How to talk to friends.

Once you are outside of spaces with built-in friend mechanisms (such as school), it truly does take honest effort to establish and maintain friendships.

That said, it sounds like you have an issue with a jerk. That sucks. Try to remember that each friendship, whether it ends well or badly, is all accrued experience building toward better personal relationships for yourself. You learn what kind of people are positive for you to associate with, and what personality traits/tendencies to avoid.

i dont understand, you want to have friends, thats understandable, id be your friend,
but you also hate humans, which , makes no sense? do you want someone to waste time to talking to for hours? or a friend? because you can have alot of feelings for a friend, but NOT hate.
honestly, with all due respect, but i have seen you post multiple times, it was always this, rant, full of swearing, (mostly) useless posts, so it would make my heart mixed, is she an online troll? would trusting her be as good as wasting my time?,
your level is high, you give alot, you are kind
you have 7 k comments, but something is wrong you know?its like, you want people but you push people.
anyway, im sorry for any offence, didnt mean any.

You'll be glad to hear that my relationships have indeed all crashed and burned. Unfortunately, my makeup career just keeps skyrocketing with no end in sight to its meteoric rise. As for my nudes, I keep posting them to the forum, but mods keep deleting them :/

There is no such thing as friendship.

Only temporary relationships of convenience.

When people need something from you, they become your "friends".

When they don't need anything from you, they call you "strangers".

You seem to be young enough to attend a university. Have you tried clubs and sports?

If you're expecting online friendships to be deep and lasting ... I think your expectations are a little off. In my opinion, online friendships are one of convenience. I'm in a couple of chat groups. When I don't feel like talking, I ignore whatever's going on. When I feel like chatting, I'll be a little more active. It's not a real friendship or relationship where I am investing time and being considerate of the other person's feelings.

Obviously not everyone feels the same way, but I suspect I'm in the majority. I have a real life outside of my Steam personality, with work, family, friends and other commitments and pressures that require real time investment and cannot be ignored.

I don't think you're necessarily an unusual case. If you're finding it difficult to make friends, find groups or clubs or something where there's a shared passion. That automatically gives you a common point to discuss and mutually interested things to geek out about.

why do I always have to be the one to initiate 'cause I can't

I can relate to that...

My social life is pretty much non-existent outside of the online world (or namely, Steam and its sub-parts) and I almost never initiate conversation with anyone. The only interaction I have is with people who initiate conversation with me in the first place, which are very few. It's really interesting how, over the year, the "one" has changed. I won't name anyone because I believe that who people chat with on a regular basis is a personal and private matter, but I think that over the last 2 years there have been around 5 people who messaged me consistently for a few months, before suddenly (or smoothly) fading away, leaving the place for another person. Currently, the person who used to message me almost every day has been extremely quiet. As it stands, I'm in a "quiet" moment. Nobody messages me regularly. Will someone else take their place as the "one"? Probably. It's a matter of time.

In any case, I don't really mind. Sure, it's fun to have a chat with people, but I can't help but feel I'm not a pleasant person to get to know. I feel like people tend to give me too much credit about how I'm apparently "nice", which honestly, is bullshit in my opinion. I'm polite, and I like to help people, but if you get to know me a bit more, that image kind of fades out and the true me is a bit more, huh... "crude"? Anyways, I guess this is probably why people tend to stop chatting with me after a few months. That or, I don't know.

But yeah. It's not something that bothers me too much. I think I'm kind of a loner, and I don't tend to get "lonely" easy. It's just an interesting thing I felt like writing when I saw this thread.

I'm sitting last 40 minutes ahead of monitor and thinking what can I write, because I feel that I should write something.

Since I'm a bit antisocial and have problems with talking with strangers (I don't know about what I should talk, good themes are ending really fast) I know a bit what you fell. A bit, because I was lucky and made friends irl. now we know each other almost 10 years. Few more and I will be able to say that I know them half of my life. It's not like I found them, probably I'm not able to find friends by myself. They found me and made my life better, so I think I can say, that friendship exist.

But we can't call everybody we know "friends". When someone is no more talking with you, well, it happens - there is something required to be a friends, something what bounds you. It is almost like searching for love. If both of people don't feel need to talk sometimes, sent funny picture or something, they are not friends, they just know each others.

So if someone is ignoring you and isn’t trying keep contact with you – ignore him/her too, there is probably no chance for you to be a friend. Find people who loves thing that you also loves. Send message to them. Talk with them. They are not responding? It sad, but nothing unusual, it’s time to try with someone else. They are responding? Sending out of nowhere message with funny gif that they found on 9gag? Good! You can probably be a friends. Probably because there is no instruction “101 way how to make a friend”. Just after talking with someone for a long time you realizing, that you know someone very well and this person also know you very well. But both of you still want to talk with each other. That’s a friendship.

Of course, it’s only my point of view.

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people are always like , I wanna be friends with you but you never talk to me. But they never talk either, why do I always have to be the one to initiate

I can relate to this.

I heard nudes...What can I do to help?

Those people weren't very good friends. You need to size people up better if you are feeling used when parting ways.

I wanna be friends with you but you never talk to me. But they never talk either, why do I always have to be the one to initiate 'cause I can't.

If you like the person (platonic or not, it doesn't matter), then you need to build a relationship which makes them want to interact with you. Why should they message you? Why should they even respond when you message them?

People become friends because they share something or see something they like in each other, and sharing and helping each other strengthens that friendship.

I'd say that most people aren't jerks, but some are, and if you want to draw nice people to be your friends, they need to be able to relate to you and enjoy your company, and, based on your posts, that can be hard. I don't enjoy being around someone abrasive, and you usually come off as one.

people are always like , I wanna be friends with you but you never talk to me. But they never talk either, why do I always have to be the one to initiate

Stop thinking about that. If you really want to be a friend, you don't need to think about that. You want to talk with someone, talk to them. That's how you build the friendship, by talking about stuff you like and opening up. People may be busy with other stuff, and you just might not be the first thing on their mind, but if you talk to them and they enjoy your company, they're more likely to think about you and contact you. If they enjoy your company and know you enjoy theirs, I think they'll be even more likely to contact you.

Personally I'm pretty bad about keeping in touch with people, but I can tell you that the best relationships are with those who don't care about whether you contacted them or not, and just call if they want or accept a call with happiness after a long time you haven't called, and just talk about stuff.

Making friends online needs to be spontaneous. If you try to make friendship online it never works. I'm not trying to make a rule here, but I'm talking about my experience.

It will be weird and useless and you'll feel like you had something wrong, you are not interesting or maybe they'll "find some better friends". Anyway, after trying some sites, forums, and trying to be a pen pal, etc. I got to the conclussion that most people are not trying to make friends. People make posts like "I want a best friend", like if you can ask for this, what the fuck and, in reality, they just want some conversations. Short term.

Of course, nobody says that, they are selling themselves.

Then you have the lonely types, they want someone to talk with, they'll scream they have a lot of psychological problems, sometimes is true, sometimes not. Under my experience, I rather not talk with that people because the ones that ara faking that shit are not good people (imho) and I have no resources to know if they are telling the truth or not. Conversations with those will be also short term.

So either you find someone you have a lot of common by making those short term chatting, or you stop convincing yourself there is going to be some kind of real friendshhip online with the net tools.

Get Overwatch top 500 rank and carry all your new friends.

If you're talking about steam friends, they're friends only by the name. People add them to make a trade deal, to ask for help once or to read their reviews.

Call me old-fashioned, but I prefer to interact with people I know personally. Find someone from your neighbourhood to play and chat with. Also, people dislike it when you hate them, keep that fact in mind.

'cause fuck y'all. And I really fucking hate them [humans]. I hope your relationships crash and burn and your makeup career goes nowhere.

Probably that's why nobody starts a conversation.

1) Stop being so hostile.
2) Irrelevant, but nice hair.
3) I've told you 1000 times, but you've never listened. Still, the greatest way to meet new people is to have a pet and go with it at a park, where you'll meet other pet owners. If you don't like your current (?) dog, get another. Anyway, at the park, it'll be really easy to talk to people, merely by talking about your pets (breeds, names, letting them play together and commenting how cute they are, etc.). Other ways are attending hobbies and going to places where these hobbies can be attended, etc.

What are friends? That sounds vaguely familiar. I think I used to have a few of those a long time ago.

wanna b my fwend?

Maybe it's because everyone you have met so far are dicks, or just weeb boys that never have seen a woman online,

• maybe you need to find few girls to be your friends (vampkitty69 is a cool girl I know, and she always accepts new friends)
• you really need to meet better people, and no not every one are jerks, so don't lose hope :)