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What a sad story. Really sorry for your loss. Bump for more awareness and lesser trolling online.

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I am really sorry to hear that, as a Muslim myself, her family is the reason of what happened. Islam is against these things too! I am truly sorry about what happened, i hope she is in a better place now. I hope she is heaven, i know committing suicide is against Islam but in her hard life condition no one can judge except god. If you ever need someone to talk to, i am here and i would be happy to listen.

Don't suicide, there's always a way. Just try to find it, we will help each other to find it. Stay strong buddy, i believe in you, i believe in your dreams just like she did. may she rest in peace.

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Is her Imgur account public?

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I'm sorry for your loss. It's such a shame that struggles, depression and suicidal thoughts are not taken seriously. The world needs start taking this more seriously. If it were a heart problem or something no one would say "oh you're just looking for attention" Depression is a diagnosable condition and needs to be taken more seriously. I hope one day you can fulfill your dream of becoming a game developer, and even create a game about her story to help her live on and to change the way people view depression.

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As a teen I read a book called Sold by Zana Muhsen. It's about two very young teenage girls whose mother was British and father Yemeni. One summer they went to Yemen with their father, officially to visit relatives, but it turned out their father sold them as wives for a couple of thousand pounds. This was a shocking memoir which made me realize how hard women can have it in the Muslim world. I hope your friend is in a better place now.

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This was a shocking memoir which made me realize how hard women can have it in the Muslim world.

Not just the Muslim world. "Human trafficking" happens even in "first-world" countries. There is no excuse for the mistreatment of people, yet it happens everywhere in every place.

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Well, it's not the selling part that I was referring to, because I know that it's an extreme case. But the age of consent in Islam is puberty, no? And when a 15-year-old (boy or girl) is married, that isn't considered unusual in many Muslim countries, right?

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  • In Islam, the age of consent is puberty unless otherwise restricted by local law.
  • In some places, it is not unusual for young men and women to marry (and have work, homes, and families) before they are fifteen. Whether or not the country is "Muslim" is irrelevant as this practice is not restricted to Muslims.
  • In Islam, no one can be married without his or her consent.
  • In Islam, a dowry for the bride is mandatory, but it can be pretty much anything to which she agrees.
  • In Islam, the marriage contract may not include anything forbidden in Islam or impossible to accomplish, but everything else is allowed.
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To that I would add that War is something that should be avoided as it is punishing to the entire population and environment of a place. One of the things I dislike most about "modern" warfare (i.e. press a button, people die) is that those causing the suffering are not forced to see the results of their actions with their own eyes.

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A lot of Islamic countries (if not most) have a minimum legal age for marriage, which is usually the age of majority (so 18-19 years). A tribal and conservative country like Yemen is by no means representative of how women live in the Islamic world.

In the more liberal Muslim-majority countries, a fair number of women live pretty much like their Western counterparts, save perhaps casual sex and alcohol, which are still taboo.

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Sorry for your loss.. But as people said previously, you shouldn't let the anger control you. Don't lose your hope! You seem like a nice and thoughtful person so stay strong!

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I'm very sorry for your loss, she sounded like a wonderful person. It's sad that things like that still happen in many places in this day and age. The internet can be very cruel, but please don't let the anger make you even more miserable I'm sure she wouldn't wish for that. I'm powerless to change anything but I can at least give you my best wishes so that your situation will become better and you will get the chance to fulfill your dream.

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i'm so sorry. i don't feel like saying much more that that. and that some of us are so lucky we don't even figure out how much. really sorry for her, for you and for your country people.

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I'm terribly sorry for you loss, pal.
I want to say that if you ever feel depressed or crushed by life and need someone to talk to just add me and I will do the best I can to listen to you and help if I could !
If I am unable to help or you just want to try to talk to a community I'd suggest trying out /r/SuicideWatch on reddit, people there are gathered to help other people through hardships and depression !

Once again I'm very sorry for your loss, but that musn't destroy you and ruin you and your dreams of becoming a game dev.
Try to become one not only for you, but also for your lost friend, try to tell her story through a game, even if it captures a small audience or doesn't you will have told or kept her memory.

Be strong my friend and keep carrying the good and humanity in you !

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That's another reason not to do it.
After you've seen that other people had it worse, doesn't that make you appreciate life more ?

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I'm afraid I can't express my feelings and thoughts in english very well, not when I'm so moved, sad and angry.

In my humble opinion, the best you can do is to be vocal, be loud, make the world aware because oh so many people forget that being a female is a frightening thing in many parts of the world. Tell her story (you described her as such a kind soul in so many replies here that I just have to think that she would want to help others in the same situation), so others don't have to suffer as well. Contact news agencies, organizations, reporters, blogs. And don't think about giving up. As pointless as it might seem, and as much as it hurts, by telling her story you could very well save the lifes of other women out there and help to finally change things in your culture. It needs people like you, in these countries, that want these changes to make them happen.

I'm really sorry for your loss and I'm sorry that your friend had to suffer so much. I hope you can pursue your dreams and for all the other girls and women out there, I hope that things will finally change... I'm so grateful that I live in a country where I'm not oppressed and I wish others could be just as free.

Try to turn your anger and grief into strengh. You are not alone. Not in your country, not in your wish to overcome stupid traditions. You are young, you have a kind heart, you could save others. It won't bring back your friend, but maybe it might help you to not feel like throwing away your own live.

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so sorry for the loss of your friend, I'm going to repeat some what my remarks I left to one of the GA's that KillerRabbit932 put up in honor of your friend but also directed to you ( you will excuse that I re-wrote some things, I myself have many stresses in life at the moment and wanted to just say something my somewhat older brain got fuzzy from it being late night.

this makes me sad when I hear stories like this and how some people are so detached that even a simple moment of understanding is beyond their grasp. unfortunately social media in many respects while it was not intended to be that way it's turned into just another mud pit of how low humanity can go at times. Then there are some who have a kind heart like you to your friend ^.^ /. I hope perhaps you can think about what she may want for you and change your thoughts from one day taking your own life to continuing adding to the pool of good hearts out there, maybe enough can float around and create the positive butterfly effect this world needs so much now. blessed be to you ~

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I'm so sorry this happened to your friend. You must feel awful. My condolences.

If any of you have similar feelings, please talk to someone about it. I've been there, I can tell you, you are not alone. There's always someone willing to listen.

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As a Muslim guy that suffers from almost the same kind of depression as her, believe it or not, there are people that step on your shoes whenever you want something good and decent, and when you want to complete something or make a way through life, there are people that will deliberately step on your shoes and try and throw you down and you wont even know why. People are selfish, inherently and coherently, so much so that they will eat the flesh of flesh to go where they think they are going, to be that successful person but they wont stop even for that one second to make sure you have that breath of air where you yourself can breathe and let go of the bullshit.

Thats the kind of household i lived in for 6 years straight with my mentally ill mother, I had 0 space, 0 energy, only suicide in my mind due to 0 help from my siblings and no one, not 1 person was there for me. The only thoughts i had were to kill someone or to kill myself.

Until through some miracle, my dad came to this country and saw the situation and helped me move out and now I am free as a bird, but I still feel the effects of being caged, just because of what happened to me for so long.

you dont know what kind of situations people legitly get into, in any country. I live in Canada and i can say that even in countries with so called "freedom" labels you can be put into the worst situations.

I know what its like, this girl probably had something similar and didnt or couldnt make it thru, this is the worse than what i went through. She shouldnt have done that, struggling through the entire thing even if there is a dot of hope is the point, because that dot of hope does turn into something much larger. For those going thru the same struggle, believe it or not, the entire point of it is to survive it, because it will never last forever, no matter if it takes 6 years or 10 years. There is an end to it.

May god ease her suffering in the hereafter.

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As a Muslim, I believe in the Day of Judgement and that there will be absolute justice on that Day.

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Words can't even begin to express... I am so sorry for your loss, and for her's. You were blessed to be a part of each other's lives. And still are.

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Good to know. :)

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That's terrible.
The social isolation and dismissal of mental health issues in your culture is obviously an extra level of difficulty to deal with - I find it hard enough just to imagine living in a war zone.
You are coping with extreme circumstances. Hang in there.

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So very sorry for your loss! Losing someone close is always so hard. Lost my fiance to a heart attack in 2007, so I know about the void you're about to experience; though yours is a bit more tragic. I hope she's now found peace and that you're able to keep pushing forward. You chose a great community to share your heartache with, as there are so many of us who are always here for support and to listen. If you ever need to vent please feel free to add me on steam. Hang in there and be well! <3

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sorry about your friend and yes imgur was not a good place to go about that kind of stuff. people like them tend to not be to well off themselves. people don't become that uncaring unless they are in an uncaring environment. i would tell them that what they did caused what she did but try not to go beyond that. you'll never find those people and its best you don't. try to get past them and focus on something else. try to take her memory and do something good with it. become a programmer and make her a game or a character in one.

just know you did what you could and you probably knew her better than anyone else. try not to let this destroy you as that would not make her happy. don't let the anger get the better of you. anger rarely leads to anything good but getting you into more problems.

take care and find people who are will be around you even when your going through a rough patch and stick with them. those kind of people are hard to find but will get you through life.

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You have my condolences. It's sad that she didn't get any positive feedback or sympathy when she shared her feelings on Imgur.

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Hope you are okay.

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Imma leave a comment so that I can say, "I'm not ignoring your current issues or pain."

I could type for days about this and just chase my tail. Some people are just hard-wired with suicidal thoughts/idealization, even with medicine and lots of therapy it can generally only get you so far. I assume your friend didn't have either of those resources available to her.

The biggest thing, on my darkest days, I have this motto I picked up from a cartoon called, "Meet the Robinsons". The phase is, "Keep moving forward!" Life is going to be tough, you're going to fail. I'm going to fail, we're going to lose the ones we love. We're going to have doors slammed in our faces... We have to keep moving forward...

Anyway, I come from experience about the suicidal thoughts/idealization/mental health issues, so if you want to talk to me you can. Personally I think now is the time to grieve. Good luck, keep moving forward.

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Im very sorry for your loss :( People can be very cruel...

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Thanks a lot for sharing, I'm not gonna put here some comment because I can feel and relate with many things and I'm just passing by to write you to stay strong, and all my condolences.. I can really understand, and writing something would be always too personal. Stay strong, you're a great person..

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I'm sorry for your loss, and for the helplessness your friend found herself into.

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