we kept seeing each other, so we kinda formed another relationship. We were together again, and crawling to a serious relationship once more.
Well, this time, and for the first time, she did something extremelly annoying using my name and I got angry and yelled at her. She started crying and after some time she told me that she wanted some time away from me. Without talking or seeing each other and etc.
She told me she'll still love me and after this we'll still have a chance to get back together but I don't know if I should believe in this. We were together for far more than 2 years and were always together, and this is breaking me!
I'm finding it difficult to have any pleasure, be it gaming, going to a friend's party or playing wargames. I'm being forced to live nightmares every time I sleep and the only two times I didn't have a nightmare about something horrible happening to her, I dreamed about something beautiful alongside her, and perhaps it was even worse.
I'm trying to remain strong and trust in her word, but it's hurting too bad and I feel like I'm losing ground...
Does anyone know what to do in this situation? I want to believe in it, I want to have her back, but this time is killing me and everything I once found pleasure in doing.
EDIT: Thanks for all the support, I can already breathe better. A lot of guys said some awesome things and it helped me a lot. Some even added me on steam and we chatted for a while, traded experiences. That's why I made this post here. You are all an awesome community that always made me laugh and now even helped me in some serious poop situation.
Thank you all, I won't forget it. Never. (AKA Giveaway coming soon)
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