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It's quite possible she also felt awkward about her so-called drunken friend hitting on her and didn't want to say something to make the situation worse (some drunks to get violent after all). As an introvert and socially inept person, I know I would.

Also, I know I can't read minds and prefer straightforward honesty... I don't have time for BS or games. If a man were interested in me, I'd rather he simply say so.

"Good guys don't finish last, they don't even get to the start line. "
No, we are already running.

(sorry for my bad english)
I am as you. Very shy. But I try it. I asked.. going to date. She refuses.. another man. I was disappointed and sad, but nothing changed. At the end of day, I asked her going to festival. As a friend. She accepted. She dance with me, smile on me and I feel normal like always. Nothing changed, only me. I learn something. Ask for date is easy, only first time is hard. Now Im not that shy as before.

"Good guys don't finish last, they don't even get to the start line. "
Really well worded, but I do not agree...to some extent. Good guys CAN win. Not all girls are into so called macho or alpha mans, even if I do think they are more into them(especially in teen ages). You seems like a nice, self-controlled and smart person(just look at the damn post you made!). Also I gotta say props to no smoking and drinking rule, in my circle its so hard to avoid. REALLY hard when most of the people forces you to do so so you could fit in. I am really weak muscularly wise so I will have to go to gym I guess ASAP. :(

I think she is shy too as you, I happen to know 2 girls who also got ''attacked'' by drunken guys. They barely escaped literally. My advice is also to improve self-esteem. People see that, and they can use that against you.

I feel you and finding myself in it. I am a really shy person as a whole, even with my friends, it is just who I am. That is a big weakness I really want to get rid off, but I cannot. I regret to this day for not asking my friend out whom I was sitting her for 4 years in high school(she was btw hated by males in or class, I was her only male friend there, that forced her not to even go to prom).

I say ask her about how she feels about you. I get that you are afraid of losing her/friendzoning, but you WILL NOT be able to function properly when you are close to her, because you will be constantly treated other way than wanted to be. If not, then idk... I prefer straightforward people, so go for it. Else stay friends with her(so you will have to force kill the feelings sadly) and I am 100 percent certain you will find someone right for you even if it doesnt work out. Good luck! And thanks for the train!

wow, lots of comments on this one...

There is good news. The good news is that you are in control of your own life. There is no "right way" to be human, to be happy, to be successful. But only you can be happy. You can't make other people happy (or unhappy). And other people can't make you happy or unhappy.

It IS good news, too. Why? Because that douche doesn't have control over your happiness. Neither does that girl that you like. It's up to you to decide how you want to act. AND how you want to feel. No, you can't change how you feel completely by just willing it. But you can make choices and do things that will affect how you do feel. And you can learn new behaviors and practice new ways of interacting with people if your current ways are not bringing you the feelings you want.

You can do it!

I can only tell you one thing, this girl likes you! We never ever ask a guy to come along with a lady friend and another guy if we not at least like you very much. Of course until we know for sure they like us too we will cover it in randomness. Maybe you can't imagine she likes you as it appears you do not have a lot of self esteem. Guess what, it's possible. She is just shy too. You of all people should understand that.
Go for it she likes you.

She obviously has no interest in the other guy or she wouldn't have walked home with you. She might have just been embarrassed for him or scared of him in his drunken state and didn't know how to react to the situation other than the way that she did. She must like you to have stayed with you throughout the night after all of that. Don't give up and talk to her about how you feel. It sounds as if her feelings may be mutual but you both are too shy or scared to say anything about it to each other. She might just be waiting for you to step up and start the conversation.

That's life. Full of shit, but also full of good things. Just let the shitty things go away, no matter how hard it is. If it helps, I'm exactly like you. Never wanted to draw attention by doing stuff everybody does. For a LONG time I was sure I would never have a girlfriend. People thought I was a strange guy, to say the least. And I'm shy as shit. BUT life goes on. Eventually I met a girl that, against all expectations, liked me. She's the exact opposite of what I am. We're married for 12 years now, and we have 4 kids (yes, I said FOUR kids).

Now, I can't tell you that your life will be like mine, nor can anyone here. But I can say life is a strange and funny thing.

Don't give up on the girl. Find the best moment and tell her how you feel. The worst that can happen is you'll find out she likes you as a friend, and life goes on, sad as it is. On the other hand, something VERY NICE can happen to you both. Who knows?

I'm a very quiet, shy (to put it lightly), and anxious person and I've dealt with things like this, along with my own negativity and other garbage, most of my life. It's probably why things turned out so bad for me.

I have no real advice, nor anything to say to cheer you up, but I wish you the best.

Focus on becoming the strongest version of yourself, both physically AND mentally, if you want to attract someone good into your life.
You dont need superstar good looks to be charismatic. There's many good looking people out there with the charisma of a rotten potato, and vice versa.

Weakness and weak emotions like jealousy are not attractive qualities, "Doing the right thing", constantly being concerned about other people, and being an overzealous white knight are not attractive qualities.... We're living in the 21st century, women don't need a protector, they're more than capable of taking care of themselves. If she asked for help or desperately needed it, that's when you step up, otherwise its a learning experience for her.

I think you did the right thing, The girl if she is uncomfortable should be the one to tell the guy. Maybe she did think that he was drunk so she just let it pass since they are friends. You walk her home and not him so dont be sad Cheer up! :)

I'm just wondering if there are any new developments. (Been away on vacation, or would have tried to follow up earlier.)

i remember a saying that goes, if u never tried, theanswer is always no.