Strategy game you recomend;;

Only strategy games I would ever recommend are Starcraft and Starcraft 2.

Well, i've played most RTS out there and in my opinion once you get hang of Paradox Interactive games there's no other. I personally find Europa Universalis IV to be most fun and noob friendly although there's still a steep learning curve. The simple scale of this game and literally infinite replayability makes it by far number one on my list. No other game has made me completely forget to go to sleep. xD If you decide to give it a try, i'll be more than happy to play with you! :D

supreme commander 1 and 2 :3

Dune 2000 <3
:)

Battle for Middle-Earth 1 & 2. :X
If you can find it now. I still have it & the sequel on disc. XD

Nobunaga's Ambition Sphere of Influence
Distant Worlds Universe
Super Power 2

No diplomacy but great RTS battles:
Wargame Red Dragon
Homeworld Remastered Edition

Starcraft 2, Civilization V, Age of Empires 2

There are not a whole lot of games out there like Knights of Honor. You've already ruled out Total War, and Lords of the Realm has been mentioned. How about Romance of the Three Kingdoms? Romance of the Three Kingdoms XI is available on Gamer's Gate.

tried xcom?
worms ultimate mayhem is pretty fun casual strategy game.
tower wars is actually pretty ok as a td.
personnally i love icewind dale but idk if ur kind of strategy game

well it's time i think after all this to start playing the paradox games CK2 and europa universalis :S
thank you for your answers :)

Going with whats been posted already and your responses.

The Endless titles (Endless Space and Endless Legend, with a minor nod to Dungeons of the Endless which more roguelike).
If you're into more turn-based strategy aswell then you may want to consider XCOM (or the Long War mod if you've already done Enemy Unknown/Enemy Within) aswell as XCOM 2 which'll release in a few weeks.

In line with Civilization and the Warlock franchise there's also Age of Wonders III.
You could have a look at Galactic Civilizations III

And if you're really looking to shake things up then perhaps something like Dwarf Fortress or Aurora 4X may be an option.
Though that depends on what kind of strategic planning you're into and what your demands are in terms of graphics and interface.