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Not to be a "mom-type" but I've been in those too and the sooner you turn that "yes" into a "no" the sooner you'll be happy ;D
Speaking from personal experience here... xD
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Trust your friends.
For some reason (to be precise- emotions that are making you unreasonable) you don't understand that something that's not making you happy isn't good for you.
There's nothing more to it. It's either making you happy and it's good for you or not. It's not a science or some great wisdom.
I really understand how you're feeling as I've been there too and I get that you have to chose how to deal with it but if your friends (people who REALLY care about you) all think it's so bad that they had to say it to your face it would be smart to try and distance yourself from the whole thing and look at it rationally.
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You're quite young, aren't you? I don't mean that as something bad, it's just that at a younger age you don't really care about yourself enough to be able to snap out of that kind of bummers.
Once you start caring about yourself, having real self-respect and giving the "fuck off" to anyone who'd even consider dragging you through an "on and off" thing you'll see how amazing life gets.
I promise.
But, to get that self-respect you need to base it on something and you need to start standing up for yourself. Once you're single for a while and get to know yourself there's no way you won't see that someone has to be really really special for you to even think about giving up on being single :)
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I'm 29
I did not see that one coming.
Anyway, there's no way I can make you do or believe anything, nor would I ever want to as I understand that we sometimes just have to learn from our own mistakes but I would really love it if you tried to accept the fact that no one is really-really special enough to ever make you "feel miserable way more often that happy".
You only have yourself; she wasn't born with you nor will she die with you so in the end your first responsibility in these matters must be to yourself and your own happiness. That's the only healthy thing to do.
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In my experience, you either have too much time and/or don't feel responsible to and for anyone.
I used to be depressed during puberty (even seriously considered suicide, later on, at one point even diagnosed as clinically depressed) when I was living alone, the only thing that kept me from doing it was thinking how much it would hurt my mom to lose another child.
It took ending up in a hospital to realize that there's no one as important as me and there's no relationship (be it a lover-type or any other) that can possibly be worth my life. (we're talking about committing suicide here, not risking/giving my life to save someone else as there are people I'd do that for)
It took a couple more breakups and failed friendships to make me decide (and it was a conscious decision) that no one is even worth me being in a bad mood for over 5 minutes.
Also, getting a dog was the best thing I ever did. Once you know you are responsible for another life and see how unconditionally someone can love you the whole world changes :)
P.S. I have to go to sleep now as I have a semi-job-interview and it's almost midnight.
I really hope you'll manage to get yourself out of that situation and come to see that there is not one single person in the world who is worth you being so sad over. No one who cares about you would ever allow you to feel that bad because of them so I know for a fact that she is not really-really special. And I promise that everything in this P.S is 100% true. <3
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have sabotaged couple of relations with stupid decisions.
concentrating on career n stuff atm.
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Thanks. And actually i don't think i need a gf right now, cause i don't have extra money for spending a good time, and i don't have extra time too. So i'm not very upset with that fact. Yes, deep inside i realize that i want it :lenny_face:, but also understanding that i don't really need relationships right now.
EDIT: lol, looks like i said same thing twice
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I have person that significate a lot to me, though not girlfriend or anything like that i have a significant other
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Can someone have a non-human significant other?
myenglishsucks
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Yep just started going out after she left due to the fact we weren't allowed to before due to the type of work we do.
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I'm a despicable human, obviously, so I don't participate in such activities. :'(
Seriously, though, I find it pointless and a waste of time so I don't really 'get busy'.
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Yeah, but it's been going for just three months now. Very fresh and probably not forever. So a not-so-significant-atm-other lol
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Would that be a less significant other? Or an insignificant other?
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Less significant than "married for x years, kids, living together", not insignificant though, I don't think relationships, even short ones, are insignificant, since you always grow (as a person) on them.
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Does that mean that I'm basically that rosemary bush that I forgot to water two summers ago? The one that sat neglected in the corner of my porch and died? And if so, what does that say about the fact that I bought a new plant the next summer? Am I my own doppelganger?!?
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Shit, I haven't had a date in four years. Or five. I really can't remember. I'd have to find my original rental paperwork to narrow it down.
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lol, most of the time, yes. But in this case, I can only remember that the last time I had a date was about 10 months after moving into my new apartment. But that's 10 months after a point that I can't nail down otherwise. I've been in my apartment for a number of years, but I've never really paid attention to exactly how many years.
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And here I was expecting to hear a heartbreaking story about how you've moved to a new town and got a new place just so you could be closer to a girl you've met online and fallen in love with only to be totally disappointed after going on a real date with her but decided to stay here since you couldn't go back home as you were too embarrassed and have broken off any relationship with your family because they were so opposed to you going to move for her.
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My love life has never been interesting enough to ever have my heart broken.
And actually, I moved here to be closer to my family after a number of years away.
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But... But... My version is far more exciting! xD
I've had some soap-opera level heart-breaking relationships that no one would believe if you talked about them online as it would sound too unbelievable not to be made up. The last one broke my heart in a gazillion pieces and I'm not about to allow anyone else so close to be able to hurt me like that ever again. Love is all fine and well but I've learned never to trust anyone completely and never allow anyone to hurt you so badly ;D
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This. Luckily though the date ended well so the rest didn't matter :)
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Don't worry, it's been 17 years since I haven't been in a date.
#90'sShyKids
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No. Forever alone, just let me... get back to my games.
I-I don't need anyone, okay??
;_;
Kidding, I'm perfectly fine alone, hah.
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I prefer this second page of comments way more than the first one, the people are way too happily in love on the first xD
Can't actually believe couples like those (the adult ones) really exist...
Yup, I do have a significant other, everyone knows Strayed is my SG husband, right? ;D
That does count! xD
On a more serious note... I am thinking about asking this albino guy with a limp to marry me. Don't even know his name but the guy makes the best pizza EVER! But not now, it's summer and I need to watch my figure. Who knows, maybe when fall comes I'll pop the question xD
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husband
... So I wasn't his best-man after all. Not even invited to the ceremony.
Okay.
It hurts real bad, thanks for asking. :|
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There wasn't a ceremony, that ass is too cheap to afford anything nice for me... I'm considering divorcing him, but don't tell him that....
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Bride's family is the one that pays for the wedding.
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Oh, do you want some dowry on top of that too?
How many camels am I worth to you? Or do you prefer other types of cattle?
Cheapskate... :P
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We only trade in Llama's on SteamGifts, you should know that!
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Forever alone since the dawn of time.
Life is great, yeah....
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Got a girlfriend of 2 years. No idea how she can stand me.
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Yes I have and is Deluxe Edition
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DbD3n7LMg5c
LIMP BIZKIT IS BETTER THEN EVERYONE!
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Nope, Single parent here... no future possibilities either. I haven't been on a date in over 12 years!! I gave up a while ago. I'm okay on my own though. :) I'm to much trouble for anyone to handle anyway. ;p
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Met each other 6 years ago, been a couple for 5. <3
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I ended up accidentally falling for my best friend about half a year after meeting. Too shy to say anything. lol And also terrified of upsetting and losing the best friend I'd ever had.
"Oh yes, friends. That's us. So platonic. That's totally all. Nothing else I'd really like to tell you. Nope."
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That only helps to reinforce my belief that you can't be friends with anyone you would conceivably date/screw.
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As much as I hate to admit it... I am living proof, even if it wasn't my original intention. lol
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Just wondering how busy SG population is.
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