Fuck you, anti-vaxxers. And fuck you, dear government that de-facto does everything possible to persuade people not to trust Russian vaccines (it looks like Sputnik is an actually effective one, but of course, the official position is that it has no side effects whatsoever, and it leads to speculations; anyone who dares to speak publicly about, say, thrombosis can be legally persecuted for spreading misinformation about covid; needless to say, all this leads to lack of trust and insanely low tempo of vaccination). Basically, fuck everyone who contributes to missing group immunity here in Russia.

Some of you probably remember the moronically happy thread I created just two weeks ago. My father's assumed stroke turned out to be a harmless transient ischemic attack. Well, we are burying him tomorrow. During his five days in the first hospital he managed to catch covid. First symptoms appeared the day after his discharge, and the next day he was in a hospital again. Early in the morning on the 16th of July we received that awful call. He turned 66 five days before that.

I'm kinda anesthetized for now. I'm perfectly calm (except for that anger) and spend most of my time comforting my mother. Basically, I'm in denial so far. I guess, tomorrow I'll start feeling (or maybe not).

Actually, what I'm trying to say is this: take care of your parents and grandparents. Get vaccinated yourself and get them vaccinated (that is, unless they have some contraindications like my dad had, of course). Love them while it's possible, it can all end really abruptly.

Edit: sorry for not answering anyone personally, I read everything and appreciate all you comments, just don't have energy to answer you guys properly. Thank you all for your kind words!

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My condoléances 🙏😔
This covid has made people sick (and dying) and someothers stupid🤔
The vaccination IS a matter of taking care of people WE love.

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Мы очень сожалеем о вашей утрате.。゚( ゚´Θ`゚ )゚。

Unfortunately, they(grandparents) were already wiped out at the end of last year.😞
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After this, I had a car accident and my back is crippled every day for exactly six months.┐(´Θ`)┌Oh... human!

Perhaps you and I will be assassinated by humanity if we touch the darkness of the corona.
I would like to think that this is indeed a "conspiracy theory" or "delusion".

I'll write this down just in case....
It seems that some people are ignorant of vaccines.
Once you take the vaccine, it's permanent!
There is no such thing.
Take the flu vaccine for example.
It remains effective for about one or two years.
It will alleviate the symptoms of the infection.
However, it is not effective in preventing the spread of infection.
Also, you need to be vaccinated over time.
There are different types of influenza that are prevalent at different times of the year.
The vaccine that was appropriate for that time of year was taken each time.
The same would be true for corona.
Perhaps next year a different vaccine will be available and the vaccination will need to be repeated.
Countries that have the production technology will continue to make it at a low cost.
Countries that don't have the production technology will buy the vaccine from the producing countries at first.
The discussion will gradually turn to cost effectiveness.
There may also be political reasons.
If the vaccine is not more than 80% effective, it will be a ticking time bomb that will spread asymptomatic infections.
If coronas settle on the human side instead of influenza, the landscape of travel will become a historical legacy in the data library, and people will have to live through an era without travel.
What you don't need to read above this line.

When I lost a family member to corona, I thought a lot about it.
However, there was no vaccine at that time, so I had no choice.
I hope that by the end of next year, if possible, we will all be wearing masks and there will be no corona.
In any case, we need time to calm down. 🍵☕

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I am sorry for your loss :'(

There are too many irresponsible people around making things even worse...

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Condolences, I am close to you and I agree on everything you have written, disinformation and speculation are the new weapon of the powerful of our era. Damn bastards. I'm so sorry for your loss: '(

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My condolences for you and your family. I was worried about my parents (79 & 69 y/o) but I'm very caution about going out and working. So far they are fine and recently got vaccinated (2nd dosis 1 week ago). I'm still on risk due to asthma though.

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Sorry for you loss :(

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My condolences. Sadly in Russia nearly 50-70% of population don't give a fuck about COVID since majority of them:

1) Haven't seen any COVID with their own eyes and they do not believe in its existence
2) Don't have any russian proofs that vaccines really work and don't want to be vaccinated at all
3) Don't trust the government that russian vaccines work and will wait for western vaccines to be delivered at -40C in russian cities

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Yikes! I send my thoughts and prayers for both your father and your family in this tough time. Saying it's unfortunate for this to happen would be an incredible understatement. My family is fully vaccinated, but a coworker of my mom's tested positive, so she and my sister who goes to work with her are getting tested this morning just in case.

Along with being religious, I also like data. If it's any consolation, the average life expectancy in Russia for males (latest stat from the WHO in 2018) is 66.4 years, so he at least made it close to that. https://www.worldlifeexpectancy.com/russia-life-expectancy#:~:text=According%20to%20the%20latest%20WHO%20data%20published%20in,Russia%20a%20World%20Life%20Expectancy%20ranking%20of%20105.

Please don't take the the preceding paragraph as callous as I cannot imagine what you are going through. As much as I dread my mom's death, the only family member I have ever had die was my great-grandma when I was about 7 or 8. Death is both natural and tragic, and the scars it leaves may fade but will always be there.

Hang in there, and continue to be a source of strength for your mother. I know you will need each other's support, and you have the support of this awesome community in such a tough time.

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Sorry for your loss.

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соболезную. держись! антиваксеры действительно бесят. мой папаша из их числа.
по своему опыт скажу - если меня спросят - еще раз 2 недели ковида или прививку. я сделаю очевидный выбор.

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May you have the requisite strength, health, courage and stability in the times to come.

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I am sorry for your loss.
This is my sentiment for the whole situation, except for the Russian vaccine. I have no knowledge of it, so I make it a habit to not express opinions for things I don't know.

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This is truly awful brother. I know that feeling of losing someone close, and I also know that nothing said or done will come close to rid you of the feel. I truly mirror your sentiment and can only hope that you get okay soon <3

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That stinks... I always live with that mindset, that anyday things can completly flip so quickly that it all doesn't seem real to grasp at first.

I lost my grandfather in february, he would turn 88 yesterday if he was still around. We had to let him go because covid was peaking here where i live around that time, he was put on life support but the hospital stated that he would have to pass on from this life if they had need of using the machines on someone younger. They literally warned us to be ready for that occasion and it happened from one day to the next, old man died alone in the hospital, covid procedures did not allow people to meet others within the hospital, so yeah... kinda sad that someone spends their last few hours alone in the hospital with nobody nearby to speak with.

One thing i can suggest you, that might help in the end, is to adopt a pet to keep your mom busy and focused, you could do the same for you, another thing is to move your mother into the same house as you, if possible. It helps to have people nearby, having pets in most cases also helps, specially for retired people or near-retirement, they will never be alone as long as they have a companion by their side.

When my grandfather died, i adopted two puppies from the same litter with my older brother (first pup was my brother, then i got the second pup), they were born in december 25th 2020, they got adopted 2 months later. Litter had like 9 puppies from what i remember, we got one puppy adopted then decided to get a second one to keep company of the first one we adopted. I've had another dog prior to them and one thing i know is that dogs do not enjoy being alone for too long, so having two brothers from the same litter seemed like a good idea. The second puppy we adopted used the old sofa my grandfather used to watch TV twice a day, he used it to sleep, while the first puppy that got adopted enjoys sleeping with my father or next to him on the floor. Both puppies play along fine with each other and both are extremelly different in terms of personality. First adoption is a calm puppy that enjoys his time sleeping and being indoors as much as possible. The other one is a terrorist, and a clever one at that. He literally gets things destroyed and does impressive things like open doors/gates (we have attempted to use many different ways to lock doors/gates and he manages to figure out how to open them), this puppy is also vocal, he "speaks alot" so to say, and when he speaks, you can easily identify what he is up to. On top of that, he is funny as hell, very active dog and constantly doing funny things. He provides a good laugh multiple times a day, i think that is essential. This pup was already "handpicked" by a couple, but they decided to let it go once they understood that he would go live with another brother in the same house. I literally wanted him because he had a funny face in the picture, he was smiling but was also distracted looking at something outside of the frame, probably a toy or something. Main reason why i picked him was because of how he was in the photo, he seemed like a funny dog and i was spot on. The other one was a more calm and gentle soul and also slightly bigger, so to say.

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I'm truly sorry for your loss.

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Sorry for your loss. You take care of yourself.

Lost my dad in January, he was just a few months away from retirement. While he didn't have covid; the hospitals being a breaking point certainly played a huge part his death. Would give so much for him to have enjoyed at least a month of his great campervan retirement plan or at least a chance to say goodbye. A lot of people; corrupt politicians, idiots with a twitter account and people who won't even wear a mask; they have a lot to answer for. To anyone not taking this seriously, hope they realise blood is on their hands before they kill anyone else.

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You have my utmost condolences, especially as someone who has had to bury his own father. Nobody who has not experienced this can possibly know what you are going through, but if you need to talk to someone who does then you may send me an FR on steam.

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Man, I'm so sorry to read that. Especially after you had this scare and he had recovered. This is so fucked up.
I feel your pain. Things happened very much like that with my dad. He was sick and then it took a very bad turn and he looked completely recovered, and then he was just gone. That was a while ago though and it was not Covid related so I understand your anger.

It's good you take care of your mother. I'm sure she needs the support and that keeps you busy.
Just remember you can't take care of others if you don't take care of yourself.
Take your time to feel what you need to feel. Let it all out. If you can't let it out in front of others, find an empty parking lot and let it rip.

Anger and denial will pass. Keep your chin up.

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I am so sorry for your loss. It sucks losing a parent. My step dad passed away a couple weeks ago and my mom is a mess. His last request was to be cremated, but it looks like we're having to wait a couple more weeks because everything is so backed up due to the Delta variant that has been spreading like wildfire.

While he didn't pass away from COVID, but rather complications from pneumonia due to advanced emphysema, he was the primary reason my entire family worked to become fully vaccinated as soon as it became available to certain sectors of the pubic, as well as age groups, and why we still wear masks in public. You just never know who has it and who may be extremely susceptible to the virus... whether they're vaccinated or not. The world could've gotten through this with less people dying if the human race simply worked together, but politics, profiteering and misinformation is why nobody trusts anybody about anything anymore. It's stupid, unnecessary and toxic, and we all need to grow the f*ck up before we kill each over over stupid shit. So I do not blame you for being angry one iota.

Take good care of yourself and your mom. My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.

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Covid no exist at about a year . But many people still wearing masks . Poor .

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Haven't seen you posting, so I wanted to check back in to see how you're coping. Hope you're feeling better.

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I guess, I'm more or less ok (well, as ok as a person who's just buried her father can be). At least the numbness has passed, and while feeling is hard, it is also necessary.

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Sorry to hear about your father. Hospitals tend to be dangerous, because they're full of sick people. My grandmother died of pneumonia she caught in a hospital. (That happened many years ago.)

I also know someone whose mother died recently from COVID. She didn't want to get vaccinated, got infected and died 3 days after the symptoms appeared.

I really feel for you. It's incredibly shocking to be worried that someone might die, then learn that they might live, then have them die anyway.

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That... is one heck of a one-two punch. :/
Take the time you need, because right now your heart is in stasis. That numbness is a normal thing, and often a coping mechanism of sorts.

Just... ugh. Look after yourself. Keep being there for your mom, but remember to be kind to yourself too. :/

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I'm very sorry for your loss, my condolances. Take care of your mom, but also take good care of yourself.

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