Well, have you?
Wow, what a day you had. I would have frozen too, I always do that in these situations.
There are a lot of days I won't forget, mostly because I live in constant fear and whenever I have to go out / come home I know chances are I'll get robbed or worse. Two people were killed in the bus I used to take; a guy tried to approach me with a knife at a bus stop and I ran for my life into the bus; two homeless came around asking people in the bus stop for money and when I wouldn't give, they said they knew I wanted to and that they would get me next time - people say the homeless mark you if you don't give them money and then come back to rob you around here; two drug dealers got into the bus and sit right next to me and I thought for sure that day would be the day, but the bus driver was awesome and stopped a police car and asked them to follow the bus until every passenger had gotten out; etc... All that excluding the fact that the walk from the bus stop to my house is a nightmare. I'm very surprised I haven't been robbed yet this year, it should happen soon, since it's tradition.
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Was the girl who asked for sex the same girl who was sleeping in the parking lot?
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Welllll...nope. My day was nothing compared to yours. Good job keeping your cool for the most part (deer in headlights look notwithstanding)!
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I remember when I visited my friend's house and saw my friend's mom without pants on. Awkwardness ensued.
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Nice story but I can't get past "Drugs absolutely will ruin your life, but 9 times out of 10 its the police and the system that ruin your life, and not the drugs directly"
Could you elaborate on this? Drugs are bad but the police and the "system" is nine times worse? I don't understand how someone could hold these believes unless they're a criminal, slightly insane or lives in a very bad dictatorship.
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The point being, if you get caught with a recreational amount of drugs, the cops will charge you like you are scarface. Those charges follow you around forever on a criminal records check. Even if you are found not guilty the arrest is still on your record. That can cause problems finding work, housing, keeping your family intact. If you are found guilty often times you will end up in jail for months or years, which further impedes your life, because now you have to declare your convictions when asked. It dosent help that most prisons here are privately run for profit. So there is literally no incentive for rehabilitation. If they help you break your drug addiction, or deal with your anger, or just teach you not to commit crime, then you won't be back, and that's bad for business.
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Because all of her issues stemmed from her being high. So me calling the cops on her, when she wasn't hurting anyone would've served no purpose other than to petentially make her life worse giving her more reason to do drugs. Since most users in my experience start as a way of escape.
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But what you're initially describing is way past "recreational amount of drugs". Anyway, It's clear that I'm not going to get an explanation of your, in my mind, somewhat odd opinion on police and the "system". Thank you for sharing an interesting and partly surprising story :)
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She would end up in jail for drug's use/possession (assuming OP wouldn't have mentioned the paid sex solicitation) but nothing concrete will be done to help her fight her addiction i.e. the total war on drugs does nothing to help people actually victim of the situation, instead they are incarcerated like rapists and murderers.
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What I mean is that nothing would be done to cure her addiction (physically and/or mentally). What do you believe happen in jail? They either suffer from uncontrolled withdrawal/cravings or obtain the substance one way or the other e.g. via smuggling. I don't think we put alcoholics in jail only for their addiction, we try to cure them e.g. via rehab.
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I'm not advocating the use of any drug, I just said that putting them in jail like any other criminal doesn't solve anything if you don't follow with rehab and prevention campaign.
Criminalizing all drugs or just some of them is a political choice, how you handle the public sanity/safety issue is far more important in my opinion, 2 years ago you could end up in jail for possessing/smoking marijuana in the US, now it's allowed almost everywhere.
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From op's description she already a lot of problems to deal with and adding an extra level of complications would only cause more despair i.e. she would probably keep her addiction in addition to having to deal with justice.
At the end it depends on your stance on drugs and your personal experience with justice or police: either you're fine seeing it as a criminal offence and see jail time as the logical and only answer versus seeing it as a public safety issue and wonder which alternatives could help those people to fight their addiction and reintegrate society.
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Obviously you've never been on the wrong end of the system. I was locked up and held without bail on accusations. After getting a better lawyer and getting out of jail. I was still prohibited from entering the town I worked and lived in. 6 months later when the state finally dropped the charges due to lack of evidence (I was genuinely innocent in that instance) the bank was already foreclosing on my house, I lost literally everything, and the states opinion on the matter? Well accidents happen, we have to follow the rules. Sorry.
Where specifically it pertains to drugs, something as stupid as a single marijauna possession charge when you are 18, blocks you from any civil service job for life. Ive been smoking bud my entire life, I've owned 2 successful businesses, run several large websites tthat made me a small fortune in the 90's. Have held public office, have raised one child to adulthood and am raising 2 others as a single parent. Using drugs, does not make you a bad person, but the system does not differentiate between someone who likes to smoke a joint and relax, or someone who robs a house to support their heroin addiction.
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Also, it wasnt just the police and court system. When I was arrested for the instance above, it made the front page of the local newspaper, half a page. When the charges were dropped, i got a paragraph on like page 9. Even had I not lost my house, staying in that town, wouldve been problematic at best, as the majority of people now had a preconceived notion about who I was as a person. That wouldve affected the business I worked at as the manager, and me as a person just walking down the street.
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Yes, I think so. How can you claim to live in a free society, but limit what people can ingest? Look at portugal, they decriminalized all recreational use. Shifted funding from criminal enforcement to education and treatment. Violent crime is down, drug related deaths are down, cases of rehabilitation are up.
The war on drugs, created the violence that surrounds the drug trade.
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I guess to directly and as succinctly as possible, answer your question. If you have a recreational cocaine habit for example. The odds that your habit, lets say 2x a month, less than a gram, will cause a major disruption of your life are less than 10% and I think thats being generous.
However, getting caught with that same 1 gram of cocaine by the police, will earn you a possession charge, if you happened to get that gram in 2 half gram baggies, they may even charge you with intent to distribute. The first charge can get you 90 days in jail, the second up to 2.5 years. Even if they dont incarcerate you, but offer you probation instead, now you are on mandatory drug testing for the duration of your probation. And any offense, including something as simple as driving on a suspended license, will violate your probation and end up in the aforementioned jail time.
The odds that the police will charge you for a gram or less of cocaine? 90% or more.
So 9 out of 10 times, its the system that will potentially ruin your life, and not the drugs.
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Hmmm not sure if my worst day can beat yours... but I'll share:
Many, many, years ago, when I was a young an innocent teenager, I was in year 12 (final year) of high school.
I got into an argument with a teacher, an Irish lady of middle years.
It seems her favourite poet was bloke called Bruce Dawe. We had to analyse a few of his poems. I thought he was pretty shit. I'm a fan of the classics like Coleridge and I felt Dawe was an amateur and frankly was a bit worrying with his sexual fantasies about sunflowers and butterflies. So I told her that.
Hmm. Apparently Dawe was a friend if the family and I had overstepped myself. In the ensuing argument I might have gotten a little heated, but there was no physical violence, merely words describing how she could accomplish having sexual relations with herself after she threatened to fail my entire year.
Soo... I got expelled...
I went home and told my Uncle, with whom I was living with and he got pissed and kicked me out of home.
Well off to my best friends house - We'd been mates for like 6 years, drinking fighting, picking up chicks and gaming together... best bloke you hope to have as a mate.
I never knocked because we always treated each others home as our own - we knew where each others spare keys were etc, and many times had used each others place to crash.
So I walked in grabbed a beer from the fridge and heard him banging around in the bedroom.
I opened the door and he was banging all right... my girlfriend Diane.
Well...I watched for a bit, swilled the beer down before they finally noticed me. I smiled, shrugged, smashed the beer bottle on the floorboards between the bed and their shoes then walked out.
I figured that was pretty much the worst day and couldn't get much worse, then I remembered I was supposed to be working that night at the kebab shop in town - I did the 10pm to 2am shift.
I called my boss to let him know I'd be late, I still had to find a place to crash and have a shower etc for work - and he said "Don't bother - if I can't count on you to be on time I'll find someone I can count on. You're fired".
THAT as my worst day.
On the upside my computer was fine. :)
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So yesterday was just one of those days from the time I woke up, until I went to sleep. First I broke my pc by shutting it down and moving it to another room, I thought I had just jostled something loose, hours later, and after some progress, then it getting worse, turns out its a fairly common problem with my video card that AMD has no comment on. Anyways, in the process of trying to fix that, I managed to break the usb ports on the front panel. I finally get it running enough to get online, which incidentally barely works, due to a power outage, the AP i usually connect to is unreliable at best.
Go to work, and shortly after I get there, my favorite rapper, Joyner Lucas comes in to my store. I talk to him for a bit, very cool guy. If you like rap, keep an eye on him. Fast forward a few hours, and this girl comes in, asks if she can wait for her ride there, because she just bailed out of jail, after the cops took her car and charged her with OUI. Whatever, sure, this isnt that strange, considering were 24 hours, and the closest place to the state police barracks.
I go outside for a smoke a little while later, and she follows me outside. The conversation went something like this;
Her: Do you have a girlfriend?
Me: No
Her: Have you ever paid for sex before?
Me: Lol, no.
Her: Do you want to? I just need to make 100$ so I can get my car out of impound
Me: No, thanks, I'm all set.
Her: Are you sure? I'm good.
Me: I'm sure you are
Her: Im usually much prettier too, I just dont have any makeup on, do you have any heroin?
Me: No, I dont fuck with that.
Her (entering super saiyan mode): STOP HOLDING OUT ON ME, I KNOW YOU HAVE SOME, GIVE IT TO ME OR I"LL STAB YOU
(.4 milliseconds later ) I'm sorry, Im really tired, please dont call the cops, I'm just going to wait for my ride.
I go back inside, and probably 20 minutes later another customer comes in and asks me why theres a girl sleeping in the middle of the parking lot. I go out and wake her up and move her over to the side of the building (For those of you wondering, I dont believe in calling the cops for anything unless theres a victim, and even then only if the victim needs or wants the police. Drugs absolutely will ruin your life, but 9 times out of 10 its the police and the system that ruin your life, and not the drugs directly) I get her off to the side and out of customer view, and she tells me thank you for being so nice, and starts to get undressed. I'm like wtf are you doing, at which point she bursts into tears and starts in with the 'why dont you like me?' routine.
Its at this exact moment, that her ride, her mother, shows up. I'm standing there, with a hysterically sobbing half naked girl, who I'm trying to help put her shirt back on. I look like chester the molester, and I know it, so when Mom shrieks 'what are you doing to my daughter?!?' I just kind of stare at her like a deer in headlights. The girl just bolts over to her mom, and says something like 'its ok lets just leave' I couldnt hear it clearly but I think thats what she said. So somewhere right now, some woman probably thinks I'm a rapist and that she saved her daughter from me.
I will never forget this night, ever.
TLDR: Broke my computer, met a semi famous rapper, was propositioned for sex, and managed to look like a rapist all in one day.
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