A bit of both? I wouldn't like children or marriage until at least 35. Might not see it this way when I'm actually in a relationship, but life's about experience different things. Can never help but look with shock/slight horror at those people who've been in a relationship for 30+years since their teens (or those with children since too). But this is probably just down to my perspective on love. p:
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Eh, rather in a good relationship than single, rather single than in a bad relationship.
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+1. While most people wouldn't choose being single if they had the choice, being single is much more preferable than being in a bad and harmful relationship.
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Exactly! My younger sister is single and always complains about being single forever and we tell her the same thing. Don't ever settle for someone just for the sake of being in a relationship. You'll be happier alone than with someone who makes you miserable.
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I've ate all virgin princesses, so I dont have any candidate to marry :C
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Eh, my biggest fear in life is being alone. Since I'm single, I'm not too happy. I might find someone that I like and who likes me back, I might now. I try not to stress about it.
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Sharing my life with the mother of my daughter for over 6 years. I have no plans to ever get married... so I guess that makes me single?
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I thought you were nerdy, poor and nice 🤷
Wait, how rich are we talking? ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) 🤑
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single. trusting noone. every gender has disappointed me, so i wont trust anybody thus not even thinking about marriage
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Marriage is an awful lot of paperwork just for the opportunity to put on a pretty dress :/
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Single, but I won't say no to a hot guy, except the marriage part.
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i am married and we have 6 year old boy...playing minecraft and ark survival evolved with him is priceless...in this world i can say he is my best friend and love doing many stuff with him beside gaming...kids are not mean and dishonest and will never hurt you on purpose like almost all people in this world...including your familly...i respect every one choice but i do not understand people that says that they hate kids, or that rather will have dog than kids...
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I agree. I love the excitement with which my kids discover new things. They don't have malice in their actions and they say exactly what they think. It makes me wish grown ups could do the same. (Except maybe the toilet habits, I don't think the world would appreciate knowing that I just did a big poop)
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Well despite the fact I'm not even legally allowed to marry in my country atm, I definitely want to marry once I'm a bit older (or form a 'civil union' if Germany doesn't get it until then); Having a partner is wayyy better than sitting home lonely all the time.
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I prefer being single, dislike marriage, and I'm also antinatalist.
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this needs more dramatic options, like "marriage but planning to runaway with the toaster and fridge after the honeymoon"
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+1
Where is the classic option of, "wooing that would thoroughly woo her, wed her, and bed her, and rid the house of her! Come on."
Or my favorite, adult adoption.
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A few years back I made a list of 29 excellent reasons not to have a child. This helped me sort out my thoughts about the subject, as I was certain for many years that I don't want one, and I didn't.
I can say today, as a parent, that almost all reasons on that list are perfectly valid and that I wouldn't recommend to have a child unless you really want one. That's the only good reason, but if it ever hits you, don't feel obligated not to change your mind because you preached this decision to people. I'm glad I didn't let it play a factor in my decision.
I wrote in a recent thread that there's more than one way to be happy, and this I think is a great example. I'm sure I would still be happy as a child-free person, just a different kind of happy. No better, or worse, just different.
Bottom line: Everything you choose is valid, but don't feel like you painted yourself to a corner announcing this or that decision.
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there are two reasons i don't want kids. first, because i can't have them, and second... something else i don't want to post here.
but you're right, people can change their views any time. i always do it with small things, like "i won't dye my hair black" or the childish "i won't ever eat this *tantrum*". as long as you're happy, it's fine.
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I kinda wouldn't mind just dating someone for the rest of my life. The thought of commitment by legal terms scares me but I also don't believe in a relationship if you aren't faithful to your partner. I want to be able to love someone without having to sign any contracts. I want someone to stay with me because they chose me, not because "we got married xx years ago and I spent like $3000 on the wedding and everything so we have to stay together". I don't even want a ring tbh because I'm not a jewelry girl. I want that cute relationship where we can eat pizza together and be cute but I won't have to ever introduce you as my husband... just as my boyfriend...
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No kids. The world is already really hellish, and I personally don't want to put another generation through any worse if I can help it!
I have a girlfriend, but we will not ever get married. In this country (USA) there are restrictions with being disabled and being in a relationship. It is even harsher if you are married. There is a lot of censorship here too. Freedom is an illusion though. It is one's own mind that is truly free, and not what the system they are thrown into.
If you are sick in America, it is no longer the land of opportunity, unfortunately. Only rich people screwing poor people over.
Maybe it was in the 60's and 70's it was for a lot of people, but that dream died a while back.
Some Metal Music. Oh, it loops back at around 4:30 if anyone listens that long... best I could do ^
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What exactly are those restrictions about marriage for disabled people? It sounds ridiculous for a country that recently legalized gay marriage to still have this kind of segregation :/
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They just take away some of the base assistance money one would get if they are married to somebody not disabled. Also if both are disabled, they will lower one of the people's base amount, from what I recall. Can't find the exact documentation though right offhand.
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That's another excellent reason not to get married.
Other than the lack of the "married" (which granted many still care about), is there any downside to just being together without marriage? Works very well for me and my "partneress", and we do have a child.
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Yeah, if you're at the same residence, depending on the state, they can consider two people common-law married after certain time period. I guess if we both had different addresses, it could be a workaround, but as of right now, it looks like there will be some penalties to one or both of our little amounts we'll be getting (I still have a pending hearing coming up for my own, but I have about 12 or 13 qualifying conditions under disability). Maybe we can both figure something out though. There has to be some kinds of loopholes, so maybe some digging around once we both are at that point of being officially "disabled" can yield some sort of ideas... hopefully!
The state here put me on my girlfriend's case after I'd only been here about 4 days and applied! They said since we were at the same address we were going on the same file, and then they cut my benefits, compared to if I had my own "single" case. Really really shady stuff with state assistance.
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