I agree with your edit. You should follow what your hearts say BUT even if something like that arise you ownes it to the person you "loved" for over a year to come clear in person and not in email. Breaking up via email, moved in with the new lover and didn't even tell you before hand is not in the category "poor girl". You love(d) her and that is nice but it is only right to badmouth such a behaviour!
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Sorry to hear that. Always bad when something like that happens. It will take time but you will get over her. I been there :-/.
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If you don't want me to speak bad of she, than I have nothing to say.
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If it's difficult to meet someone you think it's the one, losing her is extremely hard.
Hope you find another special one soon, but I hope I achieve that sooner :P
Let's say me today, you tomorrow :D
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Chin up, bro. As she found one who make her happy, so do you someday. You will find the One. Dont give up.
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I'm always sorry to read those kind of stories but to be honest I met loads of people who had a similar story to tell (except maybe the cheating). I guess a lot changes when you're suddenly out of sight. She might have felt free all of a sudden and "just wanted to have fun" once she was abroad. It is not uncommon to loose ones bias and forget where one's coming from when there's no regular "reminder" or "control". Don't know if anything I typed makes sense. Hope you get over her quickly.
Cheer up mate! and maybe get a dog
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Well, you had wonderful relationship with this great girl (come on, we all do mistakes and act like douchebags sometimes. Especially when it comes to relationships - not a lot of people could manage break ups well) for as long as 1.5 years! Yes, it didn't end well, but you at least had it - not all of us can say the same
TL;DR A hug?
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If she cheated on you, then she was never The One in the first place the break up would have ended at some point with much more pain. Cheer up and with in time, the pain will go away. Also, try to keep yourself occupied. If you can't sleep, walk around in the night. Remove anything that reminds you of her and most importantly, don't talk to her until you feel that you completely moved on.
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The sad, raw true is that we people are really adaptive. You'll find someone else and you will get used to spend time with another girl and will eventually fall for her and so will she; so cheers and keep looking :)
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I'm not good at this stuff, but if I could, I'd buy you a pizza =)
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Don't worry man you'll find the one
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so...frog wants to write something...frog knows, that love could hurt.
Once upon a time, a young frog, in a different century saw a young attractive woman in early summer in his favorite cafe.
She was from a foreign country to study here, we had good talks, we spent more and more time together from day to day, and as time goes by...we had a relationship with all things you do in a relationship.
And then came christmas time,...she wanted to go home to her family ,..but there was someting more...i felt she is not telling the full story....
, she told me she has allready a friend for a long time, does not want to lose him, cause she is only studying here and she is not sure if she well stay or go back......so we broke up.
In this story the woman decided for the old friend, at least i decided not be just a compensation.
This is a different story, just showing that things arent black or white, sometime many grays are involved. She was lonely in a foreign country and repressed the fact the already has a friend and she never lied about this...she just did not mention him and i never asked....i had no reason to ask.
of course if you love someone, and she was really a special woman, and suddenly it disapers like a soapbubble...it hurts....it really hurts.....but i don´t regret it, cause today am married and happy and can look back and say it was good time....and when the Oxytocin-level goes down...life goes on
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I'm not going to advise you or anything with my subjective opinion on if she was worth it or not(after all when you're in love it's kind of out of your control how you feel for her,at least partially)
but what I believe is the most "objective" that I can say is,time heals everything,cheer up :D
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So, how do I start?
I had a girl. Last autumn she moved to another country to study (doesn't really matter what). We started to communicate less and less, she was telling it's due to the classes and also due to the fact she's in a new place and everything looks so interesting, she'd rather spend time exploring the city.
Long story short - a couple a months ago she wrote it's not really working out (and that she's changed a lot in last months and so on) and we should break up. I suggested her to discuss it in skype, but she refused and said it'll only hurt us more (Who the hell breaks up via emails? Well, at least it's not a sms or a tweet). I thought, fine, let's wait for my vacation, I'd visit her and we could at least discuss it face to face.
So for the time being I decided to step onto the slippery "just friends" road, not to lose her completely.
Some days ago I asked her when it's better to visit her. And today she replied that I better do not, and that the real reason for the break up was that she actually has a boyfriend for quite some time already and that they're even living together (knowing her, it'd take at least several months to get to that state).
So what do we have in the end? I was dumped via an email, probably cheated on. I've known her for 5 years and we've been together for 2 years (if to count till the breaup date. Or 1,5 years if to count till the moment she moved for studying.) And I couldn't live without her, thought she was the one. Wanted to marry her one day, have children. Oh well.
So I thought maybe making some people happy with free games (all from my whishlist) could make me feel a tiny bit better? Probably not.
TL;DR
Shut up already, whine girl, and post that link. Here you go. Enjoy it.
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Wow, there's way more replies than I expected :) Thank you for all your supportive words. I know life goes on and everything will be better someday. But I just don't see it that way right now :)
Also, please, restrain yourself from writing bad about her. After all I loved her, and hearing this for some hurts me. Besides who knows maybe I was a real jerk and that was her real chance to finally ran away from me :D And I'm just here badmouthing the poor girl. There are things I did wrong, there are things she did wrong. So let's just leave it out.
She did what she did, I don't want to judge her. If she thinks it's the right choice, if that's what her heart is telling her, there's nothing I can really do. At least she says she's really happy with him. Maybe he can give her what I couldn't.
I just thought that after all those years, after everything that was between us she'd have some respect for my feelings and the courage to say the truth, not that "it's not about you" bullcrap.
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