I have been playing games for far more years than not (27 years of them in fact). It is the normal thing for me to do as hobby.
We are not all that rare; we just tend to not reference our gender. I never use voice chat as I have enough things to contend with in my day and I do not wish to add internet degenerates to my list.
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wat
I'm missing a damn good story here, aren't I?
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I was away from the site for months. I missed a lot of really neat stuff. :(
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Then my excuse is that I try not to visit the forums much any more because of the constant shitposting like this and how we have to put up with it.
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Oh, I think I know what ya talking about, Or not? It was that guy who was recruiting for a group?
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This post gave me cancer... There are few girls in gaming community, and from those are really really few hardcore ones, and from those the chances of they living near of your home town its pretty low. Oh yeah the female gamers are kind goddess to male gamers since they are so few,so they end up getting many gifts and attentions from male gamers. And also many of they are under 18 years old...
So whats the point of getting a female gamer girlfriend? Getting a relationship by distance with someone that everyone try to hit on her, just to have someone to play games where you have to babysitter her in game and dying of boredom because of that, and after a 1 or 2 years both get a conclusion that cant be together because the financial and distance issues? xD or you even can be dumped because you were playing different games and she felt neglected and got attention to someone else xD
Ok i might did exaggerate a bit but, seriously enjoy your gaming in peace, at least you wont have no one bugging by tons of chat pop ups by someone asking attention and complaining that she feels the games are more important than her, or being attacked by jealousy from her when she saw you playing with other girls. xD You will have more benefits if you get a non gamer girlfriend believe me ;)
EDIT: THIS POST ITS AN SATIRE!!
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Literally everything about your post is wrong, sexist and makes me want to slap you.
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"This post gave me cancer... There are few girls in gaming community, and from those are really really few hardcore ones, and from those the chances of they living near of your home town its pretty low. Oh yeah the female gamers are kind goddess to male gamers since they are so few,so they end up getting many gifts and attentions from male gamers. And also many of they are under 18 years old... So whats the point of getting a female gamer girlfriend? Getting a relationship by distance with someone that everyone try to hit on her, just to have someone to play games where you have to babysitter her in game and dying of boredom because of that, and after a 1 or 2 years both get a conclusion that cant be together because the financial and distance issues? xD or you even can be dumped because you were playing different games and she felt neglected and got attention to someone else xD
Ok i might did exaggerate a bit but, seriously enjoy your gaming in peace, at least you wont have no one bugging by tons of chat pop ups by someone asking attention and complaining that she feels the games are more important than her, or being attacked by jealousy from her when she saw you playing with other girls. xD You will have more benefits if you get a non gamer girlfriend believe me ;)"
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Wow... You're an idiot. My boy friend and I love gaming with each other and he always asks me to get certain games so we can play together. Just because someone's a females doesn't make them crap at gaming. And if the girl will dump you because you were playing a different game then obviously the girl was not a good person in the first place.
Learn to differentiate between the loud minority of attention seekers and the actual population. After all, would you like it if everyone said that you were all just like a troll on COD or something similar? No.
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First of all, respect ok? did i offended you to make me call idiot? I was clear when i said was rare find cool girl gamers, they are the minority so can you quote when i said "all girls"?
I wasnt dumped i just did exaggerated a bit in situations based what i did saw from my friends lists and others gammings communitys that i was inside in past, so in case of doubts ask me before judge me. Or you think i got this opinion from nothing? Im not sexist, i wish girls wouldnt brag or seek attentions because their genders, i wish that males wouldnt get crazy near of a gamer girls, i wish both would be threated equally, and would be better if would be more female gamers playing... well i found great female gamers but as i said they are very minority, period.
Loud minority attention seekers? lol give me a break, its more easier see female gamers profiles saying "im a girl gamer" than saying simply "Im gamer"... and i never saw someone saying "im a male gamer" gender dont makes you special though.
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'did i offended you'
Do you seriously have to ask? Did you even read the first message you typed?
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Yes i was serious, i was clearly when i said i did exaggerated, was a sorta of parody of situations i did observe during my gaming sessions, i guess you couldn't target that... I never ever did have intention to be sexist, i defend equal rights between sex's so...
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Just because you add the line 'Ok i might did exaggerate a bit' doesn't make it any less offensive. It's like saying 'You are fucking retarded, no offense' and expect the other person no to be offended because you said no offense...
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As i said was the result of my observations during my gaming sessions, if some male gamers wouldnt run after female gamers like horny dogs, and if some female gamers wouldnt take advantage to get free games and attention from those, i wouldnt even do such appreciation. did you noticed i said "some"? I didnt have purpose to offend anyone, perhaps did offended the one that did identified with my parody who knows...
Or perhaps i did found the wrong gamers during my multiplayer sessions... I cant know everyone right?
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just to have someone to play games where you have to babysitter her in game and dying of boredom because of that
Yeah, it's not offensive to say that every girl/woman who plays games needs a babysitter, implying that they don't know how to play. Nope.
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The majority of female gamers are casual gamer thats a fact (source: " Casual gamers are typically older than traditional computer gamers, and more often female,with over 74 per cent of casual gamers being female." http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Casual_game), the most (pay attention i didnt said all) get into gaming because their brothers and boyfriends.
So yeah. Anyway i dont have anything agaisnt them, and i know some good hardcore female girls that have more skills than me and think its very amusing play agaisnt or with them, i dont mind. Anyway once i get piss off when im playing co op and a boyfriend put the risk of team work to save his noob gf, specially in left4dead... but yeah its my personal experience. I still not find anything offensive. im being unfairly judge.
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The majority of male gamers are also casuals. Being a casual gamer does not equal being a retard who can't play a game unless he/she has someone babysitting them.
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being casual has less skills than hardcore players in mainstream games, everyone can play any game, the difference its how they play. but i didn't call noobs retarded.
I dont mind play with noobs or hardcore ones, since the teamwork isnt forgotte, but the tendency its when the boyfriend try to bring their girlfriend into their favorite games, and instead play thinking about overall team work, they risk the success of team to save their gf ass. Its that hard to understand?
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This thread was never about guys trying to get their gfs into gaming, it was about gaming girls/women, so obviously that's not what you meant when you said they needed babysitting, you were generalizing, and that's what's offensive. Just because you don't see the sexism or stupidity in your original comment doesn't mean it's not there.
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Tips about getting a gamer gf, how does that have any relation to guys getting their girlfriends into gaming? I couldn't care less about feminism, this is about you not realizing how retarded your post was, and about you being so stubborn to notice the offensive nature of it.
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It's not about your personal experience, it's about your implications. You implied that all women who happen to like playing video games are attention seeking gold diggers and that women have no aptitude for video games. You also implied that women are inferior and have no needs and emotions, for you they are toys that can be turned on and off whenever you feel like it, and they have no right to complain.
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"You implied that all women who happen to like playing video games are attention seeking gold diggers"
Can you quote when i said "all women"?
Some female gamers are attention seekers and gold seekers and some arent.
I usually spot a female gamer thats seeks for attention when they post on profile "im a girl gamer" instead saying "im a gamer".
Of course some guys wanna get fake female accounts to get free games which might help make women with bad reputation in gaming. (oh yeah now im going to be accused of being sexist agaisnt males now, or being accused that implying that all guys are like that).
"You also implied that women are inferior and have no needs and emotions"
The majority of girls are casual gamers, but that doesnt makes them inferior we are all humans so... Just quote me about where i said they dont have needs or emotions?
"you they are toys that can be turned on and off whenever you feel like it, and they have no right to complain."
Nope women arent toys for me, i respect them, i dont mind they complain if they have reasons to do it, i like to have the right to complain as well. equality ;)
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Implications cannot be quoted.
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Surely you jest! Satire ridicules vices and shortcomings of something or other. Did you mean itony?
You didn't point any. You just stated that women who don't play video games give more benefits. Which is dehumanizing and degrading.
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I thought they were horned, short-necked giraffes.
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I swore they were ants with less legs, different shaped bodies, and big ole horns sticking out of their heads.
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You're out of your mind. Everybody knows that ants are mythical creatures. They don't exist.
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I rather have a gamer as my bf than a non-gamer. Why? I can talk about how awesome borderlands 2 is or kick some ass in CoD with him. Non-gamers aren't really interested in it and honestly. Football doesn't really say anything to my. I don't mind non-gamers but i prefer gamers. Mostly because i can share my interest with them
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As a 23-year-old woman who plays a lot of games, I'd say try treating us like normal people who have a hobby that happens to be gaming. I don't consider myself to be a "girl gamer" (except as a joke sometimes, example: the "girl gamers" group I'm in on Steam/reddit). I consider myself to be a lady who likes games. I also like knitting, reading, hanging out with my cat, cooking, gardening, football, etc. Gaming is not something I choose to be defined by, and no one who makes that a "requirement" to date me will be compatible with me.
Oh, and I really don't care if my boyfriend is a gamer or not; I'd prefer to have some separate interests. We don't need to have every little thing in common. I'd prefer someone with a good personality over someone who just so happens to be a gamer.
TL;DR: Women are people too. Treat them like it instead of doing that weird pedestal thing guys tend to do.
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Were you also trained in fencing and toxophily as all proper ladies should?
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dude why bother. I know girls who aren't gamers. They're perfectly willing to tolerate your gaming as long as you treat them decently. Don't let gaming define you or your relationship. You can be a gamer AND have a relationship. They don't have to be the same thing.
Also don't underestimate how many girls would try gaming if they liked you. Girls have always been fans of adventure games and there's more of them than ever. Get your non-gaming girl into Walking Dead or Little Big Planet or Bastion or Pinball my ex used to destroy me in Metroid Prime Pinball #notsohumblebrag and she wasn't into gaming that hard before me.. though she did beat Max Payne before I knew her. Portal has that Universal appeal. My sister really wants to play Limbo (for some reason it won't run on her laptop). It's not that hard to take a "normal" girl and turn her into a gamer girl.
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I'd rather date a guy who games, but I don't think I'd turn down a guy who doesn't.
My boyfriend is a gamer and it's always fun playing games with him and I hate the guys who think that you'd have to babysit your girl while playing because she's bad at video games. -_-
Try looking on video game forums and don't add a girl just because she is a girl. Talk to her because you actually have interests.
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France to UK is simple. There's even trains going between them. You can manage that one easily, in the grand scheme of LDRs.
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I dunno. It takes a certain kind of people to be able to work a Long Distant Relationship. It takes way better communication, patience and trust. Especially if the time between visits is longer, or the first visit is a ways off. Sadly, no matter how true a person can try to be, or how well a couple works, the sad fact is that "the heart asks pleasure first". Words can grow cold, the sparks can die easily, and their online presence can become painful, as time trickles on.
That said, my closest friend managed to 'survive' a LDR for some long painful years and is now happily married (and immigrated). People like those (and like you) really deserve all the happiness you get, just for having stayed strong throughout the ordeal. The krypton factor seems easy in comparison!
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Oh, gosh. I am actually lying about where I am from on my Steam profile, haha. I'm from the United States (Georgia) and my boyfriend from England. He moved to New Jersey to be closer to me and we've been together for over a year. We've seen each other 3 times and we hope on moving in together next year or so. :~)
LDR's are hard as heck though.
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Your chances of learning that the cake was not a lie after all are higher than those of finding a gamer girl who is also hot and interested on you! Why would you need a girl anyway? Gay is the way of the pro.
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Yes we're a real thing. Gamer guys suit me. My boyfriend is a gamer and we game a lot together. :) Also I don't recommend being the weird creeper on xbox. Those don't tend to work out. Try making friends with the girls and then hooking up or preferably hang with them in person. And I have no idea how many are FBI agents and you shouldn't be doing anything so creepy to even worry about that. I'd worry more about how many are old men with feminine voices.
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I feel like you're doing yourself a disservice. Don't try to find a girl gamer... just go out and meet some fucking girls. Any girls you can! If you hit it off with one and she happens to like being Player 2, it's really just a plus. Remember, the best part of 'girl gamer' is 'girl', not 'gamer'.
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why are you concerned with gender so much? There is no gender on internet only meh... The "gamer girls" (lol) who specify that they are females ALL THE DAMN TIME, can go die cause thats seriously annoying. Nobody cares what gender you are, it should matter your personality and how you act that determines whether people find you important or not.
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Here's something I find weird about your edit: "By girl gamer i am referring to a girl who play all types and genres of games and enjoy them" - would this be your criteria for gamer dudes as well? So guys who only play, say, shooters, aren't real gamers? Or is this only the case for girls? I'm not trying to be too confrontational here, just to clear this up, but I do suspect that you wouldn't hold this standard for dudes.
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I'm not the OP, but my definition of "gamer" is someone who plays a wide range of games. I don't count someone who only plays FIFA or Minecraft as a gamer, and more than I count myself as a film buff (the highlight of my movie watching year is watching the latest installment of The Fast and The Furious).
I don't think it's unfair to add a qualifier - yes, almost everyone plays games to some extent these days but I bet most of those semi-casual Minecraft players would get annoyed if you had to alarm clock an op in EVE Online, or cancel a date for a clan match in your favorite FPS.
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Although I don't really agree with what you're saying, I can see how it makes sense, and as long as it's applied equally to all genders, I don't have a problem with that. I personally think that if those Minecraft players feel like gaming is a part of who they are, then I have no problem with them labeling themselves gamers.
I just still have this niggling suspicion that a lot of people expect girl gamers to somehow "prove" themselves more than they do guy gamers.
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The distinction is applied equally across all genders, but people scrutinise it more when they're examining gaming habits due to looking for common interests is all.
I also get that same feeling about having to prove yourself, though that may just be because people seem to enjoy hanging out with folks who can play on each other's level.
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I consider a gamer anyone who games.What were you referring to in your last paragraph is a hardcore gamer in my opinion.This comes from someone that used to raid 6 days a week for almost three years,and then switched to doing semi professional arenas for other two years.And I must say, finding someone that understood you had to be on your pc doing arenas for 6-8 hours a day before a championship is hard.It really is.
Due to work and other stuff lately I enjoy a lot of casual games, especially indie games or platformers.But still I consider myself a gamer,even tough I don't game for 8 hours straight anymore,so while I do understand your point, I can't quite agree on that.
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I think you're turning a very simple thing into something rather overcomplicated.
When determining if somebody is a good match, people generally look for common interests. It's rare that not sharing specific interests is an automatic relationship killer, it just means that you won't likely be sharing certain activities. For instance, if you were interested in a woman who just happened to be into skydiving, but were terrified of heights and refused to join her in that particular activity, it wouldn't mean a relationship is impossible, it just means you have different interests (when it comes to outings, at least).
See, that's the thing about people. We vary a lot. In relationships, gamers typically enjoy the company of other gamers for the same reason athletic people enjoy being with a partner who also enjoys similar sports. Common interest. The more common interests you have, the more you can share your recreational passions, and the more sympathetic your partner is likely to be if your shared hobby caused you to be late for something, or if you wanted to spend money on it. I was once with someone who was big into history and loved Ren Faire stuff, and while we never got around to visiting one in the period we were together, it was a total non-issue. That flavour of conversation would crop up occasionally, and all it really meant was that I wasn't too knowledgeable on it. No big negative. Same goes for gaming. Provided you don't have a one-track mind or drone on about what your partner isn't interested in (and don't keep badgering them to try it, if they've already tried and found it isn't their thing), then it's pretty much a non-issue. Relationships are complex beasts that can't survive on single factors alone, and always need good communication and honesty above all else. Remember that they are 'girls' first, and 'gamers' second. Careful not to fall into the trap of seeing them as a token archetype of sorts.
Just as opposites attract, similarities can cement. Though if you only share a single common interest like gaming, and seem otherwise incompatible or of clashing personality types? That's where your problem is. Hell, sometimes shared interest can have an opposite, repulsing effect. Two music snobs can find their subject of passion is something they can't share easily given strong opinions and opposing tastes.
So I guess what I'm trying to say is : Romance is rarely black and white.
Shared interests often make it more fun, and gives people a perfect excuse to spend time together and a perfect opening to getting to know one another. Unfortunately, relationships live and die on far more than just what you both like. Friends? Friends thrive way more on the shared interests thing. As you get older and gain more experience, you'll find most of this out the hard way. The good and the bad, through the sweetest moments and the worst of the burns and heartbreak. This stuff is a bit too deep to really be coached through a forum post though. So I guess, good luck out there, haha~
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"Romance is rarely black and white."
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I half-agree with what you say. I would like to add though that gaming is a bit of a different situation than a lot of hobbies. Skydiving you only go once in a while; movies, maybe the heavy enthusiast will watch one every day taking up maybe 2-3 h; Ren Faires only happen once in a while.. etc.
But gaming is part of every day and takes up so much time. To a non-gamer it's baffling how a person can sit in one place in front of one thing and give it all their attention for SO long... every day. Gaming is also a social thing. It can feel a bit off to see your significant other on the computer laughing and having a great time with their online buddies while you're not a part of it at all... every day. I've never had a boy friend who wasn't a gamer but I know girls who aren't gamers express a lot of frustration over things like this. (Eg. a girl at work got very mad at her boy friend because he couldn't abandon his League of Legends game when she came over. But to a gamer it's obvious that you can't just leave a match.)
But if you're both gamers, you fully understand what that's all about. You can join in; spend the time together. Yes, there's people out there who CAN understand gaming without being a gamer but a lot of people don't. So, personally, I don't find it that weird to want gaming as a common interest in a relationship especially if gaming is a huge thing to you. In comparison to other hobbies it just takes up so much more time if you're "hardcore" about it.
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Hmm, you do have a point about the scale of time usually involved. That flows into a more specific question of the type of games a person plays. My last two girlfriends each had a favoured MMO, which soaked a fair amount of their time, and that I didn't care much for or wasn't too keen on trying out. Similarly, I played a different MMOG that they didn't. The trick here is that when you're in a relationship, you realise that your spare time now also has to factor in your loved one. It's great to be able to play your favourite games and have your significant other huddle up next to you to join in, or just to kick back and watch without being bored, but there are always going to be things that one likes and that another doesn't. Video-gaming isn't an exception to this, and I think it only really becomes an issue in non-gamers because they would see it eating so much of your potential together-time if you get neglectful.
I see your point though, in how gamers would find it far easier to mesh their interests and free time, and failing any strong overlaps in gaming interest, they are more likely to understanding the timing involved with the old "game you can't pause", or if one of you wants to reserve some time in the week for a gaming session.
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For the relationship part, it's something you sort of have to reflect on yourself. Everyone has different references, I know many guys that game constantly but date girls that don't even know what a "steam" is. Some other girls I know, they date guys that don't game as much. Personally, I ONLY date guys if they're a hardcore gamer due to common interests and the fact that we can game together or talk about games. It's just all based on personal references. Some girls like guys that game alot, some girls only date guys that game constantly.
As for finding one, just get yourself out there in the community! Although, a decent skilled one might be a bit harder to find. Not in all cases though.
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The significant other must play GAMESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
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Ok so after everyone insight here i decided to edit my post. My question then is how prevalent are girl gamers. By girl gamer i am referring to a girl who play all types and genres of games and enjoy them. And would it be something you look for in a guy. Would it be an important part of your relationship or would it make no difference if he almost never plays a game. Also why is the rum always gone?
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