Where are you in life?

Not exactly living the way I'd like.. But things will get better.

This song resume it:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DohRa9lsx0Q

Life is so fucking good, I can taste it in my spit.

"I have a good life with some bumps here and there"
Im 21, 1 year away from my MBA degree. I live in Asia, and unlike idk, say it "western culture" maybe? majority of us not leaving home to get money by ourself (i live at different city from my parent, but all my spending come from them). Usually after we graduate, we continue our parent business or ask money to open our new business, sometimes parent told us to work as employee for 1 or 2 years for the experience. So i can't say i understand your condition. so my problem for now is only what to do after graduate, back home? work? take master degree? do one of that in this country, or try to live abroad?

So, to answer your question, a happy and good life can be achieved by do these things :

1. Be grateful for what u have, imagine you live in war area, all the less good condition people you see around you.
2. Make life goal : mine are Travelling to all UNESCO Heritage site, Make my own private library, making world become peaceful place.
3. Imagine what condition you want to live at your middle or old age. Mine are live in some peaceful/ traditional place with fresh and good neighborhood , maybe Kyoto, or some village at Europe, and my house have library room, meditation room, and of course gaming room.
4. Do some sport.and NOT e-sport. be healthy, and enjoy one of the best activities world can provide, it will clear your mind. Mine fave are : Cycling, Swimming, Futsal.
5. enjoy 15 min to 1 hour everyday to calm your mind. just looking at the sky, look at horizon, turn off your lamp at night, and wondering about good time you have maybe 15 minutes before you sleep.
6. Laugh often i guess?
7. Be damn grateful we still alive at 2017.

So perfect life, i say no. but it is good and happy, with some bumps here and there.

I'm in good terms with my life, with bumps all over the place; but with small and big goals to achieve.

My life had some heavy bumps in the past, and I made big mistakes, and walked many paths. My advice if you want it, is this one:

Every life is unique, your life is unique. Don't compare yourself with others.
Keep doing things you like and love. As Samuel Beckett use to say: "Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better."
Don't think too much in the future, it will reach you eventually, so step by step.

I've got a roof over my head food in my stomach. I have internet and games. I have a caring wife that puts up with all of my shit. I currently don't have a job and can't find anyone to hire me for "reasons", one of them being blind in one eye. I have had an application in for disability and the doctor says I suffer from depression and ptsd. I'm currently having to do surveys, use coupons, find every rebate i can to make sure there is food in the house. I just became an insulin dependent diabetic and have no clue where the money for that is going to come ferom since my insurance company just told me they will no longer be covering the brand of insulin I'm currently using. However I still feel like I'm in a good place at this point but I will always be striving to have something more. I am satisfied in general however I just really don't have many desires that aren't really basic and covered already.

I studied med school 6 years (its 5, but i failed 2 times) and i am currently in the internship (1 year) and have to do another year of social service in some town, i am not sure if this is what i want with my life, probably not, but its too late to go back and i don't know what else i could do, i hope some day i will know what i want and what to do, but i know it's not going to be soon, so i guess "I am struggling, and I don't know where to go from here" fits me very well.

Oh man, I also had problems after graduating high school. When I graduated, for some reason I was just really exhausted and my heart wasn't into studying anymore (wasn't into doing anything, really). In fact, I wasn't even qualified to go to university because I hadn't taken the required courses during high school (hadn't felt like researching what I needed to take). I ended up taking some time off, which had its pros and cons. The cons being that I felt left behind when I saw all my friends/practically everyone else moving forward with their lives in university (but it was my choice, so I tried not to dwell on it ^^;).

My parents were initially really disappointed in me (that probably hurt the most), but after a while they cooled down, stepped back, and let me sort things out for myself. They didn't pressure me into a certain career either (though they tried to get me to at least choose something that had good job prospects), so I appreciated that.

It took time, but I eventually picked myself up and got into university, and now I'm chugging my way to a BA. Am I "satisfied"? Well, I'm still jobless, so my increasing student loans are becoming a worry, and I lost all my friends due to distancing myself for so long. But y'know, I'm moving forward, even if they are just baby steps. And I'm confident that if I keep moving forward this way, even if it takes years, I'll eventually be able to reach the happy future I've always dreamed of.

Anyways, vent over! I wish you all the best, as long as you keep trying your hardest I'm sure you'll find success someday <3

I might not have the best life in the world, but Im happy with what I have. I learned a long time ago that being jealous of people who are doing "better" than I am doesnt do anything other than make me unhappy. I also learned from hanging out with someone who was VERY well off, that material stuff and an amazing career doesnt guarantee that youll be happy either. So, I stopped trying to meet everyone else's expectations, and started focusing on just meeting my own. Oddly enough, I ended up a much more positive persion. So for me, a good and happy life is simply being alive to pursue my own interests, and whatever makes me happy.

It's unbelievable how often loving, well-meaning parents try to control their child's choise of vocation, putting supreme pressure on them to succeed in a field the child might not be interested in. Or downright reject a child just because s/he doesn't follow the career they want him/her to follow. I'm sorry this happened to you, but it sounds like you are realizing it now and maybe doing something about it.

You may have "failed" their dream for you, but you haven't yet given yours a chance. You can succeed at your own dream.

I would recommend reading The Joy of Craft https://www.amazon.com/Joy-Craft-Paradoxical-Approach-Learning-ebook/dp/B01CPJ5B9S
The essence is that joy can be found in dealing with the bumps. Life is a journey not a destination, you're only in competition with yourself, and all that. Sounds hokey, but it's really helped my art to have a task and focus on doing it well, whatever the outcome.