well, in my opinion try to test her feelings, take a break, don't talk to her for a while, i know it's difficult, but you have to suffer a little bit, and see what happend from her side:
-if she loves her colleague, you can do nothing about it, you have to move on, and try to meet some new people, a good girl who can love you aswell.
-if she loves you, so it's matter of time, she will quickly reconsider her feelings about you, and can give your relationship a try.
-if you decide to wait for her, after breaking or whatever with the other guy, for me, it's not a good decision, you will be always the 2nd choice, and when she find someone else she can leave you like the 1st time
i don't wanna be pesimistic, but in my opinion, try to avoid her for a while, make new friends, meet some girls, talk, go out, take some fun, enjoy the life. it will be hard at the begining, especialy when you are used to her, but after some time, you will find yourself stronger and ready for something REAL!
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Relationships are tricky, and you probably did nothing wrong. It's hard to tell without knowing the details, but you should probably not share too much of those online ;)
About one month ago she went out of a 5 years relationship with a girl and we started to get very close
People, both men and women, in this situation do often feel vulnerable and lonely. You were there when she needed it, and well, you were kind to her. It's very easy for someone in that situation to "fall" for someone who's kind to them. I'm sure a lot of us have similar story of someone who were kind to us at just the right moment, and we could not get our feeling straights.
So when you showed that you were interested in her, she might simply not have known how to respond, or she convinced herself that it was love that she was feeling, when all she really wanted was support. Emoticons are complicated, and we're often not great at really knowing what we feel. Or she might have really liked you, but liked her co-worker more. She might have had feelings for her co-worker before, but been afraid to show them. Really, there's no easy answer to this.There are any number of reasons for why this might have happened.
So don't blame yourself for what happened. Things like these happens quite often. And if you want to remain her friend, take a step back, give her some space, and then talk to her again a few weeks down the road. It sucks to be rejected, but it happens to the best of us.
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I've been struggling to write some wise advice, but I failed :D
If to put it shortly: you care about her, she doesn't (in the way you do). Probably saw you as a rebound. (Or what Fnord said (just above me) about feeling lonely). I'd suggest cutting off any contact with her. You'll be just waiting for an opportunity to be with her. And if it ever happens, she probably just ran out of other options. Do you want to be a backup plan?
And if you still want to be friends with her, I'd still recomend to take some time off.
It may sound rude and be not exactly what you want to hear. But believe me, it will get better. Even if you think she's the love of your life and you'll never find anyone better than her. It will get better.
But what do I know anyway? Just a random guy on the internet. So it's all up to you :)
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First, sorry to hear about your lady troubles.
Second, I had a similar problem once (friend to something more to nada) and it didn't work well out for me. While I wish you better luck, I will say that at the time I was quite depressed about the whole affair but as time has gone by and I was able to distance myself emotionally from the situation I have come to realize what a blessing in disguise the whole thing was: there would have been so many problems with us it's not even funny. It's easy for people to say someone's "a bitch" or "an asshole" and "forget about them" "you're better off without them".
And sometimes there's more truth to what our friends tell us than we realize.... I know firsthand that when you're close to things it can be very hard to listen to our friends and to think it'll be different with us or that they just don't see the whole picture. Probably true sometimes. My point is that I don't bear her any hard feelings, but I have come to realize that while we were great friends and had a lot in common as far as day-to-day things and interests, we were looking for very different things out of life and in the end I think we had to grow apart to get where we each needed to be.
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For me this does not sound like a perfect match. I would recommend not to put too many emotional feelings into this relationship. I might hurt now, but can protect you from bigger disappointments later.
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Wow, really sorry to hear tha bro.
Just have in mind you might feel that she's the one for you and there won't be a next one, but you are wrong, so do not rush into any rash decisions and fast relationships. Just wait for the special one and try not to get sad about the bi girl have in mind the life goes and and every day is full of possibilities :)
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Your only chance to be with her imho, is to stop trying to get her. Ppl often appreciate something only when they lose it.
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It's about feelings... Yes, damn feelings.
So I have this long term friendship with a bisexual girl. I always taught that she had a very tough character and that we would never work togheter.
About one month ago she went out of a 5 years relationship with a girl and we started to get very close, like hearing each other every day, chatting whenever we could and so on because she needed someone close to get her out of the pain. Point is that by becoming so close I started noticing some things about her that I liked of her and in the end I fell for her. At the beginning she brutally refused me saying that we were too friends to have a relationship and could never see me as her boyfriend. I did not gave up and insisted and finally she started to change her mind a little bit.
I managed to kiss her in two occasions (on the lips) and she changed her behaviour towards me. Last saturday we went out and had fun. I managed to kiss her twice (french kiss). Depite she was not convinced at the beginning, the she started to look after me and desire me, she looked well with me. The day after we talked about it and she didn't seem to regret it, she was even sweet with me.
Monday her work colleague declared himself to her and she started thinking that it might work with him, she asked me to forget her because she sees me only as a friend. I don't know what the fck happened.
Now dear SG community, I don't want to lose her. I really care too much but I don't know how to behave and what to do. Please share your opinions with me, and in case your suggestions.
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