"sadness"

For awhile now, I've been backing away from one of my first and closest friends. He started getting into things that I didn't want to be a part of and I felt like things were getting out of hand. I tried to keep in touch, but he seemed like a completely different person and I didn't know what was going on. I found out what was happening from a friend of his and that was on accident. Finally cutting ties was the hardest thing I've ever done. At first, I was pretty depressed because I was sad to see what he had become and I thought that I would never find another person/group that would be friends with me like we were. However, I found a new group to hang out with a month or two later and they're amazing people. We've been hanging out a lot and having great times, which have been some of the best times I've ever had.

What I've realized from my experiences is that it really sucks to lose or cut ties with a friend, but it feels so much better when you make more. It may take awhile, but I swear it is worth it.

Hang in there and you'll be fine mate!

"but it doesnt seem like anyone is committed to develop a good friendship"
You can't know from the onset if a good friendship is going to develop. First you need be acquainted with someone. Then you'll see what happens in time. You're still young, don't try to force it.
But you're definitely on the road to improving your life if you already have the ability to recognize which people are not good for you and avoid spending time with them.
Some people never achieve that even at old age.

I know I'm a day late to the thread and all and I haven't read through any advice anyone else has tried to give you yet but, I really believe in you. I mean, I have no idea the kind of person you are or anything specific about you but really... I truly believe that you can get through this. Keep in mind that it is always important to breathe and take care of yourself the best you can. If you want someone to vent to and talk about your feelings with, you can add me if you would like. I may not be as helpful as another person on here who would be offering to help but I will give up any free time of mine at any moment needed to offer support to someone who reaches out to me for help at any time. Even if you don't want to talk much and would rather just have someone to play games with or whatever, I'm usually free and would be open to do that.

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school is a shitty time tbh. the only good thing about it is that it ends and from what i understand you're not so far from it, so cheer up! good friends are hard to come by, but that doesn't mean you won't find one during that one and a half year before your freedom - you might even meet one on the internet if that's where you feel the most comfortable. i met all my friends that way, and yeah, having them live far away and not being able to meet them irl as much as i want to sucks, but at least i can count on their support everytime i need it and that's what's important. so don't despair. you'll get through this. sometimes it feels like it's never going to end but it always does, and it gets better. trust me, i've been there too. :)

Concerning irl friends it's very simple, take quality over quantity. I'm sorry to hear about your school experiences but in each school you'll have clans and bands. And there will be toxic people, bullies and extreme right nutters around. They make a lot of noise and they are generally unpleasant but they left me and my classmates alone after I had an accident with one of the worst school bullies were he ran against my hands and knees.

I like to sport too and for me school was no more than a memory the moment I enlisted in the army. There I found real friends for life.

Don't you worry, friends come and go... Life has taught me that a good friend far away is much more valuable than a "friend" close by.
So don't panic, you'll make it through, graduate and start a new life, and people will keep coming and going like flies on a wall.

What counts is that you love yourself, and people who like/love you for who you are will start popping up as well...

Dont worry man) I live in Russia, that is realy sadness :D

Try to see things in a positive way.. I mean, it was better for this happening to you than to keep hangin' with people that weren't honest with you at first place. Just keep going! Things will get better, and you will be fine, I'm sure!
"Sometimes the best way to solve your own problems is to help someone else."

I wouldn't worry too much about it, highschool sucks but it shall pass. You won't ever deal with most of these people again after it's over. Why am I blacklisted though :))?

Don't feel too bad about it, school will be over before you know it and the people that do have friends in highschool don't end up being friends with them down the road 99% of the time.

I'm commenting to let you know you are not the only one! People are amazing creatures, who can love, but also hate. And I understand it, but what I don't understand is hate to another person because of his apperance, family situation or likes, which my friends began to do..
You should know that like in the world, there are also a lot of nice people on internet who would like to become a friend of yours and I am one of them! Stay strong and focus on the good things in your life!

Heya, I'm not asking to have it removed, but I am curious why I'm blacklisted. I figure most of my blacklistings are ratio-related but somehow I doubt that's important to you.

I kinda know what your going through. I suffered a very long time in school - up to the point where I really got ill by all the stuff going on.
I'm sure you will find somebody though to stand by your side and be there for you - or they might just find you :)
I wish you all the best! I'll try sending some sunshine, happiness and love your way! hug

Hi, try to find friends in clubs of interests (like fan club of robotics or fan club of serial (like Star Trek) or club of baseball/basketball players).
Also, you could try find them in just litle older than you.
P.S.: real friends must not stop all their duties and help you cause it will be selfish and irresponsible. So, good choice is to have 3-4 good friends.
P.S.S.: I hope it will help u, but I don't know cause different cultures have different opinions about friendship and other. Hope my english is good enough to be understandable

Don't worry too much about that. Sometimes we need to reevaluate our friends. A good friend is honest and will help you any time, specially when rough times are happening. If they go away, or even worse make the problem bigger, then they don't deserve to be next to us. You will find new people for sure.

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Hey, don't worry. I know it's alway easy to say, but you have to keep your chin up! There are coming better times, I promise you! I don't know how old you are, but you might be a Teen if you still go to school. So let me tell you, beeing a Teenager is always a hard time to go through. You're not feeling confident and feeling missunderstood all the time from everyone. And I know People (especially in your age) can be such idiots! Even if it's hard, try to ignore those assholes. In the end, they are often the most pitiful guys of all....

So what can you do now to feel better? Don't lock yourself in, go outside. I'm sure there are many groups near you, and some might be interesting for you. Go and give it a try. Maybe you like some sport, music, cooking, playing or get commited somewhere. A volunteer fire department? An animal shelter?

I hope I could give you some ideas, what you could do to meet new people! People who deserve your friendship! I wish you the best of luck for your life! Big hug! <3

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High school sucked a lot because you get thrown in with people in a class that you don't necessarily feel a connection with in any way.
Look forward to what comes after because you will be able to build friendships on other bases such as shared interests/sports/...
To this date, If I come across one of the people I hate (still) from high school I might be liable to punch them in the face for being **** to me years ago.

Make friends in other classes if you can, there are fun people out there, don't let the rest bother you too much.

You totally gonna make it man just don't think about bullshit, I could've written the same story some years ago, just go with it day by day, and game all the time lol that's how I went through...

I've found some good friends over Twitch, search your fav game, go to the person with least amount of views and talk about whatev with him, I think I met most of my friends this way.

BuMp!